We all treat it as children. It is only after we grow up that we know how important the parents’ family education is. When we see some heartbreaking social phenomena of children , we will understand that their parents may not do well in some aspects.
Aunt Zhang is a retired employee of a state-owned enterprise and has a daughter with her husband. In that era, it was normal for only children. The couple raised their daughter with great difficulty, and their lives were very comfortable.
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Because they only have one daughter, the couple put all their enthusiasm on their daughter. They basically put their clothes and food to their mouths. They agreed to everything with full permission, which also led to the daughter developing a more indulgent personality . Sometimes the daughter would say something too much, but both couples think that the child is still young and it will be fine when they grow up.
But after Aunt Zhang's daughter grew up and retired, the problem gradually became exposed. Aunt Zhang is a person who is more outspoken, and she has devoted a lot of enthusiasm and hard work to her daughter. Therefore, as her daughter grows up, she is more and more worried about her, which makes her daughter feel that Aunt Zhang is very annoyed, and from time to time, she gets angry with Aunt Zhang.
The sudden death of Aunt Zhang's husband afterwards caused a huge conflict in the family, because Aunt Zhang is a person who likes to play cards very much and has a loud voice. Aunt Zhang's daughter feels that her mother cares too much about her, and it is because she goes to play cards and ignores the care of her father, which causes her father to suddenly leave and is also very resentful to Aunt Zhang. Usually, the mother and daughter cannot say a few words all day long, and Aunt Zhang also has trouble saying this.
Just last month, Their conflict reached its peak . Aunt Zhang's daughter had a new boyfriend and wanted to live with her boyfriend. However, Aunt Zhang felt that girls should take care of themselves before getting married. However, Aunt Zhang's daughter felt that her mother had too many relationships with her and did not want him to interfere, which caused a lot of disputes. Her daughter also left, leaving Aunt Zhang wiped her tears at home
Later, Aunt Zhang's daughter also brought her husband back when she got married and lived with Aunt Zhang. The three of them looked up under the same roof and didn't see each other. However, Aunt Zhang's daughter was still very cold in her attitude towards Aunt Zhang. Aunt Zhang's son-in-law was very enthusiastic and wanted to be a harmonic at home, but it never worked.
After Aunt Zhang's daughter gave birth to a child, Aunt Zhang's mood reached its peak because she wanted to handle the relationship with her daughter well. Why was she a person who liked singing in the past, but because of the pharyngitis , she stopped singing later and lost a lot of fun in life. She just wanted to help her daughter take care of her children. on the one hand also reduced the burden on her daughter so that she could work well. On the other hand, she wanted to enjoy the joy of family during her retirement period, but her daughter refused harshly.
Because the house in this unit in the family had already been in the early days, and it was equivalent to Aunt Zhang. In fact, there was no house. Her daughter sent Aunt Zhang to a nursing home to live on the grounds that the family was too small and she could not live there. This news instantly made Aunt Zhang feel bolt from the blue.
The biggest reason is that when they were educating their children, they did not know how to communicate with their children and responded to their requests, which led to their children losing their sense of gratitude. Instead, they knew everything and only knew how to ask for it. If they didn't give it, they would feel that their parents owe them
The story ended us. must let the children feel love , and let her understand that although love does not ask for rewards, it needs to respond to what has been hard work on both parties. Such love is normal and long-term love.
As a parent, you don’t have to communicate with your children in the tone of an experienced person. Unless it is principled, regarding the issue of right and wrong, we can guide and correct his actions as parents, so that the children's thoughts and practices can be put on the right track. But usually, we can communicate with children as friends, and walk into their hearts, so that children can hide their hearts and talk to us
At the same time, when children encounter difficulties, they know how to use the right method to guide them to solve problems, rather than blindly helping and giving, which is conducive to children developing an independent and sound personality. At the same time, at any time, do not deny a child, as this will make them very inferior
Summary: The old saying goes, "The sheep have the grace of kneeling down to breastfeed, and the crow has the meaning of feeding back." What about people? A child is an angel who falls into the world. How to educate him and make him a warm and close person to his parents actually depends largely on how his parents get along. Create a harmonious and happy family atmosphere, everyone has love, why worry about not having the warmth of the lights of thousands of homes for thousands of years?
