When I was downstairs yesterday, I met Xiaoyu’s mother. Xiaoyu’s mother asked me whether your school would also use a mobile phone and computer to check in the child for homework. I said: Yes, read the text aloud. All of them are needed.
Xiaoyu's mother said: I was so angry this morning, I beat Xiaoyu, and he is still taking an exam today, I don't know if it is affected.
It turns out that because Xiaoyu usually needs a computer for online classes and the like, so his mother equipped him with a computer. As a result, after Xiaoyu went to bed early yesterday, he got up early in the morning to play games. .
Xiaoyu's mother was furious. She originally wanted to exercise her child's self-reliance, so she didn't set a password. As a result, the child dared to play games secretly, so Xiaoyu's mother was naturally "furious".
Nowadays, electronic devices are basically in-depth. It is unrealistic for children not to touch them at all, but they often cannot restrain their desire to play games. It is indeed a very tangled thing!
Actually, it is difficult for adults to have self-control when they play on the computer and swipe their mobile phones. It is really too test for a child so small to control or not play.
So, the best way is:
1. Physical isolation
I heard a course from a Harvard student a few days ago, she said When she was studying, she also liked to hold a mobile phone and send text messages to classmates while doing questions, often doing very slowly. Later, when she realized this, she determined to change.
When she started to study, she would put her mobile phone in the living room to achieve physical isolation, so that she wouldn’t always think about playing with her phone if she couldn’t see it. Swiping the phone is really time-consuming. Sometimes I will swipe the small videos one by one, and the time has passed for a long time.
Install the control software on the child’s computer, so that the child can only open the website and learning webpage you specify, and other games are directly prohibited, so that the child cannot do other things even if he holds the computer.
You can search for related software on the Internet to avoid advertising suspicion, so you won’t write your name.
On the mobile phone, there will usually be a child control mode, and the child control mode is turned on.
2. Pre-appointment method
You can also make an agreement with your child here. Usually the computer is used for learning, not for playing games. If you do it well, you can have 1 hour playing games every day during summer vacation.
Let the children understand a truth: people who make big things in many cases are those who can hold back and have the spirit of self-discipline.
The child may still be uncomfortable at first, so you can find more similar celebrity stories to tell him.
In the process of communicating with my son, I found that if you ask him directly, he will be unhappy, but tell him by telling a story, comparing it, etc., and he will be able to listen.
This is very useful when the child is older. Parents should also pay more attention to collecting some related stories.
3. Parents Model
Here I still can’t help mentioning the poetry and poetry talented Wu Yishu’s parents, who originally liked to swipe their phones after work, but later Parents realized that this was a problem, and they stipulated that after 4.30, the whole family was not allowed to play on mobile phones, but the whole family was immersed in poetry.
People are actually like this. Whatever aspect of your time is spent, there will be progress in every aspect. Time will not disappoint everyone who works hard.
If you really want to make your children better, then parents should not play mobile phones first, but when chatting with each other, they should also bring out the notion of not playing mobile phones and not playing games from time to time, so that children should be in mind Realize that playing mobile phones and playing games is a very kill time behavior.
This is also very helpful in his later growth process.
4. Cultivate children's multiple hobbies
Many times, children want to play games because they have nothing else to play. Like a child of a friend of mine, he likes to study Rubik's Cube very much. When we eat together, other children play games with their mobile phones. He likes to play Rubik's Cube by himself and is obsessed with it. This is good.
Guide the children's interests to other areas. If the children have special products and hobbies, they will not want to play games much.
5. Parents play educational games
I remember when we were young, my dad bought many kinds of chess, chess, army flags, checkers, etc., and he usually played against We played together and were fascinated by chess when we were young.
In fact, for children, there is often only one child in the family. If parents don’t accompany him, they are really lonely. Wu Zhihong’s book says: The best company is to give yourself to your children, parents It is the best toy for children.
Accompanying children to grow up is also the process of parents' self-growth and self-cultivation.
Professor Li Meijin once mentioned this issue and said that parents shouldn’t go into those small issues, they can talk to their children about things with a big vision, such as boys, and they can talk to him about major events in the world. Or a certain battle, so that the child's vision and mind are wider, and the child's natural focus will be broader.
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