"If we want more good men in the world, we must start now, with less blame and more understanding."
-"Raising a Boy"
When you grow up to a certain stage, you will start to pay attention to girls. When a boy appears to watch his mother go to the bathroom and watch her mother change clothes, this is the best time for us to educate him on gender.
Don't miss out on boys' gender education because of your fuss. Don't leave gender education to those social boys in Internet cafes to complete it for you.
You find that your little boy can't help peeking at you when you go to the toilet. Don't say, mom goes to the toilet, you can't peek.
You are wearing a beautiful dress. The little boy in your family likes to drill under the skirt at every turn. Don't say, you are not allowed to lift mother's skirt.
You are wearing a long braid, and your little boy ran over to pull your hair curiously. Don't say, don't pull your mother's hair.
There is nothing wrong with teaching boys to respect their mothers, but they should not only respect their mothers, but also all women represented by their mothers.
In the above situation, the correct way for mothers is to tell their children:
" girl go to the toilet, boy can't peep
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“You can’t pull the hair of girl , so you don’t respect the girl . "
Teach boys to respect their mothers. Other women besides mothers, such as grandma, grandma, and female classmates, also need to be respected.
When your four-year-old boy secretly appears to be a guest at home The little girl takes a bath;
When relatives tease your little boy, whether there is a girl in school, he is flushed;
When your little boy comes home from school, tell you he likes it A girl in the class;
Wrong behavior must be resolutely stopped, normal attention to the opposite sex behavior must be promptly enlightened.
br4 It feels hard to talk about it, just like when a boy is old, he has to learn to stand up and pee as natural.
Mom can say to the boy:
"The reason why you pay attention to girls is from heaven." the design of.
God will also make girls pay attention to boys.
I will pay attention to your father, and your father will also pay attention to me.
It’s not just you, a boy will think about girl-related things in his mind,this is normal.
It’s okay for someone to tease you because he knows that you are at an age to pay attention to girls. "
—— "Raising a Boy" (Mother's Edition)
While respecting women, be careful not to create gender antagonism.
” Boys must look like boys", "Girls must look like girls".
What is a boy? What is a girl?
In 2019, a primary school in Chengdu opened a special class for men and women. Hot search.
When asked why such courses are offered, the principal said: “In recent years, we have found that boys and girls are growing up on the same output track. 'Be shaped', resulting in boys lacking enough space to grow up boldly, while girls lack a peaceful and gentle appearance to follow . There is a certain degree of gender dislocation in boys and girls. ”
So boys should be proud to make rockets, and girls should knit sweaters quietly and gracefully?
Zhang Weili defended the UFC _span_spanspan 54 women’s world championship in the three-player basketball team in Tokyo The news of the bronze medal still shocked us.
, who was born as a nurse and transformed into a singer to win the national championship, is not easy , Li Jiaqi , who sells lipsticks and became the "big brother of lipsticks", their wonderful life also inspires us.
Don't use gender bias to define and restrict our children.
To teach boys to respect women, we must also learn to respect the characteristics of boys.
Some boys are naturally sensitive and weak. We should accept children's character traits from the heart, pay attention to his advantages, and encourage children to play their own character advantages in interpersonal communication.
Introverted and timid boys tend to be more focused, gentle, patient, and empathetic. These personalities embellish their children's life like gold. What we have to do is to unearth the gold-like qualities of the child's character.
The real education is to guide a person's heart and help him to be like himself.
When educating a boy, it is not necessary to cultivate the boy's masculinity, respect the child's personality, perfect the child instead of reforming the child, and make him the true self.
British modernist female writer Woolf once said: "The great souls are all , you are the boy of _p1 br1 br1 _p_p_p_p54. Masculine or delicate? Would you encourage him to use his character strengths? Welcome to share your experience of bringing a baby in the comment area!
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