"Mom, I told Yueyue, you said she stole a hairpin."
Girl was doing her homework. A sudden sentence suddenly made me feel ashamed. Talking to children at home is not as meticulous as I think. When saying "steal", in fact, what I want to express to the child is to secretly take away the things without the consent of others.
"Then what did she say to you?"
"She said nothing."
When I asked the second time, the child said, "She said she hated you."
Okay, it is normal to hate him when he heard others say that he was stealing something.
Later, the girl was doing her homework, and Yueyue came to her home to play with her again. I asked the girl at that time, "Didn't you say she hates me? Why did she come to my house?"
Niu replied calmly, "She came to me to play, but she was not looking for you."
I have to sigh that the girl's "separation of topics" is really done. is, others hate you, it is your subject and it has nothing to do with me.
Things start with a hairpin.
One day at noon, I was cooking, and Yueyue came to play at home. When she entered the door, I found that she had a hairpin on her head, exactly the same as the girl's. As for this hairpin, the color is very special, and the important thing is that it does not exist alone. Instead, the costume accessories, skirts and hairpins were the same when the girl dance performance last year.
I asked at that time: "Why is your hairpin exactly the same as the girl's? It's such a coincidence." Because I had a dress that was the same as before, I didn't find it strange.
, I was looking for the girl's hairpin in a while and found that it was missing. I just sorted out the dressing table that I just sorted out not long ago and I have put it into it, so I remember it very clearly.
So, I asked Yueyue where the issuing card came from. She said she picked it up, and said that the aunt in the corridor picked it up for her.
I said that the hairpin belongs to the girl because the traces repaired on it were my operation. She still insisted that the hairpin was picked up and asked me to find the skirt for her to show it.
After I found the skirt and showed it to her, she still said that she picked up the hairpin. I was busy cooking and thought it was a trivial matter, so I didn't say much, so I just passed it.
The reason why I mentioned it to my child at home is because Yueyue asked Niu to flip through the snack cabinet at home, and I met her. Afterwards, I reminded the girl to go to other people's houses to play, and not to rummage through other people's houses, nor to rummage through cabinets. Then I talked about stealing hairpins in advance.
When I heard Niu say that Yueyue hates me, I feel it is necessary to explain this matter to the child clearly so that the misunderstanding will deepen. So, at night, I asked Niu to call Yueyue at home to talk about this matter.
So, I explained something about this hairpin and asked her what she thought. She still said that hairpins were picked up.
At this time, I believed it. I said that maybe it was another child who came to play at home and took it out and lost it, and you picked it up. That's all for this matter.
As a result, the child suddenly added a story: When she went back that day, a very young girl asked her about the hairpin and said that the hairpin was hers. He also said that her brother knew about this.
After hearing this, I couldn't help laughing, feeling like "no silver here is three hundred taels". Later, I said that this is the case, and everyone should not be in any mood in the future.
I thought I could sort things out clearly, but the more I got more and more messy, I could only end up in a hurry.
The only thing that is certain is that the hairpin belongs to me, but who took it away?
result is actually not important to me. What I need to care about is my child, and make sure she is an honest person and correct her mistakes whenever she knows her mistakes.
Yueyue looks similar to Niu, but she is already in the fourth grade, while Niu is still in the first grade. I can't stop my child from making friends, so I can only remind her that when encountering things, you must have your own opinions, be clear about what should be done and what should not be done, and don't let others influence them.
Honesty is the basic principle of being a human being, and it is necessary to emphasize this point of view with your children from an early age.
I remember that my relative had a child. When he was in junior high school, he went to his aunt's house to play and secretly took the money from his aunt's bag. After a few times, this matter was confirmed. Later, when I went to another relative's house, the money at home was lost, and others suspected her.
So good things don’t go out, bad things spread thousands of miles away, and relatives know about this when chatting between relatives, and it is certain that the money from the relatives’ family was also stolen by this child.
So, relatives were wary of this child. Knowing that this child is going to go home, he will pack up all his belongings in advance and pay attention to the child's every move. Although I guessed it was worth it, I didn't say anything. In fact, all kinds of speculations have been shattered in my heart.
people all have stereotype , especially for character issues. The relative's child has started working now, and I wonder if she has reflected on and regretted it.
There is an old saying that people cannot stand in the world without loyalty and trust. If a person wants to be himself and achieve success, integrity is the foundation of his foothold. Children’s moral education is the cornerstone of education, so we parents must pay attention to it.
