In 2022, the college entrance examination is over.
As expected, we will soon be able to see top academics from various provinces and cities.
In my impression, every year’s college entrance examination top achievers, whether they are from a poor family or a high-achieving cow, they all have one thing in common:
they have a strong learning drive and do not need excessive parental supervision. Very good study habits.
In short, these academic masters are very self-disciplined.
However, most families have an "unconscious" child.
procrastinates in writing homework and memorizes, and has no habit of conscious study at all.
Parents either use "buy this or buy that" to coax their children to learn, or they force their children to learn by explaining the truth carefully, or they have no time to watch their children learn...
Such children, once there is no supervision, coercion and inducement from their parents, , it’s easy to indulge yourself.
Over time, children become accustomed to laziness and procrastination, and gradually become lazy!
Bad habits are deeply ingrained, and if you want to correct them, you will have to spend thousands of times more energy, and it may even be difficult to change.
Cultivating good habits from an early age is the key to children’s self-discipline and excellence in the future.
I have heard this passage from a mother who is a top student:
"Children must first develop mechanical habits. Habits give children a sense of accomplishment. Only when they have a sense of accomplishment can they talk about the importance of self-discipline, and then the children will listen. Understand.
In this way, a positive cycle of "good habits - sense of accomplishment - self-discipline - strengthening of good habits - more sense of accomplishment" will be formed.
The child will feel the gain and appreciation brought by self-discipline, which will encourage him to continue. Self-discipline, getting better and better .
On the contrary, if the child cannot gain a sense of achievement due to a long-term lack of good habits, the child will get used to his "falling behind" situation and even give up on himself.
Throughout the primary school period, the prefrontal lobe of the brain of children is basically the same. They are all immature and have very weak self-control..
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Prefrontal cortex (yellow)
Therefore, being too lazy to think, procrastinating, and not wanting to do homework is laziness. The nature of a child.
But at the same time, this period of is also a critical period for children's behavioral habits, personality development, and learning, and is extremely malleable.
If parents actively cultivate the habit of guiding their children, they can help their children overcome inertia and develop self-discipline, and the future will be much easier.
Just as Mr. Ye Shengtao said: The essence of education is to cultivate habits.
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Develop regular living habits
The living habits developed since childhood will follow a person’s life of.
I know a doctor of psychology from Chinese Academy of Sciences . He said that his mother had asked him to go to bed early and get up early since he was a child.
You must go to bed before 10 o'clock in the evening, get up before 8 o'clock in the morning, and then have breakfast.
365 days a year, he can't even think about sleeping in. His mother will definitely wake him up for breakfast.
His mother said: "Eat well in the morning so that you can be full of energy for the day."
In the past, he always felt that his mother was very annoying. If he wanted to read two more lines of books or play one more game of chess at night, he would be driven to bed by her mother.
But later, when he went to college and saw that his classmates had reversed day and night and chaotic schedules, but he could still go to bed early and get up early, studying and living in an orderly manner, he suddenly felt that his mother was extremely wise.
A regular life can keep people clear-headed, upbeat and healthy, and can also form a good sense of time.
Therefore, parents should take care of their children from an early age and start from themselves to develop good and regular living habits.
Have a regular schedule, eat three meals on time, dress neatly, keep the room clean, and put things back in their place after use.
At the same time, don’t do everything for yourself, teach your children how to do housework and master more life skills.
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Maintain the habit of focusing on work
What widens the gap between children is not performance, but concentration. .
Good concentration is the basic condition for memory, thinking, and learning. It is also one of the most core conditions that affects a child's life and future.
In fact, children are born with concentration, but long-lasting concentration requires scientific guidance from parents.
Indiana University in the United States once conducted an experiment on children's concentration, which was divided into two groups:
One group of parents actively participated in guiding their children to play with toys, while the other group of parents only provided appropriate interaction when the children needed it.
The result is that in the group whose parents actively participated, the children were always unable to focus on the toys; while in the group whose parents did not interfere too much, the children were more focused.
If you want to cultivate the habit of lasting concentration in your children, you must remember: Never disturb your children unless you are invited by them.
Many times, we say that children are half-hearted because they have too many choices and unclear concepts of time.
In daily life, parents can deliberately train their children to concentrate on doing only one thing within a certain period of time.
For example, in our home, we prepare a timer for our child. When doing homework, she can clearly perceive the loss of time and control the speed at which she completes her homework.
In addition, parents can also try the classic game: Schulte Square.
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Simply put, children need to quickly find the target number, so that they can focus intensively in a short period of time force.
This is also the simplest, most effective and scientific attention training method in the world.
School age, develop preview-review habits
Primary school age 7-12 years old is the golden period for children to develop learning habits.
If learning is compared to building a house, then good habits are a solid foundation. Only with a good foundation can you build a good house and have good grades.
Therefore, in addition to the habits mentioned above, parents must be willing to invest time and energy to help their children develop good learning habits.
For example: the habit of previewing.
Every day, teach the children to spend about 10 minutes reading through the teaching materials to be taught the next day, and underline and record the content they do not understand. The purpose of
preview is to teach children to listen to the class with questions, so that they can concentrate more during the class.
Moreover, after the preview is completed, the children can also try to do 1 or 2 exercises in the textbook.If
can do it, it means that the child's self-learning ability is improving. If he can't do it, it doesn't matter, it's normal, because the teacher didn't teach it.
For example: review habits
Knowledge cannot be learned in one go. There must be a process of continuous summarization, induction, and consolidation, in order to organize the fragmented knowledge into a knowledge framework, integrate it, and truly "learn".
can take the children and guide them to think back and retell what the teacher said today before going to bed every night.
If the child encounters ambiguous content, parents need to guide the child to reread and practice the content during the next day's study to strengthen memory.
By doing this 2-3 times at intervals, it can help children strengthen their memory.
Let me emphasize here that you must let your children repeat it!
Listening to understand is not really understanding, speaking clearly is really understanding.
If you persist for 2 to 3 months, your memory will be better, and your generalization ability, thinking logical ability, and expression ability will be greatly enhanced.
In addition, it also helps children develop:
Plan study time reasonably
Know how to preview and review
Organize wrong question sets
Insist on extracurricular reading, etc.
These habits and details are the key to keeping an eye on children's learning.
Once you get used to it, you are not afraid of your children being lazy or not being self-disciplined!
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