It is said that a child's personality is inherited, either from his father or his mother.
There is another saying that whoever takes care of more children has a personality similar to that of the other person. Even if it is a nanny or someone else in the family who takes care of the children, over time, you will find that their shadow can be found in the children. What is the reason?
We all know that there are many types of personality, and everyone likes to use these words to describe a person's personality. For example, irritable, gentle, impatient, chronic.
Some people can face big things calmly and calmly; some people can get furious over trivial things.
The impact of personality on a person's life is so important!
Why does the child have the same personality as who brings more?
I have a friend. His mother has a rather impatient personality, which is what we call impatient. But his father is completely opposite to his mother. He can be very calm even if the sky falls, and he is usually more humorous. But my friend’s personality is very much like his mother’s. She is very impatient. She has told him a lot not to be so impatient, but he just can’t do it. Because my mother took care of me a lot since I was a child, and I am closer to my mother, my personality is very similar to my mother’s.
His mother is now almost seventy years old and suffers from hypertension , and my friend has also inherited this disease. I have to say that whoever a child is close to when they are young will have a more similar personality. This is the case with my friend. There are many similar cases around us, especially if there are more than two children in the family. Whoever takes care of the child more will have a similar personality. Even if the nanny takes care of the child more, the personality of the child will be affected to a certain extent.
The influence of brain mirror neurons on children
We humans are emotional animals, and our emotions and personalities are easily affected by the people around us. That is because everyone has mirror neurons at work in their brains. Mirror neurons are like a mirror. Whatever we see, our words and deeds are easily affected by it without even realizing it.
is mainly reflected in speech and behavior, and over time it is slowly internalized and turned into personality.
Actions are greater than words vs. Words are greater than actions
Are actions greater than words or words greater than actions? There is no doubt that actions speak louder than words.
Especially when children are young, they look more to what their parents do rather than what their parents say. What kind of personality you want your child to have, you must first achieve it in your life.
For example, if you hope that your child will not lose his temper every time, but you get angry every day because of little things, then your child will learn to use losing his temper to solve problems. If you deal with things patiently and calmly when encountering them, your children will also learn the skills to be patient and solve problems from your actions.
Children are born educators, and their learning ability is super strong. If parents are caring, it will be easy to cultivate a child with good character and personality.
A child's personality is generally finalized around the age of six. The period before six years old is a critical period for personality formation. However, many parents think that their children are still young and do not know how to educate them, causing many children to miss this important period of character development.
Too busy at work, please hire a nanny to take care of your children?
Many parents have to ask nannies to help take care of their children due to work reasons. Here are two questions that parents need to ponder:
First, can the emotional connection of nannies replace parents in the process of interacting with children?
This problem does exist. I have a friend who has a nanny who takes the child from birth to kindergarten. After the child goes to kindergarten, he no longer needs a nanny. However, on those days when the nanny left, the child cried profusely and clamored for his aunt every day. . Because before the age of three, the aunt played, ate, and slept with him almost every day. In the child's heart, the relationship with his aunt has surpassed that of his parents.
Another phenomenon is that some nannies do not understand children, let alone how to interact with them. They just let the children eat and sleep well every day. There is not much emotional interaction between the child and the nanny. Therefore, the child's personality begins to change. Become introverted, talkative, and unable to communicate. Over the long term and over several years, the impact on a child's personality cannot be ignored.
Secondly, is it good or bad for children to change nannies frequently?
There are many families in our community who hire nannies to take care of their children. Some have five or six nannies a year. It is difficult for the children to adapt to one nanny, but a new nanny has to be replaced due to various reasons. The children cry and refuse to come near the new aunt, and the parents Also very helpless.
Let alone children, it takes a long time for us adults to meet a new friend, from stranger to familiarity, and then to trust. It is not easy for children, not to mention that nannies have to be close to each other every day. child exposure. Changing nannies frequently can do more harm than good to the child's personality. First, the relationship is not stable, which makes the child feel insecure. Second, the interaction mode, nannies with different personalities and living habits have different effects on the child. In short, it is easy for children to develop a distrust of people, or be prone to anxiety or a very sensitive character.
No matter how busy parents are, there is no reason why they cannot accompany their children, because children only grow up once and will never do it again. If you miss it, you will miss it.
A famous Austrian psychologist once said: "Happy people use their childhood to heal their lives, while unhappy people use their lives to heal their childhood."
Many mental illnesses in adults can almost all be traced back to their childhood. Find many clues that affect their psychology and behavior. Once some beliefs and personalities are formed, it is difficult to change.
Babies raised by parents are either like their father or their mother; babies raised by grandparents are the same; babies raised by nannies are affected by many uncertain factors. For a child, no one can take care of him as well as his parents, because parents are the initial source of security in his life and the key to the formation of a child's character.
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