Text/Tang Ruo
Original work by Tang Ruo Xinxue
Everyone desires strength. In fact, strength never comes from strength. Strong people use their hardness to express their strength, which is precisely a manifestation that is not strong enough.
The real strength comes from learning to accept your true self from four aspects. The more calm you accept your true self, the more confident and at ease you are.
First, learn to understand your emotions
Once a student told me that he would be bothered and that he could not get out of his emotions to a large extent. Many times, when we are troubled by emotions, we are like a ball of paste and cannot straighten ourselves.
If we want to make ourselves stronger, it is not to suppress our emotions, nor to think that our emotions are bad. On the contrary, we must learn to accept our various emotions. When you understand that there is no absolute good or bad emotions, you may understand that emotions are part of our body and mind.
Don’t suppress emotions, and don’t think that when emotions come, you don’t want this emotion. In fact, the discovery of emotions is to deeply understand the needs behind emotions, which is the most important thing.
When you understand emotions, there is no right or wrong. Emotions are just a reflection of our needs. We may understand that accepting our emotions is the key to our life growth. The key to learning to regulate emotions is to understand the needs of emotions.
If you want to learn to be strong, you must first understand your emotions, especially when negative emotions come. We should not throw them away, but observe them and figure out why we are worried and anxious.
The essence of emotional management is to figure out its source, so that we can gradually sort out ourselves. True strength comes first from us understanding our emotions. As you see more and more, the impact of emotions on you will become smaller and smaller.
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Second, know how to express your fragility and emotions
Everyone desires to perform well in front of others, and is very afraid that they will not do well. But in fact, what can touch people's hearts is never the person who looks perfect, but the real self.
So the second prerequisite for learning to be strong is to know how to express your fragility and emotions, and don’t make yourself like a lofty person. True strength is down-to-earth and is facing your life sincerely.
In the face of our own fragility or emotions, we need to learn to express ourselves in a timely manner, especially when we encounter sudden pressure, we need to express ourselves to get more support and help from others.
You have never been fighting alone, so it is essential to express your own fragility to understand that we need the support and strength of love.
In fact, a powerful person is never alone. A truly powerful person understands that he and others are one. When he encounters vulnerability, he also sees others as vulnerable. Expressing vulnerability is the way we gain connection and communication with others, so as to avoid falling into the victim's mind.
Expressing fragility does not make us weak. On the contrary, expressing fragility is the process in which we know how to use others to help us grow. Expressing fragility is a way to inspire connection with others.
is truly powerful never to interact and communicate with more people as an identity and mask. True strength is a kind of reality. Reality essentially includes multiple scenes of oneself, fragility, anger, anger, and happiness are all part of our true self.
We know how to accept ourselves, and we will gradually ignite our lives.
Third, enhance your sense of value
If we want to make our hearts stronger, the most important thing is to learn to enhance your sense of value. The value of oneself is the strong inner hard core of a person.
When you think you have a high sense of value, the stronger you will be in your heart. If you think you are of low value, we will get angry and scared in our hearts, think we can’t do anything well, and our hearts are in a state of collapse.
is really powerful in essence, which is the blooming of self-worth. We need to learn to look inward and also know how to discover our own value.
Everyone is valuable. Your value does not depend on comparing with others, nor does it depend on us using external value to measure ourselves.
To enhance one's sense of value does not mean that we need to use various academic qualifications to package ourselves, but that we confirm ourselves, confirm our lives, and explore life according to our inner self. This is the driving force of love.
Many people have low self-worth and believe many lies to a large extent, such as measuring themselves with external standards, but it is precisely these standards that make us increasingly scarce.
Say goodbye to inner deprivation essentially that your existence is beautiful. Only when we firmly believe in this basic fact can we discover our own self.
Fourth, learn to look at yourself and others comprehensively
If we want to make our hearts strong, the most important thing is to look at yourself and others comprehensively. Many times, when we are emotional, we will attack others, but it does not mean that we are not friendly.
So it is very important to look at yourself and others objectively. When you label yourself and think you are a person with a big temper, we ignore our usual quiet years.
Therefore, learn to look at yourself and others objectively and not label yourself and others at will. Only then will we see more aspects of a person and realize that there are more possibilities for ourselves.
’s true strength is to be able to face yourself and others objectively, rather than exaggerating your description with emotion, thus making yourself lose your wisdom.
Wisdom and strength are essentially derived from respecting objective laws. When you know how to treat yourself and others with a good attitude, we can become stronger.
Power means respecting others and yourself as expected. We will understand that the essence of life is flowing. The so-called character determines destiny and we are in our inherent pattern. Only by breaking out of those sealed characters can we create inner rich life.
Today's topic: What do you think we need to start from if we want to be strong? Welcome to discuss and communicate.
