I follow the doctor's instructions and go to the hospital every two days. But as long as I go to the hospital on weekdays, I can only take our two little dogs, Qiqi and Yiyi - which makes me feel very irritated sometimes. On the one hand, she is worried about their safety after going to the hospital; on the other hand, she has almost no "private time and space" since she became a stay-at-home mother. It's just that Qiqi and Yiyi, who are more than two years old, have no idea about their old mother's "psychological activities" and always happily follow me around.
The two-year-old son expressed his love for his mother with "fear"
No, I took them to the hospital.
But I didn’t expect that Qiqi and Yiyi, who came to the treatment room for the first time, were very curious about everything around them: they secretly hid behind me and observed everything around them, but they were very obedient and just sat quietly. Beside me, I watched carefully the doctors and patients coming in and out.
While I told them not to move or touch, I followed the doctor's instructions and sat on the traction bed to wait for treatment. The doctor asked me to lie on the bed and tied up my whole legs, preparing to use a machine to "hang" me up for traction.
"Mom! Mom! Let's go! Let's go!" But at this moment, Yiyi, who was more than two years old, stood next to me crying heartbrokenly. He kept holding my hand and asked me to get up from the traction bed.
"Don't be afraid one by one, don't be afraid by one!" I comforted him: "Mom is undergoing treatment. Don't be afraid!" Then I asked my brother Qiqi to comfort him. Qiqi, who was one minute older than him, imitated my normal behavior and patted him on the back: "Don't be afraid!"
"Afraid! Afraid!" One by one, he still made me get up, looking anxious and furious.
"Mom has a backache. This doctor uncle is helping her with the treatment." I said to Yiyi: "Look, mom has taken off!" I kept comforting Yiyi, and he stared at my hoisted legs. , and found that I didn’t have the pained expression of “baring my teeth”, and then slowly calmed down.
"Hahaha. Your son is so funny. I am probably afraid that you will be abused. Look at how anxious he is!" The doctor on the side joked with me. At that moment, I suddenly realized my baby's "anxiety" and "fear" - not only was he afraid of himself, but he was also worried that I would be "bullied" by others, but I was not so "sensitive" in the midst of it.
At that moment, I suddenly felt a little ashamed of how "irritated" I had been.
Children's love for parents is hidden in the details
I remember that I once saw many pictures and short paragraphs about children's love for parents on the Internet. They were all inconspicuous "detailed stories" between children and parents.
A mother and her son were watching TV together on the sofa. The mother put her feet on her son's belly to "warm him up." As a result, the son immediately lifted up his sweater to cover his mother's feet.
There is also a mother on duty at Xi'an subway station. She sticks to her post from morning to night. Her 3-year-old son missed her very much, so his family took him to the subway station to see his mother.
"Mom, I won't disturb your work, just give you a kiss and I'll leave." This was the first sentence the son said to his mother on duty.
There is also a video that is very popular on the Internet - a mother wants to tease her daughter who is eating, and deliberately puts sausages from her daughter's bowl into her own bowl. Unexpectedly, the daughter immediately gave all the sausages in her bowl to her mother.
We think that children do not know how to love their parents, that they are too young and ignorant, and sometimes we even use adult thinking to judge their language and behavior, but they warm your heart in their own inadvertent way.
is like "Where Are We Going, Dad" which was particularly popular back then. One program task is to ask several fathers to prepare lunch for their children, and let the children throw the dogtail grass in their hands to judge which father's meal is the best.
Zhang Liang, a former chef, thought he would be sure to win, but he did not expect Jimmy Lin 's homemade dumplings to be more popular. Therefore, Zhang Liang had no choice but to hold his son in his arms and wait for the final "punishment" every day.
At this moment, Tiantian broke away from his father's arms and rushed out of the yard - when everyone thought that Tiantian "cannot afford to lose" and became emotional, even Zhang Liang, who has high emotional intelligence, was so anxious that he said "without hesitation": " If you leave, I will lose!"
But Tiantian kept saying: "Where is the dog's tail grass?" No one understood Tiantian's thoughts at that moment. The son stammered out a few words: I want to give you a piece of foxtail grass myself.
At this time, everyone realized: Every day, Zhang Liang is looking for dogtail grass for his father. He thinks that as long as there is dogtail grass, his father can win! He wanted to give all his support to his father. At this time, how could the outcome of the game be worth a piece of dogtail grass that his son carefully picked?
Every child has his own way and practice of expressing his love
I have always liked the famous family educator " Intimate Sister " Lu Qin.
She once told such a story in a lecture.
There was a mother who took a fancy to a bracelet when she was going to the mall, but she didn't buy it because she thought the price was too expensive. When
html’s 06-year-old son found out, he secretly used the money he saved to buy an identical “bracelet” for his mother—but it was actually a bracelet made of aluminum sheets. When the child happily gave the "bracelet" to his mother, the mother did not notice her son's excitement: "Oh, look what you bought? You spent money blindly. This bracelet is fake!"At that moment, the son's expectant eyes suddenly dimmed, and his eyes were filled with tears. He was unwilling to let go of the "bracelet" he was holding in his hand. Only then did the mother realize that her unintentional words had hurt her son, and she later spent a lot of effort to soothe her child's emotions and feelings.
Teacher Lu Qin said: When your child does something for you, even if it is to pour you a glass of water, you must not ignore it. These are all signs that he cares about his parents. You must affirm him and praise him.
I think so. Every child has his or her own way of expressing love.
Maybe I am holding your face and saying: Mom, I love you!
It may also be that he never says "I love you", but when you are hurt, he doesn't want you to do even things that scare you;
or he may be your "follower", and he will go wherever you go. ;
It is also possible to put something that you think is delicious into your mouth...
No matter which one it is, we all experience it with our hearts, but don't let down the "feelings" of the children
Just like the two boys in our family They waited beside me, watched me do the treatment, and then put the yogurt I bought for them into my mouth: "Mom, drink! Drink!" So, I tilted my head and took a big sip.
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