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Recently, Lele's mother and Grandma Lele have some small differences. Lele's mother wants to gradually sleep with the child in separate rooms, but when it comes to sleeping with the child in separate rooms, the child is noisy. Grandma feels very distressed when she looks at it. She always feels sorry for her granddaughter when she talks about sleeping with the child, and she can't continue to sleep with the child. She has a parenting conflict with the elderly, which makes Lele's mother exhausted.
Nowadays, many mothers in the community are taking care of their children and sleeping in separate rooms with their children. Lele's mother and kindergarten teachers have also discussed whether to let their children sleep independently. In fact, the teachers say that it is necessary to let their children sleep independently. There are still many benefits of sleeping in separate rooms. When children can sleep in separate rooms, the children will have a great sense of accomplishment, and at the same time, it also improves the children's self-awareness.
In fact, some parents are worried that letting their children sleep on their own too early will make their children feel insecure. In fact, sleeping in separate rooms is conducive to cultivating a sense of security in kindergarten. When children start to sleep independently, their instinct will take care of themselves. We are worried that children may catch a cold when kicking the quilt, and their instinct will adjust themselves. Moreover, if children know that they sleep independently, they will not go to find their mothers and fathers. This state will instead cultivate their sense of security.
So it is very necessary to let your children sleep in separate rooms. Although it will be very difficult at the beginning, sleeping in separate rooms is as uncomfortable as weaning. Some children dare not dare because they are afraid of the darkness, and some children agree to change their minds, which eventually turns to repeated work every few days, and they always fail to sleep in separate rooms. We must carry out the activity of sleeping in separate rooms in a step-by-step manner to help children sleep independently in separate rooms.
First of all, there are steps to sleep in separate rooms. We should not put our children in our house toughly. It is very repulsive and difficult for children to adapt. This way, as parents, we will also increase the difficulty of doing this work. If we don’t handle it well, it will also cause psychological harm to the children. We can do this in three parts: “dividing the nest”, “dividing the bed” and “dividing the room”.
- sub-bedroom: When we are preparing to let our children sleep in separate rooms, we can sleep in different sub-bedrooms first in the same room, with a separate excessive amount.
- Bedding: When we can sleep in separate beds, we can go to the next step to sleep in separate beds. We can provide a small bed for the children in the bedroom to lay the foundation for the next step of separate beds.
- Sub-room: Sleeping in separate rooms is the last step. After the first two steps are successfully completed, we can cultivate the habit of sleeping independently.
In fact, when sleeping in separate rooms, we should also pay attention to . It is special matters that the child is uncomfortable. When we are sick, we can allow the child to sleep for one night. These are helpful for the child to sleep by himself and have a good parent-child relationship.
Of course, many parents will encounter such a problem, that is, many children are afraid of the darkness, and parents will consider whether to give their children a light to sleep. First of all, it is completely undesirable to turn on the light to sleep, because artificial lights will produce a kind of light pressure, which will exist for a long time and will make the children restless. Therefore, we must not develop the habit of turning on the light to sleep for the children. In the early stage, there can be an excessive problem. If the children are too afraid of the darkness, we can adjust the light to the children dimly in the early stages of their sleep. When the children gradually fall asleep, we can turn off the desk lamp or room, and slowly the children will develop the feeling of turning off the lights alone and sleeping.
Of course, in addition to some things we need to pay attention to on the lighting, there are also many good ways to sleep independently. We can use it, which is very necessary for children to develop independent and good sleep habits.
1. Play games before bed, increase feelings
6St. Joseph University, Hong Kong Chinese University and Hong Kong National University , and National University of Singapore , researchers surveyed 10,085 mothers of 0--5-year-old children in 14 countries and found that routine bedtime activities are related to children's better sleep conditions.
The bedtime activities here can include parent-child stories, body massage, sleep songs, etc. We can help children choose these. When playing bedtime games, we should try to focus on quiet games to avoid the game stimulating the child's nerves and making the child too excited and unable to fall asleep. When the quiet game is over, we can end the bedtime game tonight with kisses and let the child fall asleep peacefully.
2. Decorate your own small bed
When letting your child sleep by himself, we can decorate our room and decorate our small bed with the child. When the child feels involved, he will be more familiar and more looking forward to making the child more willing to do this. For example, the color of the sheets and quilt covers can be made to let the child choose, and the pillows and dolls to sleep with the sleeping pillows and dolls, etc. When we respect the child’s choice, the child will be more proud, and his heart is full of happiness, and he will be more willing to fall asleep with the baby he likes.
3. Open a door
In fact, at the beginning, we don’t have to completely close the door to the child. We can open a door because many children will become uncomfortable in the early stages and will be afraid that our parents will mistakenly think that their children are insecure. In fact, it is the child’s discomfort in the new room and new sleep state. We can open a door to give children a sense of security psychologically. There seems to be no change, but it will bring great psychological comfort to the child.
4. Encourage and praise
Children will definitely be disgusted in the early stage of sleeping in separate rooms, or the children will run to their parents in the middle of the night. What we need to do is to gently carry the children back to their room and leave after sleeping. We all know that it only takes 21 days to develop a habit. As long as we have clear goals and persistence, we will help children develop a good plan for sleeping in separate rooms. At the same time, when the children do it, encouragement and praise are very necessary. It seems simple for adults. It is indeed a big step in children's growth and a milestone on the road to children's growth. We must encourage and praise them.
In fact, after the child gradually successfully sleeps independently, we spend less and less time with the child intimately. What we try to do is to take time to communicate with the child more and make the child feel safe. Sleeping independently is not to make the child independent from the arms of his parents, but to become a man with courage. We must be proud and applaud the child.
Of course, there will definitely be many difficulties in this process. What we need to do is to help children establish independence step by step and help children complete spiritual "weaning". The child's awareness of autonomy and independence are trained bit by bit in these things. We must pay attention to and cherish opportunities in life. These small things in life will also have a positive effect on children's healthy growth.
