Yesterday, a friend who just gave birth to a baby sent me a WeChat message. She said that she feels very powerless now. She is currently in confinement. Her husband and mother-in-law take good care of her, and the baby looks very cute, but sometimes she is just like I couldn't control myself and wanted to cry. She was afraid that her family would see her, so she would cry silently every time with her back behind her back. When her husband saw her wet pillow towel, she thought it was because she was too hot to sweat. Although she was unhappy, she didn't want to tell her family, so she had to come and talk to me.
Many mothers have mentioned this problem, that is, they always want to cry inexplicably during the confinement period. The old people say that the confinement cry is not good, but it is uncontrollable. The emotions in the confinement period are even worse than during pregnancy. , often because of some small things will be sentimental.
Why do you want to cry during confinement?
1. Physical reasons
First of all, the involuntary changes in maternal mood are mostly controlled by bodily hormones. During pregnancy and childbirth, the hormones in the pregnant woman's body will increase, which often makes the mother feel happy. But after giving birth, the hormones in the mother's body will drop rapidly in a short period of time, making the mother's emotions become sensitive and fragile and uncontrollable.
Secondly, the experience of childbirth and various physical weakness and pain after childbirth will make the mother feel uncomfortable physically, which will affect the postpartum mood.
Some beauty-loving mothers may be very concerned about body wounds and body shape distortions after giving birth. Coupled with the stimulation of hormones, mothers may feel depressed and cry easily.
2. First-time mothers, unable to adapt to the identity transition.
Some people are mothers for the first time. Although they may have made adequate preparations before giving birth, they will still feel a little uncomfortable when they suddenly have a villain at home. Especially this little person is not easy to take care of. Eating, drinking and crying frequently will make a first-time mother in a hurry.Sometimes unable to bear the pressure of this sudden change of identity, many mothers become prone to cry, the child cries, she also cries, and the mother and child cry together.
3. Conflict with family
In fact, compared with the meticulous care before childbirth, women who have experienced the post-natal period are the most vulnerable time and the time when they need family care the most.
For the mother who just gave birth, her husband is the closest and most dependent person at this time. However, the performance of some baby dads during the confinement period is not satisfactory. Because most men are more nervous, they cannot feel the needs of the baby mother, and some things are not done so delicately, which will cause the mother's mood to change, fragile and easy. broken.
Another point is that we often talk about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law may not be able to take care of the mother's emotions when taking care of the confinement, which will cause the mother to feel depressed.
If you cry frequently during confinement, the long-term sadness will be detrimental to the recovery of the mother's body, and may also affect the secretion of breast milk, resulting in the phenomenon of milk return. It can also harm the mother's eyes.
If you see a mother's mood changes during confinement, I hope her family can understand more, give her more love and care, and go through this difficult period with her.
At the same time, when the mother is depressed, don’t hold back. You can find a way to divert your attention, or you can find a way to vent your emotions. Although it is not recommended to go out during confinement, you can contact relatives and friends through the Internet to find some Pleasant entertainment.
It is not easy for every mother. They are all great mothers. Please give more love to mothers.
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