is writing this article. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not here to teach and guide others. I’m just sharing the past and reminiscing about the past. I’m afraid one day I’m too old to remember the bits and pieces of life I experienced with him. drop. There is also hope that we love each other deeply, understand and consider each other's contributions, so that our love will be as sweet as ever.
Sisters who are currently struggling with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, who are struggling between divorce and non-divorce every day, after reading it, I hope you calm down and think carefully about whether you want to continue living. There is also a mother-to-be during pregnancy and mothers to exchange and share experiences on how to raise children. This is why we share our lives. First of all, I am not the saint you are talking about. I have my own temper, and there are times when I am psychologically gloomy.
welcomes the happy and harmonious sisters in the family to share the ways of getting along between your husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and sisters who want to learn from the success of others, as well as sisters who like to sing the wrong way. Please respect each other, and those who curse please detour. Respect is not just verbal talk, it is that when we disagree, I can still listen to you, instead of interrupting in the middle, taking out of context, maliciously misinterpreting the meaning of others, and insulting for no reason. Of course, because my cultural background is limited, if there are typos or obvious mistakes in the article, I hope you can point out that this is by no means a novel, this is my experience and experience. I will reply to each comment seriously. If I say that I have not done it, I hope everyone can understand. It's the same in life. You always have empathy in everything you do, and you can't go wrong when considering issues from the standpoint of others. You think about others everywhere, and slowly they will also think about you everywhere. When you are convenient for others, you are convenient for yourself, and you treat your family in the same way. Whatever you treat others, how others treat you. This is my personal opinion. Point of view, when it's okay, start to write about your own things.
The first part is how I spent 4 years getting my husband from 1150 monthly salary,To the annual salary of 200,000, and how did I graduate from junior high school with a level of education that reached a monthly salary of 1W.
The second part is about 11 years of pregnancy-2 and a half years of my childcare so far, how to take the child scientifically and effectively.
The third part is the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In the eyes of some sisters, they want to know how to deal with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. Getting the husband's 100% approval, getting the mother-in-law is easy (of course, this refers to most mother-in-laws who love their sons). If you love your husband, please love his mother too.
So in my mind, the relationship between husband and wife ranks first, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ranks second. The reason why parenting is ranked second is because I think there are many mothers, and the way of raising children is more traditional and conservative. It is not that it is not good to follow tradition to raise children (because if you say that, many people will jump out and accuse me. Say, aren’t you and your husband grown up like this?) But everyone knows that it’s the current society, can it be the same as before? We should keep up with the times in scientific parenting. In fact, I would rather put parenting in the first part. I do not think how good I am, or I really want to share my own things in my heart.
Actually, I have a full schedule every day, from 8 am to 10 pm, all to my son, and from 10 am to 12 pm to my husband, you know . Women should pay special attention. Don’t neglect your husband because of your children. This is also the root cause of his cheating outside. Think about it for yourself? Go to work at 8pm and 9pm. We have time to exchange feelings. After the child, has been compressed to half an hour to 2 hours a day. Sometimes he is very tired, so we will probably talk and go to bed. If today is still free, we will talk for a while. So I can only write after 10 o'clock in the evening until about 12 o'clock, think about it, is the time very full? But looking back, there is no way. This is life.
My childhood was unfortunate,My grandma and grandma are in the same unit. My father and mother took over their jobs, met, met, and got married. I was born in a worker's family in 1987 as an only child. My parents divorced when I was very young. I don’t remember exactly how old I am. I only know that when I was in elementary school, my parents sat together and they discussed the registration for me. At that time, there were not many divorced families and they were afraid that I would be discriminated against. (From this point, I am still very satisfied and grateful to them, at least considering my personal feelings) The specific reasons for the divorce are even less clear to me. Dad’s family unanimously said that my mother had an affair, except for grandma. My grandma told me that in the three days I was born, my father had not visited me in the hospital because I was a girl. Mother said that she was desperate for her father's laziness, lack of progress, my grandmother's partiality, and my birth was the last straw that they crushed their marriage, that is, the fuse.
Because these have become past events, I don’t want to verify it. But they are not easy to get together, I can be sure of this. My father doesn't like girls, and my mother doesn't want you. Why should I want you if I have no income? My mother was divorced at the time. My aunt called many people to her work to promote her affair, which had a great impact. Grandma was a face-saving person. My daughter had an affair and was divorced. So in the first few years, my mother had an affair. I didn't go back to my grandma's house, but borrowed to live in the homes of various friends. The unit also took a leave of absence without pay and had no income. My parents refused to take me. Fortunately, I have a grandma who loves me. When my father gave very little support and my mother never paid support, I was brought by my grandma until I was 16 years old. I decided not to go to high school. , Stepping into society, at that time, I was full of enthusiasm and dreams, and fantasized about what I would buy for my grandma and how much money would I give her.
The actual situation is that I have been searching for 2 months, but I have not found any job. First, I'm only 16 years old, and no one uses me in regular units. Secondly, I have no skill. During this time, I was hit by my neighbors again. Because it's September, all my peers have returned to school and started their high school life. Only me, wandering in the courtyard every day. Neighbors started talking about me,Some said that I was hanging out with people outside, and that I was expelled from school, but no one guessed that I did not study because my parents did not pay tuition. Grandma was embarrassed to explain, and I was even more embarrassed. In China, people who laugh at the poor but not at the prostitution are everywhere. From that time on, I learned a truth. The sturdy life does not need to be explained. I will not explain how you misunderstand and misunderstand what you love.
Later on they were inseparable from the divorce, saying that it was a bit false to not care. In the first few years of school, I saw that my classmates were picked up by my parents. I was very envious. I did a lot of attempts to get my parents back together. Thinking about it now, it’s really true. Extremely naive. Later, I saw the consequences of my actions. As Fairy Zixia said, I guessed the beginning but not the end.
The deepest time in my memory was one day in the third grade of elementary school. Dad brought back an aunt that day and told me she would be my mother. She is a rural girl who was born in 76 years and wants to move her household registration to the city because of her marriage. She is 17 years younger than my dad and 9 years older than me. I said I only have one mother, and my dad beat me. In the following days, I thought hard about how to get my parents to marry again. Not long after that, I told my father that you will come to pick me up from school today. I miss you. After I confirmed that he would come to pick me up, I didn’t eat lunch at noon and rushed to my grandma’s house and told her to tell my mother, Miss her very much, and hope she can pick me up from school today. All of a sudden, I lived in the fantasy of beauty. As soon as the get out of class bell rang, I was the first to rush out, but at the beginning it was as I had imagined. My parents were there outside of the school, but it broke me all at once, and my parents were fighting together. Since then, I have never tried to appear with my parents at the same time, because after my many matches, no matter what happens, the ending will be the same.
My personality from elementary school to middle school is composed of excessive low self-esteem, sensitivity, and insecurity. The three-character classic says that at the beginning of man, nature is good. I think this sentence is very wrong. When I was very young, my classmates would point to me and say, look, this is the child without parents. They actually don’t know how much this sentence hurt me at that time. From their mouths, they said If it hurts me the most, I’ve known it since then,At the beginning of man, nature was evil.
And when I was in the 5th grade, my parents' little daughter was born. I don’t know if it’s fate, doesn’t he like his son? As a result, the second child was still a daughter. During my stepmother’s pregnancy, my grandmother and aunt persuaded her that you are still young, can you wait for my granddaughter to grow up and have a baby? The stepmother went on a hunger strike and rejected the proposal of my grandma and aunt. And because she was just 19 years old at that time, she was not enough to get married and have a baby. When she reached 20, she was already 7 months pregnant. My father was married again and had to have a birth permit to give birth, so they fined her. .
It is the gardener who has always been admired by the motherland who hurt me in junior high school. Primary school tuition is low, my milk can afford most of it, except for one called escrow class. At that time we ended school at 4:30. If each person pays 15 for a month, we can stay at school until 6 o'clock, and the teacher will take us home after finishing our homework. My whole class in elementary school was just a strange girl who didn't participate in the escrow class, but because they were still young and didn't understand the meaning of the word poor, they didn't use this to attack me. And the head teacher of my junior high school is really a hardworking gardener. She spares no effort to mention my poverty whenever she appears. Before every class starts, she has to stand at the door and smile apologetically with the teacher. I watched, using her standard smile, read my name aloud, and asked me, when will your tuition be paid? You haven't paid the whole class yet? Every time at this time, I can’t wait for me to be the sixth child of Calabash Baby. I am invisible. Why don’t I have money and I don’t pay? Do you need to ask ten times a day?
Afterwards, I was finally going to high school, and my grandma finally couldn't afford me anyway. I went to my dad and he said there was no money. I'll beg my mother to pay me the tuition fee. That's what she told me, isn't your dad very capable? Didn’t you say that as long as you get divorced, you don’t need to care about your children? Go find your dad. If I give you money, isn't it just to relieve your dad's burden? I want to see him regret it. At that time, I was so desperate, I swear, I will never bow my head to anyone in my life.
I will put my child to sleep soon, and I will come again when he falls asleep.A lot of the above are played during his afternoon nap. It’s a bit boring. It’s my growing up environment. Later, I will talk about my parents’ hatred of each other and extend the hatred to me. thing.
But I should update the process of getting acquainted with my husband in a while
I am coming, I am coming, just half of the time I wrote that the child was waking up from urine, I went to urinate with him, and he found me wearing clothes Yes, I have to accompany me to sleep together, so I’m late, okay, no nonsense, more posts. My 16-year-old photo is shown on the 100th floor. Looking at myself at that time, I really feel very tender. There were no photos before 16. There were some when I was young, but the grievances between my parents were too deep, and they burned my photos. I was fortunate enough to see a photo of me when I was 2 years old. In the photo, I was very beautiful, with very few hair, and the hair quality was not easy to distinguish. After all, it was a photo from 1987, and the color is not as bright as it is now. At the beginning of the second paragraph, I will give you a paragraph that I like.
I work hard every day for you, in fact, for myself
to stand on the platform where I met you
to meet you at the same level
I constantly improve myself every day, just to give You are a satisfied me
In order to be able to have a good impression on me when you see me, give me a chance to continue to write about our future with you
February 11, 2006 me I took the train from Dalian to Harbin, the target was very good. After graduating from junior high school, I stayed at home until March 2002, and I was blinded by crying, and I often became blind selectively. When I was 17 years old, I found a job selling shampoo in a supermarket. Earned 300 yuan in the first month. I gave it to my grandma, she didn't want it, she said that I needed to change my clothes and keep it for myself.
But during the period from 02 to 04, I became more cheerful, learned to laugh at myself, and learn to pretend to smile. It is the pistachio in the circle of friends. The most important thing is that I have positioned myself and have a deep understanding of the ability. I also made my first boyfriend during this time. I have learned to smoke since then,Drink and clubbing with colleagues. How should I put it, except that pornography, gambling, drugs, and gambling are all gone. I met from playing games in 2004. In order to be more worthy of him, I decided to take the certificate. Because I can no longer ignore my inner inferiority complex, I don't want to ask him every time someone asks him what your daughter-in-law's education is, he tells him that in junior high school, other people's faces are broken. Because he scored 620 in the college entrance examination, the people in the circle of friends are all the top ten universities in the country, and who went abroad and I know nothing. So we thought about it and decided to take the tour guide certificate. This certificate only needs to be endorsed. And I chose Harbin because the city has the highest acceptance rate in the country. We still know my current husband in the game, we know he is from Harbin, so we ask him to take care of me. I arrived at 1 o'clock in the morning, . When I got off the train, I felt frozen in my nose. Later, I learned that it was the snot flowing out, which was frozen. It was a few days ago at the beginning of the year, and there were still relatively few people getting off the train. My husband’s mobile phone was lost in the Internet cafe. So I only contacted him before getting on the train and told the train number and carriage. He said that he would pick me up at the station and let me get off the train without moving. We have no video before. I don't know what he looks like. I only know that he is 188cm tall and thin. In the night, I was dragging the box, and the whole station was empty. I thought to myself, if I had encountered a scam in Wochao. But I am not afraid at all, because I am convinced that it is a waste of me not to lie to people, and people who can lie to me have not yet been born. After waiting for about 10 minutes, a figure appeared in the darkness and walked towards me. It is no exaggeration to say that the shadows are so handsome! I was drooling! A man with 188 lanky and long hair (similar to that of Daoming Temple) who couldn't see his face came to me. His back is straight, not rickety like ordinary tall boys. Soon I watched him come straight to me (the main station was only me at the time) came near, I took a look, oops, I'm going. How do you describe a big face, that is, a mosquito bites a bag on your leg, and then the dead mosquito bites it again in the same place. It feels like a lot of mountains and mountains, and he is very white. You can make up for it yourself. Later, I learned that he had just been treated for tuberculosis, and his face was allergic to drugs. About 1 year after he had ,His face is smooth, but a faint color remains under the skin. But men are not so white and beautiful, I think so anyway. Ah, I have been struggling with for more than an hour, and I wrote so little. Sisters, do you think the text is similar to the diary of a primary school student? . . So what, I have used all the idioms I know and the more advanced vocabulary I know. Don't dismiss me, pay attention to it, is it right? Also, every time I change some, I only circle friends who leave a message and wait for the change. If it is a friend who wants to wait until the change is finished, please indicate that I will circle you when I finish it.
I saw many people and lamented my childhood. I was a little hesitant. I planned to intersperse memories one after another and write about my childhood experiences. I want to warn those who have children who want to get a divorce, and your hasty resolution will do much harm to the children. I want to pave the way for everyone to see my shortcomings in the future and understand how I became like this. Because there are a small number of bar friends in the bar, just look at the surface and don’t think about why? I am definitely not trying to win sympathy and attract popularity. Please continue to look down. Friends, if you think my text is boring, welcome to edit it for me. After I finish writing, I plan to bind it myself and leave it to my son. Hehe! I will write your names in, welcome friends with good writing skills to help me polish! Thank you very much!
At this point, I would like to remind everyone to be cautious when meeting netizens. If you want to meet, you choose the location, and you first look at your ID card when you meet. Use his phone to call your good friend's phone and tell them you have arrived. He took me to find a hotel to live in, so he went to the Internet cafe because he couldn't go back to the dormitory. The next day I asked him to take me to his dormitory in order to prove whether the identity he stated on the Internet was true.
Next, I saw what a scumbag is!
My partner, ever since I landed in Harbin, I had a phone call and lost contact. Then half a month later, I went to and learned from a friend that his first love came back, and the two of them are happy Up! At that time, I was really utterly ill. I was ill for more than 20 days and stayed in the hotel and couldn't get up at all. Is my husband now,Has been taking care of me. I accompany me to cover my sweat every day. I wear cotton trousers in the northeast. He just takes off his jacket and lie down every time. As a result, he sweats more than me every time. I made my big brother amused. Looking at him at the time, he looked very much like sex, which is what Kongli's hero accompanies the girl to resume doing after the girl's abortion.
After getting better, he asked me if I would like to buy a ticket and take a look. I said no, this kind of man is not rare for me. I hope he will always believe in the future that his choice today is correct. I hope he will never come back to me.
He asked me if I regret it? I said no. I know why he asked, because everyone thought I was after money. His family has an office building, two houses, and a shop in downtown Dalian. There are 100 acres of land in the suburbs. I don’t know about the deposit at home. The real estate I have seen is estimated to be tens of millions. But when I met him, he was wearing Li Ning, who knows he is rich! I am simply obsessed with his culture.
Before we go to bed at night, I like to hear him read English to me. He always says that I am a strange flower. He is only 170, still a fat man. I only went to his house to see those real estate afterwards. His worth will definitely add points to him.
The first love, the scumbag, and the marriage of the parents that I have seen since childhood, let me know deeply what kind of love I want. Baby Annie wrote in "Two or Three Things", what I want is lasting, patience, and never-ending love. I will give this kind of love first. If someone gives it to me, I will want it, but by no means anyone in the world can Give it whatever you want!
My criteria for choosing a spouse have gradually become clear. The man I want may not be rich now, nor may he have to be rich in the future, but he must have the heart to let his wife and children live a good life. Because I was able to work, the expectation of my husband at the time was to support myself. Be filial to your parents, earn more and earn less, not stingy, not stupid, and careless.
Two months after I broke up with the scumbag, my husband looked for my partner. To be honest, I was shocked.He has known him since I was the first person I had, and he was the first to know when I aborted a standard man. I would never consider a person who understands my past this way. He is definitely not the first choice. What's more, I still loved the scumbag at that time, and that was unfair to him. I analyzed it to him, and he said he didn't care. Then there was a meal of rhetoric, which is probably the same as the sisters being chased. This period of time has also been skipped.
I will continue to update later.
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