In the entire parenting process of parents, the most important thing is the children's academic performance, because in our traditional thinking and concepts, the quality of academic performance is the decisive factor for children's future success. For children, their first step towards learning and entering the world is the kindergarten life, so many of our parents also attach great importance to this stage of kindergarten.
But I don’t know if parents have encountered such a phenomenon in the process of normal childcare. It is that the child is in a good kindergarten, but suddenly I don’t know why I don’t want to go. And when children come up with this kind of "stubbornness", parents are often indifferent no matter how they coax, that is, they refuse to go to kindergarten. When faced with this situation, many parents are very puzzled: 's own children have learned well, why suddenly they are reluctant to go?
In fact, this kind of sudden rejection of kindergarten by children is a relatively normal phenomenon, and many children will encounter such problems in life. At this time, some parents treat their children forcibly, and this will always harm the children inadvertently. Therefore, when faces this problem, the reaction and handling of parents has a huge impact on children. The first thing our parents have to do is to find out the reason, and then guide and deal with it patiently.
Analysis: What problems do children encounter when they suddenly refuse to go to kindergarten?
Social problems
The child suddenly refuses to go to kindergarten. It is very likely that there is a problem with the social relationship between the child and other children in the kindergarten. Kindergarten is the first step for children to move towards life independently. At this time, children are often anxious and fearful in their hearts.The best way to relieve anxiety is to make friends in kindergarten. If a child’s social relationship in the kindergarten has problems and conflicts with other children, it is likely to cause the child to refuse to go to the kindergarten because of anxiety and fear.
does not adapt to the rhythm of the environment
In addition, the kindergarten is the first time for children after all. They have just left their parents and they do not have enough self-care ability, so they do not adapt to the rhythm of the kindergarten environment. Therefore, we found that many children have such problems when they change seasons or when the kindergarten changes their schedules. Maybe adults think this is normal, but for children, they cannot accept this sudden change in the rhythm of the environment, so they may refuse to go to kindergarten.
Cold violence in kindergarten
There is another very important factor influencing children's refusal to go to kindergarten, which parents must prevent, that is, cold violence in kindergarten. What is cold violence in kindergarten? It is the indifferent attitude from the teacher and classmates, which may be due to the poor performance of the child, or the teacher’s personal character problems, and the child may suffer rejection and isolation from the teacher. Although this kind of cold violence does not directly harm the child's body, it has a serious impact on the child's healthy psychological development and is also an important reason for the child's refusal to go to kindergarten.
What impact will the kindergarten cold violence have on children's mental health development?
becomes introverted
Cold violence in kindergarten is likely to make children become introverted. as an adult,We all know that cold violence is sometimes more serious than hot violence, because it is a torture to our hearts. The kindergarten children are in a critical period of psychological and value development. At this time, once there is cold violence from the outside world, it is very likely that the children will become cowardly, timid, and full of fear of the world, thus developing introverted. character.
learning fear
In addition, we mentioned earlier that kindergarten is the first step for children to learn, and cold violence in the kindergarten will seriously affect children’s judgment of the learning environment . Over time, children will associate learning with the fear in the kindergarten, thereby creating a fear of learning. Maybe in the future children can come out of the cold violence in kindergarten, but this kind of fear of learning that has been cultivated since childhood is difficult to disappear.
Social fear
Kindergarten is an important starting point for children to develop their social life. Once they are subjected to cold violence from the outside world at this time, it is very likely that children will be full of fear about future social interactions. Because from the perspective of adults, once we have an accident when we first do something, then we may always have this fear when we do it in the future. The same is true for children. The unhappy social time in kindergarten is likely to affect the children's social psychology in the future, thereby creating a kind of social fear.
When faced with children’s problems, parents should first find out the reasons and deal with them accordingly. At times, parents must refrain from forcing, beating and scolding their children, as this may cause serious harm to the children. What we need to do is to find out the cause of this kind of problem in children at the first time. This is often the most critical step in solving the problem. Only when the reasons are found can we guide and help the children most effectively.
Secondly, communicate with the teacher
After all, the teacher is the person who spends the most time with the child in the kindergarten, so When the child has this kind of problem, it is also necessary to communicate with the teacher Very necessary. In addition, feedback from other children and parents is also very effective for parents to understand their children's life more clearly. These ways can help our parents better grasp the psychological changes of their children and the setbacks encountered in life.
Finally, psychological guidance to the child
This kind of problem often occurs because the child has a psychological problem, so parents must give the child the correct psychological guidance. We can often have heart-to-heart conversations with children, and it should be noted that such conversations must be based on equality and respect for each other. Only in this way can children truly open their hearts to their parents, and the parents also You can understand your child better in this way. This not only helps to solve the problem, it is also very helpful for fostering the relationship between parent and child.
The author's message:
For parents, the process of parenting may require constant learning and correction. It is also inevitable for children to grow up. They may encounter various problems. When such problems occur, parents must calmly think about it.Recognize in time that the reason for this problem in children is the ability that parents need to cultivate.
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