In the past few days, many parents called me and sent WeChat to consult me: I was going crazy in the past few days when school started, and I was overwhelmed by my children. I don't know how to deal with the child. do you know? Children's education requires parents to do a good job of emotional comfort. Strong parents can make their children perform unexpectedly. Are you a strong parent?
Each child is unique, because of the internal or external difference, because each child is different, there will be differences between children and children. As a parent, you must learn to guide your children and make them as excellent and outstanding as possible.
However, in life, those strong parents always like to yell at their children, take strict care and strict requirements, and let children live according to their parents’ lifestyle. It is this kind of strong education. This leads to mediocre children.
strong parental education roughly divided into three types:
strong education
1: Planning for children living
lot Parents will say: "I have left a lot of regrets in my life. I hope my children can live the life they wanted." So, in life, let the children always walk in accordance with their own determined lifestyle.And does the child yearn for this kind of life? Parents don’t care. When the child has a sense of resistance, the parents will unite to persuade the child, or even force the child to accept it, without giving the child the opportunity to choose. In the eyes of this kind of parents, children will not judge for themselves what is good or bad, nor will they control themselves. Therefore, what parents think is that everything they arrange is for the children's good.
2: Don’t care about the child’s feelings
Strong parents take a rude way when educating their children. They think: children who make mistakes will be punished or even beaten! They even said to their children: "I grew up like this, not so good!" So these parents think that there is no problem and force their children to do what their parents ask to do. Don’t you know that when parents do this, they ignore their children’s emotions, and the children just hope that mom and dad can have a good conversation with themselves, and they also hope that mom and dad can understand some of their own practices. However, strong parents will treat their children in a ignorant way, ignoring the children's thoughts, and as a result, the children will live in their own world. The door of his world does not want to be opened, and the window of the world does not want to be opened. So it will block the self. Because the child's feelings are not experienced by the parents.
3: Parents do not pay attention to children's interests
Strong parents, when educating their children, only stay on one problem: achievement!
Only children who study hard and have certain good grades are good children. It is also the single concern of the parents that the child will block the self, so his own nature is not well released, so he becomes introverted, unwilling to strike up a conversation with others, and even unwilling to go out of the house, blindly lock down at home. No other hobbies. It is the parents who only pay attention to the children’s performance. The children’s world is learning in addition to learning, but the children’s nature needs to be released.When children can’t release their emotions, they will lose their temper, and parents will say: "We are all for your own good, why don't you know what is good or bad?" It feels like a cage that cannot be broken away.
The hazards of strong education
1: Withdrawn personality
The child resists fiercely, likes to be alone, does not want to go to school, does not like to communicate with others, and becomes irritable and fidgets. In severe cases, children are self-sufficient, introverted, and cowardly. Because it is the parents who are deciding, they can only execute orders, and gradually they will shirk their responsibilities, fail to show their own opinions, and be not good at expressing themselves. Children’s personalities are relatively withdrawn, which leads to their willingness to live in their own world, and they are unwilling or daring to communicate with the outside world. Unless they are forced to do so, the circle of friends is very small, and there are basically no friends.
2: poor independence
Children whose parents are strongly educated are basically arranged by their parents. All the children need to do is to learn, and they are not very interested in learning.In this way, what the child loses is not only grades, but the skills of independent living will be greatly lacked. At the same time, due to the long-term suppression of their parents, such children have great psychological and physical defects. They cannot manage their emotions or live independently. Apart from complaining about others, there is basically nothing they can do. what.
3. Violent personality
Parent’s strength, will make children become violent. Because when a child’s self-awareness is very strong, his own rebellion cannot be understood and guided by his parents. On the contrary, he gets more severe suppression and restraint. Therefore, the child will always accumulate this hostility in his heart, even taking his parents as the role. The enemy, until one day they encounter a certain flash point, they will rebel, and their personality may become irritable, arrogant, and violent. More frightening people will have serious exclusivity behaviors, and the child's personality will often show some terrible reactions, such as yelling and talking to himself.
Are you still strong? Never do this to children again.
Children can only be called children if they live like children!
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