Hi, here is Lin Xiaoqing. Today I share an interesting story about raising children~
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There is a little girl, Xixi. She has just entered the first grade and just wants to play happily every day.
. One day, she automatically ignored the matter of doing homework.
My mother didn't urge her at all, she just asked her if needs to be done? If you don't need it, just go out to play with her.
Xi and her mother went out to the streets all night. Before going to bed, Xixi was a little uneasy: Mom, I haven’t written my homework yet.
Mom said: That's your own business. If you don't write, make your own decision. If you don't want to write, don't write it. Let's tell a story to sleep.
The next day, Xixi went to school, but the teacher did not criticize her, but just told her gently that children who did not do their homework must do something:
Clean the old lady in the convenience store Shop;
3 clean the communication room for the guard;
picked up the garbage on the school playground;
picked out the recyclable bottles and cans in the trash can.
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This child Xixi said when she grew up: This morning has become her eternal "pain". Since that day, she never dared not to do her homework again.
Hand see this, some people may sigh: Wow, what kind of fairy teacher is this? Just this trick cures the meme of children not wanting to do their homework!
The story is not over yet. The protagonist is not the teacher, but the mother.
Xi Xi expressed her doubts to her mother when she went back that day. Didn’t she say that I would make the decision on my homework? Why did the teacher ask me to do so much work? So tired.
My first gently hugged Xixi, and then said to her:
Hand do homework is indeed our own business. Xixi has the right to choose to write or not, but correcting homework and teaching you to study is the teacher's business. If you don't do your homework, it will affect the teacher's work and the cooperative relationship between you. Do you have to bear the corresponding consequences?
Xi Xi said vaguely, it seems yes.
It was not until Xixi grew up that she slowly discovered that this pit was dug by her mother in advance, and that was not the teacher's operation at all.
It turned out that day, my mother took the initiative to contact the teacher and told the teacher not to criticize Xixi, and just let her do something.
The guard and the grandmother of the shop were also prepared in advance by the mother, so that they don’t feel sorry for each other, just let the child do it. The working places arranged by
are all around the teaching building and will not be discovered or ridiculed by classmates, protecting Xixi's self-esteem.
seems like a small "homework punishment", full of "routines".
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This is a heartwarming sharing I saw on Zhihu, from Xixi (pseudonym) himself.
's mother's influence on Xixi, using the sentence "She grew up very well", is not enough to describe her clever parenting method.
After reading this story, the first thing that comes to my mind is, isn’t this the educational concept of heartlessness advocated by Teacher Yin Jianli ?
arrange everything carefully, but don’t let the child be aware of it and let her bear the “natural consequences”. This is probably the most suitable method for children to educate.
"I believe that a child is a seedling, and silent education is the best for him." - Yin Jianli
The child has a natural confrontational mentality. The more he makes him do, the less he is willing to do it.
especially when it is 8 or 9 years old, and during puberty, it is more obvious.
As long as you learn this method and patiently apply it to all aspects of raising children, you will definitely reduce friction and disagreement between parents and children.
can also have a good parenting effect while increasing the parenting relationship.
I have tried many projects, such as how to cultivate interest in reading?
not let him read directly, but rely on his heart and temptation without any trace. After he takes the bait, he will use the "hunger method".
I want to read enough, but I won’t let you enjoy it. Over time, the child will be unable to stop reading.
don't believe it? You can try it~
How to "be attentive" when facing children and how to "no trace" when educating children, then it is a very meaningful thing. ——"Good Mom Better to Good Teacher"
Author introduction:
Lin Xiaoqing, a working mother, an early riser, insists on getting up at 4:00 for 2 years +, is improving herself through early riser, reading, and writing ~
