The child's academic performance is not good, and the mother said "it was the teacher's fault"... the fundamental problem in the family
The family atmosphere has not changed, the relationship between husband and wife has been in a tense state, and the child has become a tool for adults to quarrel. Although parents say they love their children, they are unwilling to spend time and energy on their children.
The child is using his own power to repair the discord in the family and desperately to like his parents. This is a huge burden for a child.
Because of long-term tension, Ruolan's place to be at ease is not at home, but at school. As a result, problems with interpersonal relationships and academics began to appear.
But you think you have done everything you can do, and you are looking forward to having someone other than yourself to help and love your children.
This kind of worry, pain, and disappointment will make you lose your composure. No matter who you want to blame. You are swallowed by the darkness of loneliness, unable to extricate yourself, and suffering.
School is just to provide children with a safe environment to let them know that "there are other adults who love themselves besides their parents".
Holding the powerless feeling of "no one can help you", you finally decide to face the problems of yourself and your children. First of all, I sat down to communicate with the child and thought about ways to improve it in response to the difficulties she encountered in learning.
And when the child is down, encourage her and support her. You help Ruolan check the homework. Not only is the child not annoying, but he thinks you are very reliable.
Although you did not say it, you must have truly accepted your anxiety and fear. Try to understand your child.
When children are frustrated in learning, when they feel uneasy and fearful because of their parents’ discord, he accepts the children’s heart, and in order to enable the children to cope with the new life and the changes it brings, he always stays with him That's it.
Seeing parents bravely facing difficulties,The children themselves have begun to face problems in life and academics.
And the biggest result is that you no longer feel angry with your child, think that "the only one who can help this child is yourself", you no longer spend time and energy for your child, and you no longer involve your child in your own busyness.
In this way, not only is my most important child, self-confidence and love have also returned to you. What a gratifying thing.
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