"If the teacher doesn't care, I will call the police."
This is the first message I received this morning.
I started to think it was a security issue, which scared me.
carefully looked at the WeChat screenshots and gradually learned what happened.
It turned out that two children had a falling out because of 500 yuan. The children themselves were nothing, but the two parents blamed each other in the WeChat group. In the end, it turned into abusive, and after the abuse, it was fruitless, so you had to call the police. What exactly is going on
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Two middle school students, one is called Xiaokang and the other is called Xiaozheng. They are classmates and they are not particularly good at it. But during the epidemic, I kept contacting me on my mobile phone and chatting enthusiastically.
In September this year, school officially resumed.
The two met and felt particularly intimate and became a good friend.
Because these two children don’t like to study very much, they talk about games together, sharing props and game strategies. There are endless topics to talk about every day.
Later, Xiaokang's mobile phone broke, there was no play, no mobile phone, and it was impossible to buy online. So I entrusted Xiao Zheng to buy it for him. At the beginning, I gave Xiao Zheng 500 yuan, and used 300 yuan to buy a mobile phone, and prepared to buy headphones with the additional money.
Xiaozheng spent some money and said it was not enough. Xiaokang gave Xiaozheng another 300 yuan, wanting to buy a better headphone.
, but for a week, Xiao Zheng has not bought it.
Xiaokang told his parents about the matter, and the beginning scene appeared, from online debt collection to mutual abuse, the conflict between the two children turned into a conflict between the two families.
If you do not stop it in time, under impulse, the two families don’t know what to do?
This matter is worth our deep thought.
First of all, what should parents do on the road to educating their children?
completely let go?
According to the survey, a parent fully trusts his children. Starting from the sixth grade, he adopts the educational method of managing his own children.
is understandable. This is an educational method worthy of praise. However, any educational method is not omnipotent. Whether it has an effect depends on the quality of the child himself.
. This child happens to be not the kind of very self-conscious child. At the same time, the child is only eleven or twelve years old after all, so how can he have such good self-discipline?
So, since then, the child, who was originally pretty good, not only did his grades plummet, but his words and deeds gradually became frivolous, because his parents had completely given the initiative to himself.
When I asked about the source of the money this time, I kept saying that this is not the money of my parents, but my own money, and the New Year’s money for the New Year. I asked him how much money he had? He said it wasn't much, it was just a few thousand yuan.
A 13-year-old child has so much money around him. If he doesn’t have to be on the right path, will the consequences be worrying?
This time I am buying mobile phones and headphones, what about the next time?
, Xiaozheng comes from a single-parent family, and the child almost never sees his father all day long. When I was sleeping, my father did not go home, and when I was in school, my father and children went to bed. I basically took a ignorant attitude towards my children.
Even the child himself said, "I don't know if my father has money. Anyway, I will definitely not buy the tutoring materials for me."
Do the child do homework when he goes home? Do you admit it seriously when studying in school? It seems that it is not the parents' business.
So, the teacher hardly reads WeChat, so there is no way to reply.
Parents' meeting never attends and never cares about their children's situation in school.
It can be speculated that if the parents don’t know about the child’s mobile phone, or if they know or they don’t care or can’t?
We don’t know. What we know is that parents do not pay attention to the situation when children play games for a long time. Instead, they think that the teacher is meddling in other people’s business and the teacher is targeting the children.
I really want to ask parents when they will pay attention to the danger of being addicted to the Internet.
So , I think that when it comes to children's education, letting go is the right choice.
In other words, what should be managed must be managed. The child is young.The society is tempting and the environment is of varying quality. Children cannot tell clearly what is right? What are wrong?
Sometimes, even if you know that something is wrong, the temptation is huge. Without the control of parents, it is easy to go on the evil path.
The growth of children requires the company of their parents. It is not a stick or a control. Instead, it starts from the love in the heart, has a clear understanding, moderate expectations, and has principles and bottom-line education.
Secondly, when there is a problem with the child, how should parents do ?
A child will inevitably encounter some conflicts during his growth, especially among classmates, small fights are common.
So, when there is a conflict in the child, what should parents do?
Did parents use the problem as a breakthrough in education and reflect on it?
Or should I stand on my own standpoint, unilaterally trust my children, and then fight against the other party in my own way?
Generally speaking, rational parents will deal with this matter in a low-key manner.
Because, after all, the child is still in the same school and everyone will have to get along with each other in the future, then parents will definitely not show off their courage and create an uncontrollable situation.
can sometimes be solved, but sometimes it cannot be solved, and even causes immeasurable consequences due to a small matter.
I once remembered that a vocational school student had a conflict with his classmates at school and fought hard, and both sides were injured.
On the way home of the parents, a boy, 17 years old, had another conflict with his mother because of his mother's complaints.
As the car was driving on the bridge, my mother stopped the car, not knowing whether it was anger or something else, so she opened the car door.
At this moment, the child rushed out of the car and jumped directly from the bridge without thinking.
A young life will always stop at this moment! No matter how my mother shouts or regrets, he will never hear it.
So, Family education is an art and a research topic for every parent throughout their life. Only by putting love first, taking children's growth to heart, and starting from themselves. Learn to look at problems rationally, analyze problems, set a good example for children, and become a guide for children.
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On the road to growth, there are not only children, but also parents, walking with each other and promoting each other. On both sides of the road, "Love is on the left and love is on the right. We sow seeds at any time and bloom at any time."
