After my daughter went to junior high school, she became busy with her naked eyes and could feel her pressure: she had cried two or three times, and she took the initiative to ask me to ask her for a tutor. She urged me every day for the past two days: Mom, when will the tutor start?
I feel sorry for her. I have been playing happily in elementary school for six years and have not enrolled in any extracurricular tutoring classes. Now I have taken the initiative to ask for a teacher.
Seeing her busy every day, I felt distressed, and after 9 o'clock, I couldn't help but urge her: Baby, go to bed first, it doesn't matter if I can't finish my homework. Let's see how we can manage our time better in the future. Take your time, you can catch up.
So I bought several children's management books in one go and prepared to study time management well.
There were naturally a bunch of books at the door of get off work at night. I opened it in front of my daughter and handed it a book to her, so she also asked her to flip through it. My daughter took a look and said to me: Mom, do you think I can’t manage time?
I was stunned for a moment and said seriously: is not, I think I am not doing good enough time management, so I bought it to see it.
Study with my daughter again at night (before the tutoring started, I had to act as a "tutor" first). It was 9 o'clock again, and I urged my daughter to go to bed again, and I went to bed with me.
woke up on time at 4:30 in the morning and read a book, but it felt that it was not very valuable. When I was at work, I put another book called "Children's Time Management Training Manual" in my backpack (this book is very famous). After finishing my work in the morning, I started to read it, and then I came back from lunch. After I got up, I spent half an hour to read it. I basically realized that this book is of no value to me, so I won't waste my money and my bookcase. Return the goods decisively.
Now let’s complain:
First of all, my child will never accept “management” like me.
Look at this dense table. Such tables can be seen everywhere in this book. The details of "management" make me ashamed. What an obedient child that can meet so many requirements in the table!
I didn’t dare to let the child see it. I could think of whatever she wanted to say. I was afraid that she would say: You use so many grids in to control me. Are you putting me in prison?
My kid is born with a big idea and no one can care about her. She has always managed herself since she was a child. When she was in elementary school, she refused to attend extracurricular classes. She is still eager to ask for tutors, and she is the one who decides it herself.
Secondly, I admire the "creative" ability of the main creative team of this book.
Seeing this, do readers remember something?
As soon as I saw it, I immediately remembered "Mr. Tao Xingzhi's "Four Piles of Candy":
link ends are almost the same (mark the red line).
Again, I also admire the fact that this book is exactly the same as the four Rs in "Positive Discipline". After I read this book, I didn't see any reference articles or reference books. I can only say that the main creative team is too powerful and all the knowledge is completely original by myself.
Just finished reading Li Xiaolai 's "Take Time as Friend" by the way, Mr. Li Xiaolai is too pedantic. Half of the books explain the source of his sentence (for time management, I recommend reading what Li Xiaolai said, but this book by Li Xiaolai is not a book about time management).
Of course, I will never deny the value of this book. I even fully believe that the author really uses this method to "manage" the children, and some children may be suitable for this management.
So this book is completely applicable to some parents and some children, but it is definitely not suitable for me and my children. Because every child is different, and every child is also born, made mistakes and grew up because of the "method" of a certain expert.
Finally, let’s tell an old but true story.(Readers can search online)
There is a child with a very awesome mother. We are the ones who are called "Niu Ma". "Niu Ma" and "manage" the children will be accurate to minutes: how many minutes to wash their hands, eat, brush their teeth when they get up in the morning, and go out... The child is also very successful, and has been admitted to the most famous university in China and has become someone else's "Niu Babies".
After entering a prestigious school, "Niuwa" saw classmates in the same dormitory playing games. Oh my God, there are such fun things in the world, so "Niuwa" was out of control.
No student in the dormitory does not play games, but other students play games when they should play games, and when they should go to class, and when they should take exams, there is only "Niuwa", and games become his whole body.
The result can be imagined. After one semester, "Niuwa" failed every subject and was tragically persuaded to withdraw.
After returning home, there was a "niu kid" and was "managed" by "niu mom" in any way, so he was admitted to a prestigious school for the second time. But "Niuwa" repeated the same mistake and was persuaded to leave by the school again.
The "Niu Wa" who returned home for the second time was "managed" by "Niu Mom" again and was admitted to a prestigious school for the third time. As a result, this time the prestigious school refused to be enrolled: We don't want someone who can't manage ourselves.
How can you "manage" your child's time and life?
Everyone is an expert in their own life, including children. If parents want to be experts in their children, the risk is relatively high.
If you are confused about parenting, you are welcome to leave me a message or send me a private message and I will reply to you as soon as possible.
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