We parents all hope to cultivate our children to be grateful, kind, filial and humane. But many times, things always go against your wishes. The child’s behavior when he grows up often goes against what his parents think. However, the one who should reflect most at this time is t

We parents all hope to cultivate our children to be grateful, kind, filial, and humane. But many times, things always go against your wishes. The child’s behavior when he grows up often goes against what his parents think. However, the one who should reflect most at this time is the parents.

Because of parents' failure in education, it will greatly affect the child's personality. Most of the children who are cold and cold by nature are trained by their parents themselves after birth.

In fact, when a child is born, it is a piece of white paper. What color the parents paint on their children will become. As the saying goes, "At the age of three, when you are seven, when you are old." The child's personality can be seen from childhood, and Whether a child is a person with a cold nature can be explored when he is young.

Children who are "cold and weak by nature" have become very "striking" since childhood. It is still time to correct them as soon as possible

●Children like to look at anything too rationally

As parents, they often educate their children to be calm when encountering things and look at problems from a rational perspective. However, if a child treats everything with a rational attitude, it is dangerous.

Because this means that the child's emotions have disappeared. Simply put, the child has almost no emotions.

Children are too rational and lack emotional

I have a distant cousin. When he was a child, he had a good relationship with me, but when he was a child, I found that he was a little different from ordinary people. When he faced problems, he always treated them with a very calm attitude.

Originally I thought this was a responsibility as an elder brother, but later, I realized that the truth was not that way, but because my cousin weighed the pros and cons when dealing with everything and treated it rationally.

Does not care about the parents’ ideas

Cousin is the only son. When he grew up, his cousin’s parents were very much looking forward to his cousin getting married as soon as possible, having a noble son early, and passing on the family line for his family.

However, my cousin is keen on work and has no knowledge of marriage at all. You should know that in the minds of older parents, getting married and starting a family is very important. As the saying goes, there are three types of unfilial piety, and it is better to have no descendants. At this time, my cousin's "cold and weak" has already begun to show signs.

too materialized

Later, my cousin's father accidentally fell at the foot of the mountain while traveling in the suburbs. Unfortunately, his head just hit a raised stone on the ground, which resulted in brain bleeding. Due to inconvenient transportation in the suburbs, he was sent to the hospital for treatment half an hour later, but he was finally rescued.

However, he also suffered from head injury, which affected his athletic ability. It is difficult to take care of himself in life and needs to undergo continuous rehabilitation training.

Originally, as a son, my cousin should have been with her father wholeheartedly during this period, but after only seeing him once, I found that his father was out of danger of life, so I went to work again.

Of course, my cousin will still support his father financially and find a caregiver for his father, but he does not come to take care of his father in person.

Although the caregiver takes care of his father quite thoughtfully, his cousin’s father never feels happy. The neighbors and relatives around him are never willing to mention his cousin in front of him. If he has to mention it, it means that his cousin is successful in his career, earns a lot of money, etc. He never says that his cousin will not go home, and he may not even come back during the Chinese New Year.

Does not understand the impact of family affection

However, although everyone doesn’t say it, they all understand in their hearts that their cousin no longer has “emotions” and he treats his parents with a rational attitude. His cousin believes that there is no need to stay at home to take care of his father. The nurse is more professional than himself and can take good care of his father.

However, my cousin didn't know that the father's physical recovery requires not only material support, but also emotional help, and the company and care of his own son. These are not as expensive or good caregivers.

Therefore, children are very rational and beyond the norm when they are young, which is actually a manifestation of being cold and weak by nature.

●Children pursue serious selfishness

Speaking of being cold by nature, it reminds me of a certain people's livelihood program I saw before.

regards selfishness as the "normal"

The old man has one son and three daughters. Because his son is a young child, when the child is a child, both his parents and his sisters take good care of the youngest son.

However, this kind of life atmosphere has gradually made my son develop a selfish personality. From being flattered at the beginning to being taken for granted later, even after growing up, the son believes that everyone should treat him well, and thinks that this is natural.

Request as "just"

When the youngest son was about to get married, because his family was poor, the old father asked his three sisters to "contribute" some of them, and the three sisters also had an unhappy relationship with the family. After all, every family that showed " brother-supporting demon " would have some problems.

However, since it was shared by three people and the old father also paid a portion of the money, everyone was not under great pressure, and the youngest son got married smoothly. After

, the youngest son had more and more demands on his sister and his father, such as asking his elder sister to find a job for him, asking his second sister to buy a car for him, and asking his third sister to pay his mortgage for him. When his old father's old residence was demolished, he also asked his old father to give him all the three houses he paid for.

Don’t know how to be grateful

However, it is infuriating that the son, who obtained three demolition houses, was unwilling to support the elderly, but asked the elderly to take turns living in his sister’s house, because he had not achieved his career and was unable to take care of the elderly.

And the sisters can also be considered "understanding".

After a while, the old man didn't want to bother the three sisters, so he asked his younger son to live in one of the demolition houses. Originally, the youngest son lived in one house, and the remaining two houses were free, so there would be no impact on the elderly living in it, but the youngest son actually refused the elderly’s request and said that he had sold the remaining two houses.

No sense of responsibility

Such results are very difficult for both the elderly and the three sisters to accept. They originally thought he was the youngest, so they accommodated him everywhere, but now he has become an "obscene wolf". Not only does he take over the elderly's house, but he also refuses to take on the elderly's responsibility for supporting him, which is simply indignant.

In fact, it is not surprising that such a result has occurred, because people who have had a strong selfish mentality since childhood. No matter who believes in egoism treats him well, they will think it is natural. They will not be grateful or admit their help from others.

So, parents must pay attention. If they find that their children have these two manifestations, they need to intervene, so that their children can be more emotional and believe in emotions. It also allows children to know how to share and repay kindness. Only in this way can children grow into a person with a healthy mindset and correct concepts.

Have your child also had these two characteristics?

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