Compared to young children, it is the children who have just entered kindergarten that most worry about parents.
Are you eating well? How are you sleeping? Have you been bullied? How many times did you cry today?
The child's language expression is not good enough, so I can only inquire about it from the teacher. How can I get more information?
The biggest home-school communication disaster scene I have ever seen is that a parent in a class group named the teacher by name and "disclosed" a child's beating behavior, only to find that the child did not go to school that day.
Communicating with people is a technique, and communicating with teachers requires art. How would the teacher want us to communicate with them and understand the situation of the child?
These three questions, "Is it a good meal", "How about a nap," and "Are you happy at school?" These three questions can be said to be the most common questions received by kindergarten teachers. The teacher's answer is generally: "Good, very good , Happy.”
My daughter just finished the kindergarten small class. When I think about last August, I was also nervous about whether the child could adapt to the kindergarten environment, and at the same time was confused about how to communicate effectively with the teacher.
In the first month of school, all questions revolve around eating, drinking, and sleeping. In the second month of school, I don’t know what to ask. I occasionally ask if I’m happy or if I have made good friends.
is the same as many parents. My confusion lies in: all the questions I asked, the teacher has answered, why still don’t understand the child’s situation in the kindergarten; Woolen cloth?
Parents’ problems fall into two categories: childcare and education. Small class freshmen enter the kindergarten, and the questions are focused on the children's life and emotions. After the middle class, the knowledge system is improved, and then they are integrated into the communication in the curriculum.
I specifically consulted three teachers who have taught their daughters from the kindergarten stage,After communicating, I discovered that we really had a misunderstanding about the kindergarten and teachers, and the basis of communication is trust.
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Elements of communication with teachers
Ask specific questions
We just need to receive a sense of safety from the teacher. "Focus on the child" signal, and hope that the teacher can pay more attention to the child.
This kind of daily question is often more general, and the teacher’s answer will be the same if you ask "How is your eating?" and "Are you happy at school?" day after day.
So our questions can be more similar and targeted. wants to know how the child’s self-care ability can be accurate to a small matter, combined with the child’s home situation, for example:
"Children don’t like vegetables. Are there any picky foods in school?"
"Children don't like to go to bed at noon, have you noisy other children?"
"Children don’t have enough concentration, do they often run short in class?"
I also like to talk non-stop while eating at home. One day I asked her, would the children speak when they were eating at school?
"The watermelon group eats best,The banana team is the worst.
"Then you are from the watermelon group?"
"No, I am the banana team."
"In the banana group, who is the best speaker?"
"It's me!" Mom, it's me!
When I first entered the kindergarten, I also paid attention to my daughter's eating problem. Generally, I asked the teacher "have you finished eating", and the teacher would usually tell me "I have eaten well" at home.
Then I asked the teacher about her daughter’s discipline when eating at school. The teacher’s feedback was that she loved it. Tell the children stories. If you don’t have time to tell in class, you just grab the meal time, but it’s not the noisiest one...
I can’t figure out how to ask specific questions. You can talk to the children first. The children’s description may be inaccurate. But a breakthrough, combined with the actual situation of the child can deepen the communication.
gives the teacher trust
After asking three teachers, I found that the biggest trouble for the teacher is the parent’s disagreement. Trust. Some of them work in private kindergartens and some in public kindergartens. They really rely on their love for their children and their love for the job.
When we communicate with teachers, we do not need to be preconceived or suspicion, including suggestions to the school and the teacher, the teacher will not make a difference to the child just because you make some dissatisfaction.
For example, children don’t want to go to kindergarten. This is the most common problem that new kindergarten children encounter. After communicating with children, their answers are true or false. In order not to go to kindergarten, they may imagine some reasons, such as being The teacher is fierce, some classmates bully themselves, and so on.
Before communicating with the teacher, you can ask the child some detailed questions such as the time of occurrence, environment, dialogue, etc., and then communicate with the teacher.
My daughter’s nursery school teacher, now working as a head teacher in a private kindergarten, encountered a misunderstanding before the summer vacation.
The child took the initiative to throw away the two used toothpastes before leaving school, but the grandmother misunderstood that the teacher threw it away, and took the child directly into the bathroom, forcing the child to ask if the teacher threw it away. The child was so scared that he did not dare to speak, and finally communicated with his parents on the phone before the child told the truth and resolved the misunderstanding.
The teacher said very helplessly:
"Actually, the parents of this child are very polite. Even if they have questions about the school and the teacher, they will be very friendly. It is just the grandparents who usually pick up the children. In emergencies, elders from generation to generation always have a sense of distrust of teachers." Preconceived and negative questions will not only hinder the teacher's work, but also affect the child's way of handling the next time he encounters a problem.
When the teacher did make a mistake at work,Before negotiations, you can first affirm the good parts of the teacher, and then make suggestions.
Under the premise of respect and trust, teachers are more likely to accept parents' requests and are more willing to give feedback to children. Human nature, don't worry about being blamed, good and bad teachers will tell their parents without reservation.
Misunderstandings due to mistrust occur almost every day in kindergarten , I recalled that a "meal incident" happened when my daughter first entered kindergarten.
During that time, the children in the school said they were hungry every day after school. Sometimes they could finish a sandwich after school at 4:1 in the afternoon. We wondered if there was something wrong with the lunch and snacks in the school.
was a private institution at that time. We asked the institution to disclose the source of ingredients, cooking environment, personnel qualifications, dining process and other steps. There were a lot of small meetings at the conference. The institution also consumed a lot of energy for self-certification, and finally found that there was no What a big mistake.
I just handed over my child from home, I always have this kind of worry, now think about it, probably because the school has a lot of exercise, more physical energy, and the child is more hungry. Based on my daughter's experience of two years of nursery school + one year of kindergarten, the child definitely eats better than at home in kindergarten.
Timely feedback, cooperate with the teacher
Children’s problems, no matter in life or study, can not be corrected in a short while, and need two-way assistance from family and school. At this time, timely feedback is very important. , Let communication have continuity.
After getting the teacher's suggestion, you can implement it, feedback the result, and then communicate the next step. The teacher’s suggestion has been adopted. This is to respect their way of working. It also makes the teacher feel that there is a response to the child’s contribution and that the parents are cooperating with them.
During the first week of entering the kindergarten, my daughter always refused to go to the toilet at school. In addition to the unfamiliar environment, but also because of some problems with our own education at home, she has always resisted going to the toilet outside.
In order to alleviate this problem, I specially prepared an exclusive toilet seat for my daughter to take to school. I also asked the teacher to take care of it.
The life teacher thinks that we have deepened our daughter's attention to the trivial matter of going to the toilet. The more we pay attention to it, the more difficult it will be. We suggest that we don't make any preparations and leave it to the school.
In order to respond to the teacher's handling, we no longer require her to go out after pulling the smelly at home when we travel, so as to avoid invisibly strengthening the child's worries.
After a month, my daughter can urinate and urinate autonomously in the kindergarten. It is very regular. When she returns to home, she no longer has toilet problems when she travels.
Another time in my impression, I sent my daughter to kindergarten. As soon as got out of the elevator, she found a mother who was tantrums hysterically, hitting her child and hitting herself.
Fearing that our daughter would be frightened, we hurried back to the elevator and waited in the underground garage until the mother took the child to drive away. We went upstairs. When I asked the teacher, I found out that turned out to be a little boy who refused to come to kindergarten, and his mother fell apart.
This little boy was reluctant to come to kindergarten since he first entered the kindergarten. His mother asked the teacher if someone in the kindergarten bullied him or the teacher's attention was not enough. After getting a negative answer, he began to beat and scold in front of the teacher. child.
Teacher persuaded and gave advice , for example, you must be firm, and you must not take your child home every time you lose your temper, so that the child feels that if you make a fuss, you will be fine; find a reason to be at home, The way you communicate with your child should be coordinated with the teacher to inform the child of the necessity of going to kindergarten.
This parent has not given any communication feedback, feels that everything is the responsibility of the school , and even tantrums the children at the school gate, which puts pressure on the teacher.
If the child encounters a problem, we, as parents, should give feedback to the teacher about the practice at home.Teachers will also inform parents of children's progress in school, which is effective feedback and cooperation.
Pay attention to communication time
There are about 30 people in public kindergartens and about 20 people in private kindergartens. Generally, there are 2 teachers and 1 life teacher. On average, each teacher needs to manage 7-10 children and is very busy. Therefore, the time node and length of communication also need to be paid attention to.
Generally speaking, the teacher is relatively empty during the lunch break, and questions that need to be observed can be raised during the lunch break, such as children's concentration in class and getting along with children. Even if you don't pay attention in the morning, the teacher will observe the parents' problems in the afternoon.
When asking questions, try not to talk about your anxiety. Some parents are afraid that it is a bit embarrassing to go directly to the problem. There will always be a large opening statement. In fact, it is not necessary. Just ask the question clearly. When communicating on WeChat, a large number of voices with emotional expressions are not necessary. They should be simple and accurate text expressions.
How to ask questions:
"Are you good at school?" The suggestion becomes:
"I don’t usually like to eat vegetables, are there any picky eaters in school?" Is it?" The suggestion becomes:
"I always lack concentration at home,Did you do your own thing or disturb other children during class? "
"Do you have a good relationship with the kids?" "The suggestion becomes:
"Which kid have you played better recently? What do you usually play with? ”
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If you want to know your children, you can do this
In addition to communicating directly with the teacher, there are ways to get to know your children in kindergarten. At that time, personally participating in school activities, or communicating with other parents, can let us know the "child in the eyes of others."
Participate in campus activities , the school regularly has parent open day or home school Intercommunication activities, such as inviting parents to go to class, do baking, and hold a market. If you have time to participate in such activities, you can gain insights into your children’s daily life at school and communicate with teachers more naturally and abundantly.
More with other parents Communicate with , a lot of children’s information comes from other parents. Through the mouths of other children and parents, you may be able to understand your child more from a more angle. Home-School Communication ,On the official communication platform, actively respond and support the teacher's work. For example, filling out a growth report and seizing the opportunity for teachers to take the initiative to communicate, these are mostly the focus of home-school communication.
Do you have any problems or experiences with your "home-school communication"? Discuss in the comment area~
Finally, sincerely wish the teachers: Happy Teacher’s Day~
You have worked hard~
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