In the past, I really didn’t understand where the brain circuits of children around ten years old were short-circuited. How could they do such crazy and stupid things? Why couldn’t they just be normal people? After reading a novel written by a veterinarian about a bad boy who was

Before, I really didn’t understand where the brain circuits of children around ten years old were short-circuited. How could they do those crazy and stupid behaviors? Why couldn’t they just be normal people?

After reading a novel written by a veterinarian about a delinquent boy who was dropped out of school for a long vacation because of beating someone, I discovered that those so-called "bad behaviors" such as being rebellious, unsociable, and opposing adults are just disguised The appearance of being an enemy of the world.

However, adults are often deceived by these disguised behaviors and ignore their soft inner needs.

This book is called "Dylan's Long Vacation". This veterinarian who can write is called Jill Lewis. She has loved animals since she was a child. When she grew up, she became a veterinarian as she wished. She has traveled to many parts of the world, from the ice of the Arctic to the deserts of Africa, looking for interesting animals and different species. scenery.

After becoming a mother, Jill Lewis began writing children's books. Her first novel, Sky Hawk, received great acclaim upon publication and has been translated into more than twenty languages. She later published "Eagle in the Sky", "White Dolphin", "Ibis", "Moon Bear", "Gorilla Dawn", etc., all of which won numerous awards.

How does it feel to read a novel written by a veterinarian?

The text is simple but contains power. It does not have chicken soup but is rich in nutrients. The whole article positively describes Dylan as a bad boy, but I can't read his badness. However, the author does not praise Dylan positively, but he is deeply moved by this child through the text.

In the eyes of adults, Dylan should be regarded as an out-and-out bad boy. He was rebellious, fought, dropped out of school, and showed no regrets. After being expelled from school, his mother forcibly took Dylan to his grandfather in the countryside. 's home. He refused to communicate with adults, he refused to set foot on campus again, he was even cold and ruthless, and he had all the behaviors of a bad boy in our impression.

In Dylan's heart, because he could not control his emotions, he took actions that he regretted. He left his familiar life circle and came to his unfamiliar grandfather's house. He was scared because he was confused about the way forward. , he was even more angry and disappointed because he never felt understood, and he felt lonely and helpless.

Such a "problem boy" gave the injured swan love and care so that it could smoothly return to nature; he was also such a "problem boy" who showed bravery beyond adults when his grandfather was dying. His determination and fearlessness in strong winds and waves allowed my grandfather to receive timely medical treatment; not only that, he also worked with the residents of the town to protect the Swan Field from being destroyed by unscrupulous developers.

This bad boy is so kind! Isn't it? But has he become kind, or is he always so kind?

Dylan’s badness is just a thorn in his side to protect himself. After he and his grandfather went to sea for the first time, on the vast sea, after Dylan felt the kindness, tolerance and complete trust from his grandfather, he tried to reconcile with his heart. At this time, he was willing to slowly put away his thorns. , showing the real him.

The so-called problem child may not be as good as we imagine, but it is certainly not as bad as we imagine. We only saw the bad behavior he showed. Because we wanted him to be good, we only thought about how to correct him and how to make him better, but we ignored the little heart hidden behind the bad behavior that urgently needs to be understood. heart.

simply and crudely characterizes children's behavior as "bad behavior" or "adolescent rebellion" without analyzing the underlying reasons. Punishing or controlling children based on their appearance is equivalent to directly prescribing medicine to patients without asking the cause. Only when parents understand their children deeply can they truly and effectively deal with their children's "bad behavior" and "adolescent rebellion."

Your child is eager to be seen by you. If you don't know how to "see" your child, you might as well watch "Dylan's Vacation" with your child.

Finally, I will excerpt two paragraphs that I like very much from the book to end.

"The so-called courage is knowing that you are afraid and still moving forward."

"You have to learn to accept the things that cannot be changed, but must have the courage to change the things that you can change."