As the saying goes, the palms and backs of the hands are full of flesh. No matter whether the child is a son or a daughter, parents will not dislike their children. However, since ancient times, sons have been favored over daughters, so more and more families hope to have a son who will be more happy. good.
With the change of ideological concepts, most families now believe that having a daughter will make them happier. They don’t have to spend so much money to train them, and they can enjoy happiness when they are old. It is the best of both worlds, but is this really the case?
The "Tangshan Incident" sounded the alarm. Giving birth to a daughter is not all good.
A video circulated on the Internet in the early morning some time ago shocked and angered people across the country. To this day, public outrage over the Tangshan beating incident has not subsided.
Some people will say that girls should protect themselves when going out, dress more conservatively, and not strike up conversations with boys at will. But no one has ever said that boys should know how to respect girls. More boys are just because they are stronger than girls and can take advantage of them. They can hit or scold them whenever they want. Where do they put women’s personal safety ?
The woman in the video was having barbecue with three good friends when a man suddenly came to harass her. Seeing something was wrong, she just said, "There's something wrong with you," and the man started to fight. Then several burly men rushed in and beat up the woman's friends as well.
There were a lot of people eating barbecue in the store at that time, but more people showed the attitude of "it's none of their business, just worry about it", especially the man who was having barbecue with his girlfriend. In order to protect himself, I stood aside to watch the show while protecting my girlfriend.
It’s true that Mingzhe protects himself, but have you ever thought about why this girl was harassed? And why was she beaten by a group of people? Some people, based on the theory of victim guilt, said that if the girl had not been too strong-willed or had offended the man for some other reason, she would not have been beaten.
But I personally don’t think that’s the reason. If there was a male friend sitting on this woman’s table, those gangsters might have to stay away from her, let alone treat her like a sandbag.
From this point of view, female friends are still a vulnerable group in this society. If they do not have a certain strength to protect themselves, they are likely to be harmed by cancer. As parents, there is no other way but to feel distressed.
So, regardless of whether the child is a boy or a girl, actually has endless worries . It is a fact that boys are strong and not easily bullied, but from the moment a boy is born, parents must be prepared. A future set of equipment, a house, a car, a deposit, etc., these can make parents breathless.
However, giving birth to a daughter is not everything. There are three major problems in reality that parents with daughters should pay attention to and prepare for in advance:
. Daughters are easily bullied.
In today's society, there is no shortage of girls who can protect themselves well. , such as those girls who practice judo taekwondo, but more girls do not have much ability to protect themselves, just like the Tangshan women who were beaten.
If they were strong and strong, gangsters would never dare to have any evil intentions. Therefore, when their daughter has no ability to protect herself, her parents will be worried to death even if they travel far away, not to mention that girls nowadays are so simple and easy. For parents, being cheated on their feelings is like having their hearts in their throats all the time.
. It is too desolate for a daughter to marry far away
There are many benefits to having a daughter. For example, she understands the difficulties of her parents better. She is also a truly considerate little cotton-padded jacket. She discusses everything with her parents, but this is only when she was a child.
In today's society, there is no shortage of daughters marrying far away. Basically, after graduation or after finding a job, they insist on marrying far away despite the opposition of their parents because they fall in love with the boy they like.
This is very desolate for the parents. The parents are worried about it, and they cannot take good care of their daughter if she has any health problems. The parents cannot help if their daughter is busy.
. There is no one to take care of you when you are old
Nowadays, the life pressure of young people is very high. In order to relieve the pressure of life, most young couples choose to have only one child. Regardless of whether they have a boy or a girl, they will not want to have a second child because of the pressure of life. 2.
But for a couple who only gave birth to a daughter, it will be very desolate after two years, because the daughter has her own family and her own parents-in-law to take care of, and they have no time to take care of their parents' physical condition, let alone take care of them. They even have to let their parents live in nursing homes. This is also the most common problem encountered by the elderly in today's society.
It can be seen that whether it is a child or a daughter, there are advantages and disadvantages. Giving birth to a daughter will reduce the visible pressure , but parents have a lot to worry about, and the disadvantages will become more obvious as they grow older.
Therefore, those who have daughters should make early preparations. For example, let their daughters learn some self-defense skills from elementary school. teach their daughters some anti-abduction and fraud prevention. Try to persuade your daughters not to marry far away. Even if your daughter marries far away, try to stay with your daughter as much as possible; Save more money when you are young and you will be more secure when you are old.
Today’s topic : Is the child in your family a boy or a girl? Are you worried about their future?
