Just as mental illness is inherited, so too can temperament and character expressions be inherited during pregnancy. As children grow up, their contacts in social life expand, and their personalities tend to become socialized. This socialization is deeply influenced by the environment. In reality, most people's personalities are mixed, cheerful children are sometimes more introverted, and impatient children also show a calm side when dealing with things. A cheerful person is basically a cheerful and introverted person all his life. Although most parents want their children to be cheerful and lively, in fact, each personality has its own advantages and disadvantages, and it does not completely determine life.
My mother's kindness and helpfulness have always been in my heart. One of the neighbors has a bad leg. Her mother often helped her fetch water and firewood, and sometimes even delivered firewood to her door. Sometimes we make delicious food at home and my mom asks me to deliver it to Ichihiro Mori bowl, or she simply asks her whole family to eat it. At that time, I didn't eat much, and I really admired my mother's mind and tolerance. I remember once drying peanuts in the west of the village, the sky suddenly became cloudy, the thunder roared, and it was about to rain heavily. My mother hurriedly put away her peanuts to help others. Not only did my mother collect a bunch of peanuts for others, but she also helped others pick them home. My mother was so tired that she could not stand up straight, and the rain poured down, pouring her mother into soup. After returning home, her mother had a cold for a few days, and the villagers came to visit and thank her. They said the peanuts might have been washed away by the water without the help of mum. My mother said that they are all neighbors and don't need to say thank you. Helping each other is necessary. It's easy to do good things. My mother's honest and frugal character made me. Chinese people say that diligent and thrifty housekeeping and thrift raise morality. Whether in the era of material scarcity or in the era of improvement, my mother never changed her character of being diligent and thrifty, nor did she call herself extravagant and wasteful because of the improvement of her life.Even if she lost a grain of rice while eating, she would pick it up. When the rice was harvested, it was the grain of rice that was really returned to the warehouse. Mom is honest and simple. She never tells lies and empty words, let alone sweet words to deceive people. She is always honest with people. Lu Yao knows horsepower and sees people's hearts for a long time. Her mother's character was praised by many people in the village. My mother is serious and responsible, and her character from start to finish is in my blood.
Mom will insist on doing everything well and will not give up halfway. Even if she is very tired and bitter, she will not push it to others. She still insists on doing her own thing, and it is done with serious and high standards, and she will not perfunctory, cut corners, and so-and-so. Mom said you can't use perfunctory things. No one is a fool. Do things with conscience. Deception doesn't last long.
1, professional knowledge
professional knowledge This should be the most basic. If parenting is regarded as a profession, you must first have the knowledge and theory required for this profession before you can be hired. Of course, if you want to be a parent, you don't need to examine this condition, which is why there are so many education problems, because parents don't know the correct education knowledge at all. Faced with the child's problems, how does he take the correct approach to education? Therefore, professional knowledge is the most basic prerequisite for being a good parent. This should also be the best. After all, if you read more books and listen to expert lectures more, you can at least grasp the correct direction of education, although it cannot be said that you can fully grasp education.
2. Lifelong Learning
Lifelong learning is the second requirement of a good parent. Because children are constantly growing and changing, it is impossible for parents to solve all their problems with one educational method. Therefore, parents must continue to learn and grow. Only in this way can we truly teach students in accordance with their aptitude.In fact, lifelong learning is a necessary condition for success and excellence in any occupation. Of course, wanting to be a good parent is no exception.
3. Self-control
I have read many parenting books and found that most of the parenting books in the world are about how to better educate children, and rarely how parents can control themselves. The problem is, proper education is impossible if parents only want to change their children, not themselves. I give an example. If someone asks you how to help your child with their homework, can you say one, two, three, four, and give them a tip? But when you actually teach kids, are you doing it your own way? Are you controlling your emotions? Do you often get angry with children? That is to say, it is not that parents know nothing about education, but that parents cannot control their emotions and cannot rationally adopt correct education methods, which leads to various education problems. If parents can rationally educate their children according to their own educational philosophy, instead of criticizing and accusing their children of losing control, I believe that education problems can be reduced by more than half. But the problem is that self-control is hard. Don't parents know they shouldn't yell at their kids? I must know, otherwise there wouldn't be so many parents who would regret yelling at their kids. However, they just can't control themselves effectively. Because the release of emotions is an ego instinct, it is of course not so easy to fight against the instinct. Therefore, the strength of self-control has become the biggest obstacle to parental excellence. Without this, it is useless to be excellent in other aspects, because other abilities cannot be realized, and the critical moment will fall.
4. Keen insight
Excellent parents also need to have keen insight, because parents can only really solve the problem when they find the problem. A hero is useless if he can't find his purpose without sharp insight.For children, seemingly simple behaviors may hide deep problems behind. Parents with keen insight can detect and judge problems in time and prevent problems before they occur. Conversely, if parents can't find the problem, or misinterpret the problem, the bigger the problem is, the more it will be solved, and the more problems there will be.
5. The ability to summarize reflection
This is a special ability I add, because this ability can help parents to constantly improve themselves, through the stairs. With the first four abilities, we are already good parents, but no matter how good parents are, they will make mistakes, and even good parents can constantly improve themselves and become better. For example, we use a method to solve a bad problem faced by children, and the solution is very good, but does not mean that this method is the best method? uncertain. In other words, can we learn from it and avoid making similar mistakes in the future? Absolutely possible. These are achieved through summarization and reflection. Summarization and reflection can help parents improve themselves individually, effectively practice the educational knowledge they have learned, and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Therefore, good parents must have the ability to summarize and reflect.
