Recently, a netizen's post caused a heated discussion on the Internet.
A netizen posted on Weibo:
"In the changing room of the swimming pool, women bring their sons in every day, more than one, all of them are in their teens, and they are tall. These boys also bathe with women."
This netizen negotiated with the mother of the child, and was counterattacked by the boy's mother: " If the child does not understand, you are afraid to read it!" The child is too young to handle it. The boy in the photo of
already has a certain ability to take care of himself and can go to the men's bathroom to take a bath by himself.
was led into the women's locker room by this mother, which was not only inappropriate, but also very obscene.
As the matter fermented, this incident attracted the attention of many netizens.
The comment area is full of criticisms and accusations of this mother:
is really going to vomit, it feels like it is completely intentional, I took the little cousin of kindergarten to swim, he went to the men's locker room to change clothes and take a bath without any problem. of.
has always said that boys are still young and ignorant, and it has nothing to do with the opposite sex.Then I want to ask these mothers, your daughter is ten years old, do you agree with her father to take her to the men's bathroom to change clothes? If it's a daughter, would you still say that the child is small, that's okay? ? ? ?
A netizen who had a similar experience is also condemning this kind of behavior:
The last time I went swimming, two boys in their teens stared at my chest and whispered, and one of the boys said aloud: Look at this big bag. I felt so speechless, I was so angry that I wanted to cry, I really wanted to go up and give me a slap.
01 Establishing Children's Gender Awareness
Children today mature earlier and have access to a variety of online information.
If parents do not establish gender awareness in their children early, many children will offend women without knowing it.
The 21st Century Business Herald recently launched a poll: most people are opposed to parents bringing the opposite sex into the locker room.
Sometimes, it is even more infuriating: is the hostility of those parents, which helps the children to do evil.
Parents should stop using children are still youngas ignorant shield, the child's young age is not his "gold of immunity", but the serious lack of parental education.
During this year's May 1 , a netizen took a photo in the women's toilet : a boy of five or six years old, lying on the floor of the women's toilet, peeping inside, shocking!
The child is indeed young, so maybe this is just out of curiosity.
But the ignorance and neglect of parents are likely to cause children to suffer from "gender dysphoria". Recently, a netizen's post caused a heated discussion on the Internet. A netizen posted on Weibo: "In the changing room of the swimming pool, women bring their sons in every day, more than one, all of them are in their teens, and they are tall. These boys also bathe with women." This netizen negotiated with the mother of the child, and was counterattacked by the boy's mother: " If the child does not understand, you are afraid to read it!" The child is too young to handle it. The boy in the photo of already has a certain ability to take care of himself and can go to the men's bathroom to take a bath by himself. was led into the women's locker room by this mother, which was not only inappropriate, but also very obscene. As the matter fermented, this incident attracted the attention of many netizens. The comment area is full of criticisms and accusations of this mother: is really going to vomit, it feels like it is completely intentional, I took the little cousin of kindergarten to swim, he went to the men's locker room to change clothes and take a bath without any problem. of. has always said that boys are still young and ignorant, and it has nothing to do with the opposite sex. Then I want to ask these mothers, your daughter is ten years old, do you agree with her father to take her to the men's bathroom to change clothes? If it's a daughter, would you still say that the child is small, that's okay? ? ? ? A netizen who had a similar experience is also condemning this behavior: The last time I went swimming, two boys in their teens stared at my chest and whispered,One of the boys said loudly: Look at this big bag. I felt so speechless, I was so angry that I wanted to cry, I really wanted to go up and give me a slap. Children today mature earlier and have access to a variety of online information. If parents do not establish gender awareness in their children early, many children will offend women without knowing it. The 21st Century Business Herald recently launched a poll: most people are opposed to parents bringing the opposite sex into the locker room. Sometimes, it is even more infuriating: is the hostility of those parents, which helps the children to do evil. Parents should stop using children are still youngas ignorant shield, the child's young age is not his "gold of immunity", but the serious lack of parental education. During this year's May 1 , a netizen took a photo in the women's toilet : a boy of five or six years old, lying on the floor of the women's toilet, peeping inside, shocking! The child is indeed young, so maybe this is just out of curiosity. But the ignorance and neglect of parents are likely to cause children to suffer from "gender dysphoria". Gender Misalignment : in psychology , refers to a person's psychological inability to identify with his biological gender, and some misalignment symptoms caused by it. Parents, if they don't take it seriously, confuse their children's gender awareness. Boys need to go to the men's toilet, the men's bathroom. Girls are going to the women's toilet,Ladies bathroom. Help them establish gender boundaries. A child who is often taken by his mother to the women's bathroom will not be aware of this. may cause children to do harm to others and themselves in their ignorance. There is another voice in the comment area that needs to be taken seriously: All the kindness in this world is given to my father, and this situation is all about scolding my mother, but can anyone who has a father in the family bring it to this? Many fathers have completely left the responsibility of raising their children to their mothers and are busy with their careers. "Chinese Family Parent-Child Accompanying White Paper" shows that in more than half of the families, children grow up with their mothers, and only 12.6% of families have their children with their fathers. In families, the number of " invisible fathers", "hands-off shopkeepers" and "widowed parenting " accounts for a high proportion. Is it not worth reflecting on the absence of fathers in family education? There used to be a popular saying: God gives you an absent father, will give you an anxious mother, and will eventually raise a child out of control. The essence of education is self-cultivation as a parent. It is not enough to rely on the strength of the mother alone. The psychologist Gerdi said: "The father is a unique existence and has a special power for nurturing children." During the critical period, parents should guide their children well.It is the responsibility of the children to carry out appropriate scales of sex education for children at different ages. Children need to learn to bathe independently at the age of three or four. In the case of ensuring safety, it is a necessary step to let children go to the toilet and bath independently. Ensure that the privacy of yourself and others is not violated in private public places such as public bathroom, locker rooms, etc. Otherwise, there may be a worrying scene: I worked in an educational institution, and I checked their homework for them during a lunch break. Behind him, he pushed him with his lower body, and the little boy lying on his stomach said, "You are horny," and then they both laughed. They are only 9 years old. It is hard to imagine that today's children are exposed to information far beyond our knowledge. Cultivating children's sense of independence and gender requires the attention of parents: My family is also a boy, and after the age of 3, I have not taken it into the women's toilet and the women's bathroom. In the swimming class, he changed his clothes by himself and didn't come out for a long time. I looked at the door of the children's locker room, and there were other primary school boys who immediately covered their important parts. I really can't figure out what the mother's mentality is when such a big boy is brought into the women's bathroom and the women's changing room. When my 5-year-old son took his 5-year-old to the hot spring, the male staff took him to change his clothes. He also changed his clothes when he went swimming. He didn’t dare to ask others to help him adjust the water temperature and just put on his clothes and come out. I would take a taxi and return When taking a bath at home, the child goes to the Children's Palace to change the martial arts clothes. He also goes to the toilet to change.I always tell him to respect girls. Don't use children as an excuse, this is disrespecting others and setting an example for children. Gender education starts from literacy at the age of 3, and teaches children that there is a difference between men and women When it comes to the words for men and women, you will know which one should enter and which one should not enter. The last time I went to the mall , while waiting for friends at the bathroom door, a boy of five or six years old wanted to enter the women's toilet. His mother was washing her hands at the sink, so she stopped him and told him that this is the women's toilet. , only girls can go in. If you are a boy, you should go to the other side, and then pull the little boy away. It's too rare to meet such a quality parent. My son learned to swim when he was four years old, but he went into the men's locker room to take a bath by himself! This is not a question of the child's ability, but whether the parent has taught the child to establish gender awareness and respect the privacy of other people's bodies! These parents are worthy of praise! psychologist Zeng Qifeng said: "There is no remedies for children to grow up, some are just responsible parents who provide stable and healthy soil." Today's article hopes to attract parents' attention to their children's gender awareness education , the father should also shoulder the responsibility of his own family education. 01 Establishing Children's Gender Awareness
02 Family education in the absence of the father
The psychologist Gerdi said: "The father is a unique existence and has a special power for nurturing children." During the critical period, parents should guide their children well and provide them with appropriate scales of sex education at different ages, which is the responsibility of their children.
Children need to learn to bathe independently at the age of three or four. In the case of ensuring safety, it is a necessary step to let children go to the toilet and bath independently.
Ensure that the privacy of yourself and others is not violated in private public places such as public bathroom, locker rooms, etc.
Otherwise, there may be a worrying scene:
I worked in an educational institution, and I checked their homework for them during a lunch break. Behind him, he pushed him with his lower body, and the little boy lying on his stomach said, "You are horny," and then they both laughed. They are only 9 years old.
It is hard to imagine that today's children are exposed to information far beyond our knowledge.
Cultivating children's sense of independence and gender requires the attention of parents:
My family is also a boy, and after the age of 3, I have not taken it into the women's toilet and the women's bathroom. In the swimming class, he changed his clothes by himself and didn't come out for a long time. I looked at the door of the children's locker room, and there were other primary school boys who immediately covered their important parts. I really can't figure out what the mother's mentality is when such a big boy is brought into the women's bathroom and the women's changing room.
When my 5-year-old son took his 5-year-old to the hot spring, the male staff took him to change his clothes. He also changed his clothes when he went swimming. He didn’t dare to ask others to help him adjust the water temperature and just put on his clothes and come out. I would take a taxi and return Taking a bath at home, the child goes to the toilet to change his martial arts clothes when he goes to the Children's Palace . He is unwilling to change it in front of others. When he sees a little girl changing his dance clothes, he will consciously turn his head away and not look at it. I have always told him to respect it. girl.
Don't use children as an excuse, this is disrespecting others and setting an example for children. Gender education starts from literacy at the age of 3, and teaches children that there is a difference between men and women When it comes to the words for men and women, you will know which one should enter and which one should not enter.
The last time I went to the mall , while waiting for friends at the bathroom door, a boy of five or six years old wanted to enter the women's toilet. His mother was washing her hands at the sink, so she stopped him and told him that this is the women's toilet. , only girls can go in. If you are a boy, you should go to the other side, and then pull the little boy away. It's too rare to meet such a quality parent.
My son learned to swim when he was four years old, but he went into the men's locker room to take a bath by himself! This is not a question of the child's ability, but whether the parent has taught the child to establish gender awareness and respect the privacy of other people's bodies!
These parents are worthy of praise!
psychologist Zeng Qifeng said:
"There is no recipe for children to grow up, some are just responsible parents who provide stable and healthy soil."
Today's article hopes to attract parents' attention to their children's gender awareness education, and fathers should also shoulder the responsibility of their own family education.
