If your child has a good temper, but suddenly becomes emotionally unstable and furious, it means that the child’s emotions need to be expressed. Parents must pay attention to it. The child is seeking help from you.
In fact, children do not have emotions for no reason. Even if they lose their temper, they are expressing their emotions to the outside world. In fact, they are also seeking a way to help them find ways to solve these bad emotions.
At this time, they are understood and listened to, which means that the child’s heart is satisfied. But if parents use the same violent method to try to stop the child, the child will feel deeply frustrated.
Especially for some younger children, their brain prefrontal lobes are not yet mature and they cannot control their emotions. Therefore, most children at this time will have out-of-control behaviors. Therefore, parents should know how to maintain their children's frustration, rather than just criticize and hurt them.
In addition, the reason why children's emotional out of control is also related to their expression ability.
They want to say it, but they can't explain it clearly. So they stamp their feet and cry, and use the method of hitting people and throwing things to attract attention. If the mother loses her temper at this time, she will miss the signal the child sends to you. It might be just that the child wants to say I want to pee, and he is very anxious.
actually. For children, the reason why they lose their temper is really just that they cannot accurately convey the most original manifestation of describing their feelings.
Therefore, when the child is angry and loses his temper, parents may as well give their children some face. And try to let the child say it out. Slowly guide the children to say what they want to say.
As parents, you must understand that children can lose their temper with us is actually the best time for us to enter their hearts. This also shows that the child trusts you and knows that she can get an effective response to your temper. But if we cannot understand and deal with our children for a long time, we will miss the children’s recognition of us and let them completely close our hearts.
And we will be completely unable to understand the fear, tension, desire and helplessness of children. These will also be completely buried and become a child's heart disease. Those children who were unable to show off their own self when they were young would not be able to release their glory when they were adults, and they would also live their lives in a relatively depressing manner.
Love is a practice. Tolerating a child’s bad temper is also a practice. I hope we can all have the virtue of raising children well, accompanying and helping children grow up physically and mentally.
Finally, I would like to remind parents that children should not take their temper seriously if they lose their temper. Help their children deal with their emotions well, and their children will benefit for life.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
