01 The magic of mobile phones, I can’t love you,
Why does mobile phones have such great magic? Let’s quote the opinions of celebrities here!
How do we take away people’s time and energy? We just take advantage of the weaknesses of human psychology.
and then put a little bit of dopamine .
—Sean Parker, Facebook founder and former president
What exactly did I develop?
Whenever I snatch the iPad from my kids, they become very emotional and can't do anything all day.
—Tony Fadell, Silicon Valley elite, has made outstanding contributions to iPad research and development
What is more surprising is:
Apple founder Steve Jobs once strictly restricted his children to use mobile phones, iPads and other electronic products.
Bill Gates prohibits your children from using their mobile phones before they turn 14.
The words and deeds of these technical tycoons undoubtedly prove the possible negative impact of electronic products such as mobile phones and iPads.
In fact, electronic products represented by mobile phones are like a new type of coffee. Once we are unaware of it, we are likely to be trapped in the torrent of information, drifting with the flow, being in a daze, and being difficult to break free. The culprit that causes this state is not others, but ourselves.
From the perspective of human evolution , we love new things and we long to get instant rewards from unpredictable challenges. At this time, dopamine will be secreted in the body, constantly reminding you: Look, but don’t miss any good things!
So, under this psychological hint, we are so eager for mobile phones that when various APP message reminders sound, we always want to check it out and pick up our mobile phone to confirm. When our attention is repeatedly attracted by our mobile phones, ideas such as "This thing looks good and worth buying", "How many people on social platforms like me", "This matter has made new progress" emerge one after another, and precious time sneaked away.
And for children, they are more likely to become addicted to mobile phones. This is because the brain system that children control impulsive emotions has not yet matured, and the secretion of dopamine is particularly strong. Mobile phones can inspire brain reward systems and allow children to get instant satisfaction and happiness, which leads to their dependence and addiction to mobile phones.
02 Mobile phone, I want to say it’s not easy to love you
Sweden once conducted a large-scale survey, the topic was people’s Internet usage habits. The survey results are not optimistic: digital products have had a serious negative impact on children's lives. A series of numbers is shocking: one quarter of children under
1 are using the Internet; more than half of children over
2 are using the Internet every day; almost all children around
7 are using the mobile phone, and more than half are surfing the Internet every day; among children aged
11, 98 of them have their own mobile phones;
0 teenagers use their mobile phones per day is 3 to 4 hours.
The results of the survey on the use of digital products in the UK and the United States on young children and adolescents are also worrying. This common phenomenon is enough to alert us.
Now, look back and look around us. There are many cases of children and teenagers using mobile phones, iPads and other electronic products.I have seen more than once:
In buses, restaurants and other occasions, parents quickly handed their phones to their children to comfort their crying children, making them addicted to cartoons and mini-games, and the world instantly became clear;
Under the motivation of "parenting anxiety", parents bought one online class after another, and the children could easily learn various courses on their iPad without leaving home;
...
To be honest, I was once one of these parents!
When I was woken up by my phone late at night, my numb brain was also awakened: So it was the phone that was playing us? ! Not only are you playing, adults, but also children? !
Let’s take a look at the negative impact of electronic products such as mobile phones on children!
One: Excessive use of electronic products will reduce children's learning ability.
research found that when learning electronic products such as mobile phones and iPads, the brain needs to spend more energy to resist the attraction of these electronic products themselves, such as the satisfaction you can get by clicking on social platform information, news and other clicks, which leads to a decline in children's learning ability.
Second: Excessive use of electronic products will degrade children's self-control.
Once you get used to the instant satisfaction brought by electronic products such as mobile phones, this feeling will make it increasingly difficult for children to accept delayed satisfaction, and this ability to delayed satisfaction is precious self-control. Research shows that children with strong self-control can calm down and learn and improve themselves, and are willing to be long-termists, and they are often more likely to succeed when they grow up.
Third: Excessive use of electronic products will make children's sleep worse.
A survey of sleep habits targeting 700,000 children in 20 countries showed that children's sleep time was reduced by 10 years ago. A survey by Norwegian shows that the longer adolescents use electronic products, the higher the probability of sleep disorder . The bright light on the mobile phone screen and the stress and anxiety caused by online comparison will make it difficult for people to fall asleep.
From this point of view, can we still ignore children's excessive use of electronic products such as mobile phones?
03 Mobile phone, keeping a distance can produce beauty
I once read from an article in "Reader":
Mobile phones, books, careers, etc. are all media, the key is how to affect our hearts. If the behavior of using the medium makes people feel distracted, it will bring uneasiness; if the behavior of using the medium makes people concentrate, it will bring joy. It’s like a snowball. The more uneasy you are, the more uneasy you are, and the more joy you are, the more joy you are!
agrees deeply.
In the digital age, it is impossible for each of us to eliminate the use of electronic products such as mobile phones. It is undeniable that these electronic products provide a lot of convenience for our lives. Careful friends can also notice that when I discuss the negative impact of mobile phones on children, there is an important prerequisite: overuse!
When we are enjoying the convenience of electronic products such as mobile phones, we must also be wary of their negative effects and avoid becoming slaves to them. We indulge in the virtual world, thus ignoring the close connection with real life, and then fall into the quagmire of stupidity, stress, anxiety and depression.
mobile phone, keep a distance to create beauty! For children, there are two good suggestions:
First, adults should set an example for their children. Adults should get rid of the behavioral habits of mobile phone nanny. They should not simply leave the child to solve the problem when he cries, but instead adopt a more rational and patient response method. In addition, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, and the power of role models is infinite. Children are good at imitating adult behavior. If you want your child to put down your phone, adults must do it first!
The second is not to bring your phone into the classroom! From the root cause, the impact of quitting mobile phones on learning ability is strictly prohibited from bringing mobile phones into the classroom. In daily life, you must also make good plans. You can give priority to exercise, making friends, doing homework, etc., and strictly limit the time to use your mobile phone every day. Children under 8 years old should be within 1 hour, while children over 8 years old should be within 2 hours.
The above suggestions are from the new book "Mobile Brain".The book also provides many practical suggestions for quitting mobile phones for adults.
"Mobile Brain" is published by Beijing United Publishing Company and is published by Houlang Publishing Consulting (Beijing) Co., Ltd. The author of this book is Swedish scholar Anders Hansen, who carefully provides a guide to quitting mobile phones by giving people good sleep, good mood and good brain power.
This mobile phone user manual is worth reading and thinking about it for everyone. Ratching a mobile phone is just the first step, and then what? Only by precepts can one be calm, only by concentration can one produce wisdom, and only by wisdom can one be at peace. As long as you settle your heart, you will be fine.
If you don’t want to be played by your mobile phone again, just learn from your mistakes! Only awareness can lead to action!
