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On the road of life, everyone has their own way of life. Different lifestyles present different wonderful lives.
Some people live like a little sun all their lives, constantly emitting warmth, to warm the people around them and please the people around them. However, I feel that I become more and more tired as I live.
Some people are cold-hearted by nature and don’t please anyone, but don’t compromise too much, which seems difficult to get along with. However, his life was more at ease.
Cai Kangyong said: "I don't think it's too warm. It's the best way to maintain a good relationship with others. If you are bound by the word "warm", it will be even more difficult."
People who give "warmth" to others every day will constantly consume a lot of their energy and time. Moreover, in life, many people are not worthy of your every effort to please and give.
Life is a lifetime, and more importantly, you must learn to refuse, express yourself, and live out yourself.
A person, he acts very "short and cold" in the following places, and is often not simple.
02. People who get along with others are "cold" and don't please anyone
People who get along with others are not ignoring their own feelings in order to please others.
In interpersonal communication, if you always want to please others, you will definitely not be yourself.
Xiao Mo in " Female Psychologist " is a pleasing personality. He wanted to have a good relationship with his colleagues, so he always bought them drinks, helped them organize their documents, and worked overtime for them.
When he goes out to meet customers, he is always stopping the wine. Even if he couldn't drink and was feeling uncomfortable, he was embarrassed to refuse. But everything he gave did not win the respect of his colleagues.
Instead, he was ridiculed and isolated from them. His heart was getting more and more depressed and wronged, and both physically and mentally exhausted.
get along with colleagues, acted too enthusiastically, dared not refuse, dared not express his feelings, and put his inner world on the verge of collapse.
Bi Shumin said: "Rejection itself is a right. You are so easy to talk to, but who will understand you?"
If you always care about other people's feelings and constantly lower your bottom line and principles, it seems that you get along well with everyone, but in fact you can't get respect from anyone.
Learn to refuse. If you are a little cold and weak, you will have a easier life.
On the road of life, be a little colder and bravely be yourself and don’t please anyone. If others appreciate you, they will still be willing to be friends with you.
03. In socializing, it is very "cold". People who do not make low-quality friends
are very "cold" people who only communicate with high-quality people when choosing friends.
Yu Qiuyu said: "In interpersonal communication, if you often lose weight and detoxify, you will easily walk the future."
is with some low-quality friends, and you will not get any help, and you will become more casual and lazy, and you will not be interested in learning and improving.
Having been with low-quality friends for a long time, everyone gets together and is lively for a while, and it will eventually disperse. In the end, not only does it take time, but it also makes it impossible for you to grow.
"cold" people will not give their sincerity to others casually. For people with disagreeable values, people with bad behavioral habits or bad character, they will choose to treat them indifferently.
Everyone lives in this world and wants to find more confidants, but being passionate will make themselves become more and more humble. When getting along with others, they are not equal and cannot be respected.
"cold" people will not invite people who cannot get married into their own world at will. They only cherish the people they like and only communicate with the people they love.
"cold" people will not waste time and energy for low-quality friends, but will know how to spend more time, think about what they really want, work hard to improve themselves, and have a clearer understanding of themselves and the future.
04. In career, it is very "cold" and will not be influenced by others.
On the road of life, when pursuing a career, you will definitely hear a lot of negative and ridicule voices. People around you will question his choice and deny his ability.
"cold" people will not care too much about other people's eyes, and they will not have to listen to other people's opinions in everything. Instead, know how to strengthen your self-confidence and control your life according to your own ideas.
Because, they understand that not everyone can empathize with him, let alone fully understand his thoughts.
If you don’t get the support and understanding of others on the road of life, why not concentrate alone? People have goals, don’t think too much, put it into practice, and you will always gain something.
If you always care about other people’s thoughts and eyes on the road of life, and change your original intention at will, you may end up accomplishing nothing.
The most important thing for people in their lives is to live out themselves. People who are "short and cold" should firmly adhere to the route they choose, be themselves, follow the route they recognize in their hearts, and live a life without regrets.
05. Summary
On the road of life, there is nothing wrong with living a little "cold" a little.
Living in this world and keeping a distance from others will make yourself more comfortable. There is no need to rush to establish a closer relationship with anyone. If you have like-minded people, you will definitely become friends.
Cherish the nobles that appear in life. If you meet a confidant, learn from each other and achieve each other. For those friends who always ask you to spend time together, don’t contact each other frequently.
Everyone has their own way to go, and what others say may not be right. What others want may not be what you want.
Don’t care too much about other people’s opinions. Follow your plans and goals and try to give yourself a better explanation.
You don’t have to live too enthusiastically in life. It can reduce your burden on yourself and live a simpler and more relaxed life.
Don’t think too much about life, don’t meet other people’s expectations, don’t live like others, just try to make yourself happy.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
