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I was chatting with a mother in the community a few days ago. The mother said that her daughter is 15 years old and has not done any housework. She has not even washed the dishes. Her underwear is still wet. I washed it for her myself.
I couldn’t believe it. What if she went to school outside? The mother said: "There is nothing to worry about. There will be a washing machine and a roommate when the time comes. If it is not possible, I will accompany you to study. I just don't want my daughter to do housework. Parents who love their children have a far-reaching plan and do not let their daughter do housework. The purpose is to never do housework in the future, so as not to work as a nanny in the husband's house after getting married.
After listening to this mother's words, I was shocked by her views. And when I browsed the web, I found that many mothers with daughters have this. This idea is to not let my daughter do housework, and she will not do housework in the future, so as not to become a nanny. Oh my God, is this the so-called wealthy daughter? Mothers are just laying the groundwork for their daughters.
Girls must live independently regardless of whether they are married or not. Doing housework is the instinct of human survival.
If parents can guarantee that they can serve their daughters throughout their lives, then it doesn’t matter how they raise their daughters. She is a loser, her parents have her back anyway, and she must not let her get married. After all, no one is short of ancestors.
You must know that girls and boys always have to live independently away from their parents, especially when they go to college. Many of them leave their hometown. When I go to college, I don’t know anything. Not only do I have trouble getting along with my roommates, but my own life becomes a problem in the future. I don’t even know basic survival skills, so how can I live independently?
Let your child learn to do housework and learn basic life skills from an early age. Then no matter where she goes in the future, whether she is married or not, she will have the ability to settle down and live well independently.
My child must be able to do housework and live well. That’s what I asked for. It has nothing to do with family conditions, but basic survival skills. I saw someone saying that her daughter just didn’t do housework and had a nanny to do it. It reminded me of how a wealthy businessman family educated his daughter in and Balzac . : The wife requires her daughters to be good at sewing and cooking so that they can point out the shortcomings of clothes and dishes expertly. Therefore, those who truly love their daughters will consider their quality of life instead of blindly adhering to their faults.
In this life, three poor and three rich will not grow old. Princess disease and princess life are never the same thing. In history, there are many real princesses who are in despair.
Life is not static, and people have to have it. The ability to adapt to life. You don't have to do it, but you have to know it. This is the most basic survival skill. No one can guarantee whether the future will be good or bad.
Marriage is the responsibility of two young people to form a new family. Housework
Marriage is an important turning point in life, when two young people form a new family. When you form a new family, you have to take responsibility and share the joys and sorrows. If you are afraid that your daughter will suffer, don't let her get married. Love is mutual, and housework is also mutual.
The most responsible mother is to teach her daughter to do housework, clean the room, know how to cook, and bring her good family tradition to her husband's family. This will all happen in the future. The foundation of establishing oneself in the husband's family. The most direct thing is that you can live a good life without your parents. Only by doing this can you be qualified to get married. No matter how rich and powerful the groom's family is, they don't want to marry a fake princess who has nothing to do with sex and keep her at home.
Regardless of men or women, they must be down-to-earth in their conduct and life. Whether they are "princess" or "young master", parents must teach them the most basic survival skills and correct outlook on life. It seems that pampering now will harm others in the future. After all, they will have to walk their own path in the future.How many of those families with erroneous views can be harmonious?
Do you think so?
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