If you want your child to grow up like a towering tree, approaching the sun step by step, parents cannot just see its thick trunks rising from the ground and its strong branches blooming, but also see how the thousands of tree roots buried deep into the ground and the sun are not visible to the sun, bite the earth and make the most solid foundation.
As the saying goes: How tall the tree is, how deep the roots are.
It is this tree root buried deep in the ground that absorbs nutrients from the dark places to nurture the tree trunks. If the trunk is compared to the goodness of human nature, then the evil of human nature is the evil of human nature. The mind should learn how to resist and reflect on itself from evil things.
In the process of educating children, guiding to good is just as important as taking evil as a warning.
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Children need " bottom line education "
Recently, they have seen too many news about "minor crimes" on the Internet. They contradict their parents and elders at home and bully their classmates at school. What they have lost is not only the kindness of goodness, but also the bottom line of doing evil.
The "small evil" of children is easily mistaken for parents as "naughty nature", but nature is divided into good and evil. Once "evil thoughts" leak out, you must tell them in time that this is evil, this is something that must not be done, and then reverse their ideas.
We always encourage our children: "You must become something in the future", but we forgot to tell them: "You must not become something in the future". When parents set an example for their children, they should not forget to give their children the bottom line.
Especially now, the conditions for family life and education are better, and children are spoiled and raised with wealth. Under the protection of parents, they have fewer opportunities to get in touch with "evil", so they have less understanding of the bottom line of these character, and they are more susceptible to the temptation of "evil" in society, thus going astray and doing something wrong.
It is not difficult to find that many social news broke out that the family conditions of teenagers with bad habits are not bad, and they can even be regarded as "rich second generation". And after the child is discovered, the first reaction of the parents is: "Impossible, my child is not like this, he has never done these things."
That's right, they can't do such things under the eyes of parents, which makes them more curious about what it feels like to do these things that "never mentioned".
So before the child is tempted by the "evil thoughts" from the outside world, parents should not reject their children's "evil" curiosity. This is an opportunity to clarify the bottom line and set the bottom line, so that they know that it is not scary to do something wrong. What is scary is that they do not realize that it is wrong.
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Children need to be open-minded about "wrong"
At the age when they need to clarify the concept of right and wrong the most, don't be afraid of them making "small mistakes", let alone talk about "wrong".
Many parents dare not talk to their children about "wrong" and have the following concerns:
First, "Will this hurt the children's feelings?" When a child does something wrong, if the parents' first reaction is only to blame, the child's relationship will of course be hurt. The correct way is: First, parents should distinguish whether their children did the wrong thing on purpose or unintentionally.
If it is intentional, then the accusation is certain, but the encouragement after the accusation should not be ignored. Parents should express their attitude of believing that their children will correct it, which is also giving the child the courage to correct it;
If the child is unintentional, guidance is more important than accusation. If the child does not realize the harm of this matter, parents can patiently take him to look at this issue from other angles, such as whether the person who is beaten by him will suffer, and then tell him the consequences of this matter. If his good friend is beaten like this, he may not be willing to play with him in the future. Only when he realizes that mistakes are hurtful can he not make mistakes again.
The second is "If he is sensible, he will naturally distinguish right from wrong." . I wonder if parents have never told their children that this is a very serious "thing". Where do children understand it? Want to make a bigger mistake from the next time?
Parents should not always blame the school for their education issues. The school mainly carries out education in their children's knowledge. Parents are the person in charge of their children's spiritual education.
If the parent does not be the first person to be responsible for establishing correct values for his children, it is equivalent to putting a piece of white paper on the road. Anyone passing by can use a stroke to draw two strokes, which is equivalent to giving the child's right to be educated and guided to any person he meets in his life.
A bad student in the senior year may tell him what you like and rob other students of the class; a stranger may tell him whoever you dislike you will spread rumors... Anyone with bad intentions can apply unwipeable stains on this white paper. By then, it will be too late for parents to correct everything.
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Although the roots of the tree are buried deep in the ground, they are just to absorb more nutrients. At the same time, they must have the hard bark as the bottom line to protect themselves, refuse to be rotten, and then thrive towards a brighter place.
If the tree roots do not have deep roots and soil, the higher the tree grows, the more dangerous it will be, and it will be blown to the ground as soon as the wind and rain come. Just like a person without a bottom line, the more he is doing well on the surface, the more he falls into pieces when the tall buildings collapse.
A healthy and positive growth environment must allow children to distinguish right from wrong, actively enjoy the sunshine of goodness, and actively resist evil as a warning. The more proactive the child is when he is in the ability to distinguish right from wrong and choose right or wrong, the more he can reflect the success of the parents in education.
