Crying, making a fuss and lying on the ground is the three "successful tricks" for children to control their parents.
Whenever the requirements are not met, parents will compromise in minutes as long as they use these three "tricks". Although parents all know that this is a routine that children use, everyone still can’t help but “a common sense” with their children.
Until the post-90s and post-00s became parents, they began to rectify the "child circle".
90's parents began to "tear the umbrella"
They had been wet with the rain themselves, so they had to tear other people's umbrellas too.
Specifically for the "child circle", the overall idea of parents born in the 1990s and 2000s is: take the children's path and leave them with no way out.
During the National Day holiday, a mother and son on the street caused heated discussions among many netizens.
On the street where people were coming and going, a child was holding a yellow balloon in his hand, lying on the ground and competing with his mother. His mother was neither angry nor annoyed, and calmly squatted beside him playing with his cell phone, looking as if there was no one around.
The child lay on the ground for 20 minutes and found that it was useless, so he got up and went home with his mother. The confrontation between
ended with a child's compromise, which made netizens applaud. In the past, such "sweet dramas" were only found in TV dramas.
In real life, it is basically the parents who "fight" with their children in public. Whether you want to buy snacks or toys, if your parents don’t agree, they will immediately lie on the ground and roll on the ground and get everything they want.
This trick has become a trick for many children to "threate" their parents, and it has been tried and true.
Unexpectedly, this game rule will be slowly rewritten after the post-90s and post-00s become parents. The trick of several generations of children has been passed down, but it actually failed.
Walk the children's path and leave children with no way to go
Facing parents born with uncommon paths, children are the ones that are taken.
- 90s parents' "tearing the umbrella" first: putting on the
Since childhood, no one has been familiar with this routine than them, and no one knows the solution to this problem better than them.
So, facing the child's "crying, making a fuss, and making a fuss", they began to show off: You let you cry, and you can count on me, I will lose.
Junior contestants will stand aside and watch the child "performance" silently until the "performance" is over.
Advanced parents will choose to take pictures of this interesting scene with their mobile phones and use it as the material for posting to your Moments that day.
Silver-type parents will never delay their enjoyment of their lives because of their children. They will order a cup of milk tea or coffee and sit aside to watch their children perform.
King-type parents will take the initiative first, lie in front of their children, firmly take the initiative in their own hands, and leave no chance for their children.
No one knows better than parents born in the 1990s. Only magic can defeat magic.
- 90s parents "tearing the umbrella" second formula: reverse parenting
90s parents know that the problem of difficulty in raising children is not the child, but the fact that they have not encountered a pair of parents who are difficult to take care of.
So, parents born in the 1990s have begun to "reverse parenting". As long as the parents are difficult to deal with, their children will not have the chance to "willful".
When a child goes out, he is like a "wild horse that breaks away from the reins", running wildly uncontrollably? Parents born in the 1970s and 1980s will chase after them, while mothers born in the 1990s will only jump and jump in place and shout, "You don't hold your mother's hand. What if your mother gets lost? If your mother gets lost, you can't find your mother."
In less than two seconds, the child ran back happily and held his mother firmly.
When you go out, you can’t walk when you see a toy? Parents born in the 1970s and 1980s will be kind enough to reason with their children. Parents born in the 1990s will only tell their children before going shopping, "Your father always buys toys when he goes shopping, and I don't want to take him there." And ask the children to help them supervise their father not to buy toys.
Sure enough, when the child saw his father holding the toy, he quickly stepped forward and took it away and put it back in place.
Parents born in the 1990s who have long fully understood their children's psychology have completely grasped their children.
"Tearing the Umbrella" does not mean unreliable
90s and 2000s took action to rectify the "child circle". It is unreliable on the surface, but in fact it has its own parenting wisdom.
The parents born in the 1990s and 2000s who advocate independence and freedom do not regard their children as their own accessories, nor do they want to be selfless and dedicated parents.
They are more willing to cooperate with their children, grow up together and achieve each other.
This parenting method gives children more room for growth, allowing children to have more opportunities to explore and grow, rather than being spoiled as "naughty kids" and "mama baby boys/female".
The relationship between the child and his parents is both a teacher and a friend, and the parent-child relationship is more harmonious.
On the surface, it is the "child circle" of parents born in the 1990s and 2000s who have rectified the "child circle", but in fact it is an exploration of their parenting methods.
There are no unchanging rules for raising children, and there is no universal method. It is also a good attempt for parents born in the 1990s and 2000s to dare to break the rules.
However, it is worth reminding that every child is different. You may not be able to use the way others can take effect. We can appropriately learn from other people's good experiences and parenting methods, but we cannot copy them.
