Hello everyone, I am a mother of two children and am currently taking care of my children at home. The children all went to school and were at home alone. I write articles occasionally, and everyone is welcome to appreciate them.
When people reach middle age, how cruel is life? What is the most important thing in life? What do you know about the cruel marriage? Today I will tell you a true story about my friend, and I hope it will inspire you.
My friend Xiao Huang (nickname), she is 35 years old this year, and she is actually less than middle-aged, but the inner world of a person is actually inconsistent with her actual age. Just like some people may be 80 years old, but their mentality is still like a 30-year-old girl. Some people may be in their 30s, but their mentality age may be 50/60 years old, which is no exaggeration.
In fact, life is a cycle problem. It is either a vicious cycle or a high-quality cycle. Then the quality of the cycle depends on you and me.
My friend, after graduating from college, did not find an ideal job. In her words, it's just a waste of time every day.
Later she got married, got married far away, and had her own children.
Her mother-in-law cannot help her take care of the children due to physical reasons. So she also focused on looking at the children throughout the whole process.
The most unrecognized profession in this world is probably a full-time mother.
Her husband gives her 1,000 yuan of living expenses every month. Oh my God, in the city, 1,000 yuan a month, how can I do it, but there is no way, life is not easy to live with a palm upward.
In addition to being physical and distance-related, there is another important reason why her parents-in-law cannot take care of their children, which is that she has not given birth to a son. They were eager for their grandson, but they completely ignored her feelings. No one has asked her if she had a baby, and if she was tired after raising her baby alone in recent years. They only know that in the past few years, she did nothing but see the child and could not give birth to a son!
Oh my God, isn’t it cruel!
So, what exactly does marriage give to women? We obviously go to get married with the mentality of being a family, but what about the end? You will find that this world has always been a world of interests. My friend didn't have a son, which was "useless" for their in-laws. No one feels sorry for crying and crying for justice.
Later, my friend found me and I asked her, why don’t you get divorced?
"I have a child with me, and I have no source of income, and my mother's family can't go." Alas, marrying far away is destined to be a big gamble. In fact, it is a bet to marry far away. If you win the bet, you will win the second half of your life. If you lose the bet, you will lose the second half of your life.
"Men are afraid of entering the wrong career, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man" is true at all.
Later, my friend's child went to kindergarten, and her in-laws were eager to urge her to have a second child, and she was eager to have a son.
She is going to find a job because she really doesn't want to live that kind of life with a palm upward position.
"Is it okay to be 7 o'clock at night?" "It's far away from home", "not enough education", "no allow picking up and dropping off children", "No one takes care of the children" and other problems trapped her. She did not find a job, so she naturally wanted a second child.
Sure enough, women are wrong as long as they are idle for a while! When a child starts kindergarten, he must find a job immediately. When a child is young, he must quit his job; if he cannot find a job, he will naturally have to have a second and third child!
No one cares whether you have recovered after giving birth, no one cares who cooks the meals your child eats, who washes the clothes...
is it cruel? But no matter how cruel we are, we cannot admit defeat. We must live with backbone!
Actually, I am also a second child mother. I always tell myself that I want to listen to my inner voice, and I don’t want to listen to the outside world’s requirements and evaluations of me.
Sometimes, the reason why we suffer is because we care too much about other people’s evaluation and opinions of us.
Others say, you have to go to work, do you have to go to work? Others say that you have to have a son, do you have to have a son? Who is the one who decides your life? Not yourself? If you live well, no one envies you. If you live badly, no one can bear it for you!
In fact, sometimes we really feel open-minded and no longer worry about it, we will be much happier.
For my friend, I think it is her responsibility to take care of her because she has children, and it cannot be a complete excuse for not working. In fact, the achievements you will win in the end are the most proud of if you educate a child well. Some people have made money, but they can't save a penny in a few years, but their children have not been well educated; but some people may not earn much money, but at least they can have enough food and food. The key is to cultivate their children and educate them very well. It's a completely different outcome for the child's future.
So while taking good care of the children, you can try to make money by using the Internet. Now that the self-media industry is emerging, even if you don’t make much money, and you will not be too down and lose money.
People live just a mentality. People with a good attitude can live a good life whether they work or not. People with a bad attitude may feel unhappy and unhappy even if they have a lot of money.
There is a word called "disease is born from the heart". The more we worry, over time, our bodies will sense it and may become sick. And when we are more optimistic, our bodies will sense it and will become healthier. So, be open-minded in everything, be optimistic and work hard, come on and be yourself!
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