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In the past, when I was in school, the sayings about filial piety in the textbooks were that it was not easy for parents to raise children. As children, you must be filial to your parents and let your parents live a peaceful old age. The most beautiful inheritance in life is that I raise you to grow old, and I raise you to grow old, which is also the meaning of having children.
However, in recent years, a argument has been circulating on the Internet: when you are old, you cannot expect your children to support you. Parents who expect your children to support you are selfish and will only put a burden on their children. Therefore, when some parents express their idea of relying on their children when they are old, they can always attract strong criticism from such people, and then they can speak righteously and say how great they are, they are more selfless.
I don’t know if such parents teach their children like this in reality, or if they only display it on the Internet with a keyboard. But I think if in reality, parents often say to their children: "We don't expect you to support themselves in the future, just take good care of yourself." I think that if such parents cannot raise a responsible child, they will be very miserable in their later years. Parents who think like this seem great, but are actually stupid.
Parents raise their children, and it is always the responsibility of their children to take care of their children.
Many parents complain every day that they will not rely on their children to support their children in the future, and they feel that they are great. So he told the child that I gave birth to you and raised you not rely on your elderly care. You can live your own life well in the future.
The child grew up under such education. He will feel that all his efforts are justified by his parents, and he does not understand his responsibilities and obligations at all, nor does he feel grateful. He will be at ease with his parents, and even take pride in leveraging his parents. If parents have strong financial strength, it is understandable that they can let their children eat for the rest of their lives. However, if parents have limited financial conditions but encourage their children to rely on their parents, and when they are not allowed to ate, the children will regard their parents as enemies.
In this case, if the child is null and cannot bear his own responsibilities, and he can't even take care of his own life. How can his parents live a peaceful life when they are old?
Moreover, a person does not even have gratitude for the parents who have given birth to him, and does not want to repay him. How cold is this person? It is really scary to have a little more empathy towards strangers who are not related to blood.
The meaning of having a child is not only to accompany the child, but also to me to raise you to grow up. The inheritance of your support for me to grow up.
As a mother, I also like to agree with this passage, what is the purpose of giving birth? In order to participate in the growth of a life, you don’t have to compete for me, you don’t have to pass on the family line for me, and you don’t have to help me with my old age. I just need this life to exist, walk in this beautiful world, and give me the opportunity to walk with her (him) for a while..."
Yes, parents bring their children to the world without their children's consent in order to participate in the growth of this life. But since people come to this world, they have their responsibilities and obligations. Parents participate in their children's growth and teach their children to understand their responsibilities and obligations.
And now they are arrogant and say that in the future, most of them are still young parents, or young people who have not given birth to children. When they are really old, parents need their children, even if they are considered as Don’t expect your children’s material care, but also your children’s spiritual care. The latter is often more important. No matter how much money you have in your later years, it’s better to be filial to your children.
It’s one thing that parents don’t want to add burden to their children, but children still have to take responsibility when they need it.
[Topic discussion: Do you expect them to support their children? ]
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