As the saying goes: Parents are the first teacher of their children . I recently visited a friend and accidentally saw his child staying at home. This is understandable. However, I found that the child seemed a little afraid of people. When I saw the guest visiting the house, I was so scared that I ran back to my room and hid and stopped coming out. No one dared to answer loudly when he asked questions.
Also, when eating, they eat silently, occasionally scolding them, The child is even more afraid of . This may have a lot to do with the family's educational concept. Next, the author will talk to you about the correct education issues of children.
. Try not to mention these 4 "mantras" of parents. Children are prone to inferiority, especially the last sentence
Children Every day with their parents , and most of the time they are almost with their parents, so they will be subtly affected by some good or bad. In their world, parents are right, and their attitude towards their children will determine their fate.
. "I don't want you at home"
This sentence seems to be a kind of repulsion for children. From a psychological point of view, this is the process of stripping young hearts from the stable warmth . In a sense, it is an extremely irresponsible attitude and it is useless; it is indeed angering for children to be disobedient, but it cannot be expressed in such a simple and straightforward manner.
Because Children's hearts are fragile . They did not intentionally make their parents angry, so they should analyze the specific issues of , understand them with reason, move them with emotions, and use reason to convince children to keep their promises and achieve the purpose of education.
. "The monster is coming, take you away"
This sentence is used to intimidate to make children reach an agreement on the premise of being afraid, fearful, and fearful. It seems very effective on the surface, but it does not know that it has brought great harm and pain to the child's heart.
They will succumb to reality for the sake of protecting themselves, and will not dare to express their true thoughts in their hearts, and dare not speak out. For parents, it seems that there is no valuable effect, and they can only be more and more troubled.
. "You're so stupid, what should you do in the future?"
The famous children's education expert Sukhomlinsky said that . Disgraceful education will not only not promote the progress of children, but will hinder their growth. For this reason, relevant experts pointed out that you must be careful of every word you have said, inspire children to think positively, and do not rush to achieve success or miss their own wonderful growth.
4. Other people's children are better than you
Malicious comparison psychology will cause great obstacles and burdens to children's growth. They will lose themselves invisibly, and will lose their self-confidence and self-esteem and self-love and self-respect, and over time they form a humble personality.
. What will happen if a child has a timid personality?
. Social disorder
Dare not to speak in public or express your thoughts . These are all manifestations of cowardice; the personality formed in childhood is not easy to correct in the day after tomorrow, so we must pay great attention to it.
. is bullied by others
Because is too weak, he shows very little confidence . People with ulterior motives will reject them when they see it. Over time, it will slowly become a new obstacle, which is not conducive to the physical and mental health of children.
. Fear of self-expression
Because is worried about saying the wrong thing and is not recognized by collectively , they often live in a low-key manner in the corner. Over time, they will feel that they are not as good as others, so don’t form a pleasing personality.
. How to make your child bolder?
. Patiently guide children to be responsible for one thing from beginning to end
Regain confidence in an independent thing, and over time, you will feel that you are a valuable person. The feeling of swimming in the world of self-confidence is really beautiful, so don’t be stingy with your praise, smile at your children, and let them feel the care and warmth from the family from the bottom of their hearts.
. Come on time to encourage
Children born timid need parents to give them more patience and concentration . They will shine with potential and strength when they encourage and trust love. This undoubtedly brings them more sense of security and belonging, and can also help children get out of the haze and experience extraordinary value and meaning of life.
. Puts effort into regulating the family atmosphere
The family environment of a harmonious society is also very important. The understanding of children requires sufficient preparation and courage to face everything . The days of companionship are warm time, and the mood of children really changes a lot. When parents understand psychological needs or real thoughts, children will feel relaxed and happy and will have better energy to deal with problems in their studies.
The author’s message: The formation of personality has innate factors , which will also have acquired influence; children are angels of a family, and it is very necessary to make them grow up healthily and happily. You should know that some of the defects in children's personality must be corrected and protected in a timely manner. In time, you will find that the children are growing up little by little. Believe that their children have unlimited potential, which is also a respect for ourselves. Let each of us find the highlights of life, and hope that every child can have a happy childhood.
