Everyone will be accompanied by one or two fat people as they grow up, and I am the same. When I was not a fat man, I was very curious about why they were so fat but very satisfied with their figure. Until one day I also started to gain weight. I thought I would hate myself very much, which would generate full motivation to lose weight, but as a result, I accepted myself very quickly. I no longer have a prejudice against fat. why?
In fact, the truth is not difficult to understand. I used to think that my attitude towards fat people cannot be changed. After all, there are some fat people who look really uncomfortable, and some of the fat people I met in the process of growing up were really not friendly. However, when I became a fat man, if I had any opinions on the fat man, it would become my own opinion or not accept it. What's more terrible is that this kind of opinion doesn't really make me insist on losing weight on the behavioral level. It's too difficult.
So I have a serious inner conflict: I hate fat people so much, and I am so fat and can’t lose weight. What should I do? In order to alleviate this conflict, I either force myself to lose weight and return to my original figure so that I can maintain my attitude towards fat people; or I have to change my attitude towards fat people so that I can accept myself and return to my heart. In the state of peace. Comparing the two, it seemed that it was much easier to change my attitude, so I accepted myself and the fat man very quickly and happily. You see, the change of attitude, I thought it would be difficult, but it happened so easily.
In the book "What Psychology", the author uses a whole chapter to discuss attitude changes, which involves an important theory in social psychology: cognitive dissonance theory. Each of us has many views on everything in the world, and there will be times when these views, behaviors, and various views are inconsistent. When a person feels these inconsistencies, a very uncomfortable sense of tension will be generated in the heart. This tension is called cognitive dissonance .For example, you should have gone to bed at 12 o'clock in the middle of the night, but you chased after 4 o'clock in the morning because a certain TV series was too exciting, and the anxiety that engendered in your heart was cognitive dissonance.
The author of cognitive dissonance theory, American psychologist Festinger, explained cognitive dissonance as: keeping your view of the world consistent with what you feel and do. Compared with the popular belief that attitude determines behavior, Festinger believes that a person's behavior will in turn change one's attitude, which is an important point of cognitive dissonance. Just like after I became a fat man, I couldn't keep losing weight in behavior, so I had to change my attitude towards fat man.
Of course, cognitive dissonance theory can not only explain why I change my attitude towards fat people, there are many different kinds of cognitive dissonance and its application scenarios in life. In "What Psychology", the author uses various examples to help us understand this theory. Theoretical connection with life cases is the most prominent feature of "What Psychology". It can clarify relatively obscure concepts in psychology through the form of cases and encourage readers to think more. After all, psychology is a subject that needs continuous practice. Combining more thinking with events in life can really be useful for learning.
The author of this book is also very backed: Chen Xiao, Zhongshan University Master of Applied Psychology, formerly Beijing Normal University Zhuhai Branch Associate Professor, Master Supervisor, engaged in psychology research, teaching and Counseling and training has been around for more than 10 years, and it can be said that he is a senior psychologist.
is different from other popular books that are easy to fall into the chicken soup and preaching can not extricate themselves, "What Psychology" does not stress the principle, only the principle. Therefore, its theoretical part is indeed a little bit boring, but fortunately, it is all quoted to analyze actual life cases.And through case explanations, readers can understand the boring theoretical part. Really professional people, can anyone understand what they say?
In addition to discussing attitudes, "What Psychology" also involves self-concept topics, such as why adolescent children will not go out because of a acne on their face; is attributed to the corresponding inference theory of , For example, the criteria for judging "wonderful flowers"; conflicts between the sexes, such as how to deal with betrayal and so on. It can be said that it covers most of the scenes in life, just like the cover of the book: Every page has social psychology knowledge that makes people want to stop. So it is very suitable for people who want to improve interpersonal relationships and improve the relationship between the sexes, and also very suitable for readers who are interested in psychology, because the right example will make people feel immersive, if you want to pass psychology Professionals who improve their management skills can also read this book.
It can be said that "What Psychology" is a popular book that makes me feel a little amazing. It is not only professional but also popular and practical, and it is worth reading repeatedly.
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