The great writer Lu Xun once said: The most terrifying thing in marriage is not cheating or domestic violence, but... accompanying you! baby! Write! do! Industry!
This is not an exaggeration. Before I had a child, I never expected that such a small matter of doing homework would become the biggest stumbling block in the parent-child relationship.
After Tudou went to elementary school, he stared at his kids to do his homework late at night. The child does not finish his homework and his parents cannot sleep.
The scene in this photo happened at 12 o'clock in the evening
But I also know that I am not the only one who suffers. I watched a show before, and the child in it stood on the stage and complained in public that his mother beat her for doing homework:
As a result, the old mother below was also very disappointed, saying, "I don't want to do it either, but what can I do?"
Colleague Xiao Y has been in the middle class of kindergarten, and now in the second grade, she is either urging her baby to do her homework or on the way to do her homework.
, a girl who was originally gentle and gentle, is now directly roaring at level 10. Even because of her anxiety and frustration, there is a problem with thyroid .
We all thought this problem was unsolvable. As a while ago, she announced to us excitedly: "I am finally liberated! I found a secret to doing homework, and it is effective for personal tests!"
Then she sent a set of pictures, which turned out to be "How to do homework with your children" compiled by the People's Daily, which explained the reasons and methodology thoroughly. Since
is effective in personal testing, it is worth sharing and giving you a reference. I hope this secret can help you avoid trouble.
After all:
Learn tens of millions of items, the first item of health;
cannot write properly, parents are too tired.
Why do children do homework slowly
My friend's kid just entered the first grade this year. I thought that the little homework assigned by the school could be solved in ten minutes, but I didn't expect it to take more than one to complete.
She told me in disbelief, I can’t figure out why he is so slow!
In fact, sometimes it is not that the baby is slow, because it is not good at getting used to it or has a lot of interference. If you don’t believe it, let’s take a look. Have your child stepped on these pitfalls when doing his homework:
1. Not focused, looking around,
. This is what the old mother who accompanied her child to do her homework has experienced:
When she did her homework, she was playing with the rubber, biting her fingers, writing for a while, then getting up and strolling around, drinking water and having snacks, anyway, everything looks good and fun, except homework.
2. I like to use eraser
In psychology, this phenomenon is called "error syndrome". It is especially easy for children in lower grades to do this: the words written by
are a little untidy, so they erase and rewritten, and sometimes even scratch the notebook, and then spend more time trying to make up for it.
3. The learning foundation is poor, and I am not interested in learning
itself has a poor foundation. The teacher does not understand what he said in class, so it is naturally very difficult to do homework. In this situation, homework becomes a real "chore", and it is difficult for children to take the initiative to complete it.
4. I didn’t make a good plan, and I did the questions in sequence. I did the questions in no order. I wrote a few Chinese questions at a time, and then did math questions. I wrote a few strokes in each paper, but I didn’t finish each one.
5. There are many extra homework, deliberately procrastinating
"procrastinating" is not only laziness, but also another reason is that parents add extra homework to their children, and children use this form to negatively resist.
Children will think, anyway, you will arrange it for me after I finish writing, so it is better to write it slower. At the beginning, I consciously procrastinate, and over time, I develop a habit.
6. Instinctively resist, parents' education is too strict
Everyone likes the feeling of self-control. When parents' words are too strict, the information received by the child's brain is: being ordered and controlled. Then the first information output by the brain is "rejection", not "action".
is like a thing we originally wanted to do, but if someone asks you to do it at this time, our mentality will become rebellious and we don’t want to do it.
7. Poor coordination, can be done as soon as you say it, but you can be wrong as soon as you write
. All the questions in the homework can be answered correctly, but they are well written, often mistaken, missed, skipped, and even serialized. Very inefficient.
8. Afraid of difficulties: Not confident enough
Many questions are not difficult, but children lack patience to read long questions. They often feel that they can’t do it and it’s difficult after reading them once. Always give yourself negative psychological hints.
, which of you belong to?
Find the reason, the next step is to prescribe the right medicine. Regarding helping children improve the quality and efficiency of homework, People's Daily has also shared 12 small methods. I have summarized it into the following three aspects, which are simple and easy to use.
Preparation before doing homework
A. Create a "study small world"
Children's concentration is already worse than adults. "study small world" is to create a relatively quiet and independent learning environment for children. When children do their homework, remember not to walk back and forth.
Send fruits, nonono, will interrupt the child's thinking and state;
Playing with your mobile phone, nonono, the child's mind is all about sneaking into your mobile phone.
You can sit next to you with the previous book and do your homework. We also take the opportunity to recharge.
B. Prepare "Homework Plan Book"
According to the child's learning plan and work schedule, according to different subjects, record the homework to be completed every day in pieces, remind and compare in time, remember it if it is completed easily ✔, otherwise, remember O and adjust the subsequent study schedule.
I think this is not only to prevent the missed homework that needs to be written, but also a good habit to cultivate children's orderliness. In daily life, many people often suffer from misfortunes, causing a lot of trouble.
Good memory is not as good as bad pen tips. Cultivate good habits of being organized since childhood, sort out what you need in advance, and check it out at any time, which can avoid most carelessness.
In fact, this is also a long-term record. Every time a child completes, let the child check it himself, and the child looks back over time, and he will definitely feel a sense of accomplishment.
C, make good use of small alarm clock
The child is still young and has no clear concept of time. I don’t know how long it takes 5 minutes or 10 minutes. At this time, we can use the alarm clock to urge children to do their homework, which is conducive to children completing their homework quickly and effectively.
In this process, we can also give the right to the child for a fixed time. If he can complete it earlier than the time specified by himself, we can give appropriate rewards.
At the same time, we can also set a deadline for completing homework. If the child has not finished writing it, he will no longer write it. If you do your homework in the future, your child will naturally complete it quickly.
However, this is a "hard trick", we have to depend on the situation.
The little helper for homework
D. Treat homework as an exam
Children usually have the concept of exams in the second grade, and we can guide children to develop a sense of seriousness in exams in their daily homework.
Before assignment, formulate the "exam" rules and the child completes the homework as required. And make an agreement with your child that after completing the "exam", you can do what you want. You can also correct wrong questions with your child through "Search".
E. Change the wording and attitude
Sometimes, when we accompany our children to do their homework, we feel anxious when we see that they are very slow and we can't help but urge the children to "write quickly, don't be slow", or frown, sigh, kick our eyes, etc.
, especially rebellious children, will be very sensitive. These negative emotions will set a negative tone for children and increase their tension when doing their homework.
If you think your child is slow, you can use this instead: "Doing homework is your own business. If you can't complete it today, your study plan will increase tomorrow."
guides your child to realize the importance and bear the consequences of his own behavior.
F. Learning to "pretend to be stupid" and "show weakness"
The principle is especially applicable to children in lower grades and is one of the effective means of stimulating interest in learning. The sense of accomplishment of "I understand more than you" will make children feel that learning is very useful.
G. Decompose the big homework into small goals
Before teaching children to do homework: put the written homework in front, and read aloud, recite and other contents interspersed in the middle. writing and memorization alternately, which will not easily cause children to feel tired.
At the same time, we should also arrange rest time reasonably according to the child's academic burden, so that the child can change his thinking from different subjects. During the rest period, we can prepare some water, milk, fruit, etc. for the child to give certain encouragement.
Reply after finishing homework
H. Prepare an error correction book
Each academic master has a wrong question set. Don’t forget to write down the wrong questions after finishing homework.
Write down the questions that you will not do for the time being and those you did wrongly. When encountering similar questions in the future, children will be more proficient in answering them, which will not only save time, but also improve efficiency.
Here I also provide a detailed steps to produce a set of wrong questions for your reference:
【1】Copy all the wrong questions in homework, exercises, and exams in the notebook, leaving the error file.
【2】Let the child carefully check the wrong place, use a red pen and then underline the wrong line.
【3】Find out the reason and state it, is it because it is not understood the meaning of the question, or is it because of the calculation. (If you are careless, you cannot just write the word "careless". You must clearly mark it. Should you misread the symbol, see the plus sign as a minus sign, or see 5 as an 8, the more specific the better.)
[4] Finally, write the correct answer again by doing the wrong question.
The advantage of doing this is that the child is very impressed by the right and wrong places, and he will consciously avoid it the second time. In addition, the wrong question set is still a good review material . You can look through the wrong question set before the exam.
In addition, say more encouragement words and pay more attention to how children solve the problem. Paying attention to these "small victories" will give children the enthusiasm to challenge difficulties. When correcting errors, you might as well say to your child: " I bet that if you check it again, there will definitely be a different answer to ".
Every time I do my homework, Tudou looks unwilling. I thought to myself, I don’t want to do your homework with you. I can feel so angry that my liver hurts when I do my homework.
Later someone advised me to forget it, and I would be liberated until my child goes to junior high school and high school. Because at that time, we couldn't understand the child's homework.
Hello, I am Li Diandian, 5-year-old daughter Tomato and 9-year-old son Tudou, who is good at recording the daily life of the second child with comics and text, and share hard-core learning resources and trustworthy and in-depth parenting information.
