Introduction: Speaking of " resident ", I believe most people are familiar with it. It usually means that young people do not support themselves, but rely on their parents to support their lives.
This phenomenon has become a very common phenomenon in today's society. Many elderly people work hard to raise their children, just hoping to enjoy the joy of family in their later years. However, young people not only cannot be filial, but have become the biggest burden in their families.
1. The emergence of "new hijacking family"
The problem of "tribbling tyrants" has not been solved, and a group of people have become "new tyrants".
is different from traditional dependents. The new dependents do not blatantly extend their hands to the elderly. Usually, they will use very reasonable and decent reasons, such as using the reason of "preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination or taking the public exam", or using the excuse of "entrepreneurship" to ask parents to provide them with services and funding. Parents of any family hope that their children will have a better future. At this time, they will often make willing efforts, and even feel that their children are very motivated and willing to study.
But in essence, these two types of leniency are to escape work and labor, and the new type of leniency is also deceptive, which is more serious in nature.
2. "New type of leniency" will cause endless troubles
Among the new type of leniency, the two most common excuses are: one is "learning" and the other is "entrepreneurship".
Most of the students who use learning as the reason are students who have never found a suitable job after graduating from college. They actually have no interest in learning and have never carefully planned their future. They just want to deal with their parents' nagging and tell their parents that they want to take the civil service exam or take the postgraduate entrance examination. Through this method, they can not only escape the difficulties of reality, but also feel at ease with their parents at home.
In some wealthy families, new types of leniency people who use "entrepreneurship" as an excuse often appear. They are unwilling to engage in ordinary jobs, but they have no social experience. They just rely on the so-called "dream" imagined in their minds to keep investing in paying for their unreliable entrepreneurial ideals.
3. Only by being cruel and "weaning" can we stop "living the parents"
Writer salad said in " Very cruel and love ": " Chinese parents give their children not too little, but too much. Because they can't bear to have children in their childhood It is difficult to test the difficulties of life, and it is not known to ask them for the right time. It eventually leads to their hardships for life and demands from their parents for the rest of their lives. ”
Children who have been held in their hands will never learn what responsibility is, what responsibility is, what gratitude is, and what independence is. Parents can protect their children for a while, but they cannot protect them for a lifetime. The love that parents give their children should be forbearance and restraint, not spoiling and indulging, so When it is time to "wean", you must be "weaned" and when it is time to "ruthless".
"Children and grandchildren have their own blessings." They have their own way to go, and one day they all need to leave their parents and face the ups and downs and displaced life alone.
At this time, we need to "retreat" to cut off the child's "dependence", cut off the "umbilical cord" between us and the child, and love ourselves well.
Conclusion: Only in this way can they move from naivety and dependence to independence and maturity, and to truly independent people in society.
