Hello everyone, I am a senior family education instructor Love.
Parents want their kids, can they become successful?
Of course I want it! I hope that my child will have a promising future, so I will pay attention to my child’s academic performance, but I don’t know that the factors that truly make my child become successful are hidden in the family.
After decades of being the head teacher of a key middle school, I chatted with my colleagues and found that students who have promising grades are not the best when they grow up. What is the reason that affects the children not becoming outstanding people and having a brilliant career?
Xiaochun, my aunt taught me, had very good grades at the beginning, but after work, she was just a small employee and had not been promoted for several years. Why don’t the leader value such a person?
Xiaochun's classmates all know that Xiaochun's parents have always been communicating with their children in criticism. Force children to study, and often compare with others. When looking at their children, they not only have good grades, but also win awards when participating in competitions, and then look at their own children, they all see shortcomings. Xiaochun feels inferior!
Senior class teacher: Children who are unsuccessful when they grow up mostly come from a family, but parents don’t know
My aunt found in her work that children who are truly promising and able to become talented are all families with good parent-child relationships. Unfortunately, parents don’t understand.
What behaviors do parents make the parent-child relationship bad?
First, unstable emotions make children feel insecure.
Parents are in a bad mood and will get angry when they see their children doing something wrong. In the hearts of young children, they will be afraid that their parents will get angry.
Xiaochun broke a water cup at home when she was a child. When her father heard the sound, he knew it was the water cup broken, so he started to blame the child. Xiaochun was so scared that she cried and even cut her hand. My father didn’t care about the child’s hands and still blamed him for being too stupid to do things!
The parents' blame makes the children even more self-blame. Becoming timid and afraid of doing something wrong, I am worried about doing something wrong again, which makes my father angry! After work, his timid personality made him dare to make suggestions. He had no breakthrough in his work and could only be an ordinary employee.
Second, negative words make children lose their motivation to grow.
You are too useless! Why did you write it wrong again?
Look at how many points others get? You only scored more than 50 points, and you still have the face to go home!
Parents hope that their children will make progress! However, when the child needs the help of his parents the most, he uses negative words to push the child to disappointment and pain.
When the child wants to pursue his dream, his parents think that your ideas are too unrealistic and must listen to me!
" Big Test ", Wu Jiajun fought with his mother many times in order to apply for the animation major. My mother disagrees with his dream, believing that this major cannot take the civil service exam, cannot enter a large company, and cannot allow his son to have a stable income, which is unrealistic!
If Jiajun's mother can learn more about the child's ideas and understand what jobs those who graduate from anime are doing, perhaps, she will not object to Jiajun's decision.
Children who grow up in negation have lost the motivation to grow.
There is a girl who also has a dream of animation. In order to realize her dream, she learned the creation and storyboard of animation. After graduating from college, she really became a member of the animation industry.
In addition to work, she also began to create Chinese style comics, completely integrating reality with Chinese style, so that everyone can read it with a relaxed and warm heart.Her works have been recognized by everyone, and the comics have been made into specific clothes, making everyone love them even more!
If Jiajun's mother has a bigger vision and a bigger pattern, she can look forward to the infinite possibilities of her children and become a shining person, be loved by everyone, and will it make the child uncomfortable, and will it cut off Jiajun's life in pursuing her dreams?
, the attitude of parents when their children's grades are poor makes the children feel unconfident.
Both parents want their children to have a future, but they say things hurt their children with their love heart.
When children have poor grades, the attitude of their parents is greatly affected.
When the child’s score is not high, the mother blames him, why did he fail the exam? What did you listen to in class? You are useless! Can children still love to study? The child will think that the mother does not love me, but me who is good at learning.
When a child has poor grades, he is still calm and gentle, so that his child can have a bright future.
The child of my neighbor, Sister Zhou, was not good at the first year of high school and ranked third from the bottom in the grade. Sister Zhou did not criticize the child. She stood with the child and defeated the wrong questions, which made the child feel warm.
Until the third year of high school, the child's grades were in the top three in the grade every time, and he performed well in the college entrance examination. It was the attitude of parents to be admitted to Peking University Guanghua School of Management, which made the children confident in themselves.
Sister Zhou’s daughter has always been very optimistic and posted her last ranking on WeChat Moments to see who ranks third from the bottom in the grade. It turned out to be me! Facing it positively and bravely is the beginning of success!
If Sister Zhou uses a negative attitude and a sarcastic attitude, the child will not learn any more. Anyway, if you say I can't do it, I won't learn it anymore. Giving up studying is the greatest regret in life!
Home Education , only when parents and children have a good relationship can children be willing to listen to parents' suggestions. If you want your children to have a future, you must first establish a good parent-child relationship. The ancients said: Love is not based on the truth, which is enough to harm .
Only by being an emotionally stable parent can you cultivate a promising child!
Psychological expert Jian.Nelson said, do you want to win the child? Or do you want to win the child?
Only when the child wins the heart of his children can the child have a good relationship with his parents! Will you be willing to win the child once but lose your relationship with the child all your life?
How do you do when your child has poor grades?
