In our lives, we often encounter such troubles.
knowingly, parents love us, they become irritable and impatient because they care too much. I have done my best and worked hard at work, but when I was criticized by my leaders, I feel wronged and frustrated. When friends and colleagues need help, although they are reluctant, they can't help but lend a helping hand, but when they look back, they feel aggrieved and unhappy.
and so on, things happen around us. They seem to be trivial small events that affect our emotions.
In short, life is not satisfactory, all problems come from oneself, that is an emotion, called emotional sensitivity, psychology defined as psychological sub-health, and is a potential psychological disease.
Faced with this problem, the only thing we can do is to become "slow" and make ourselves less sensitive. Don't take everything to your heart and be a person who truly has "emotional insensitivity".
You may say, so how do you do it specifically?
Japanese writer Tezo Kato published the book "Emotional Sensitivity". From the book, we know why we are sensitive and how to use the "Four Emotional Operations" to reduce the burden on our mood, keep us in a good state of mind at all times, make you more resilient, and quickly forget the ability to be unhappy.
As long as you learn these four-step calculations , overcome anxiety, your life happiness index will continue to improve.
1. Do addition
Do you always say to your children: "Look at the performance of other people's children, and then look at you, why are you not doing well?" Comparing your children with other people's children is the habitual movements and words used by most parents to criticize and criticize their children.
No matter what the child does, you should not think that he has done something wrong or not done well enough, but you don’t know that this is a harsh attitude towards the child.
We should be parents who understand and tolerate. Your children will feel more secure and more likely to feel happy and satisfied, so that the family will live in harmony.
2. Subtraction
In fact, whether we are friends, colleagues or relatives around us, there are always a group of people who complain about the pressure of life, unsatisfactory work, etc., and even turn themselves into the most hurt innocent person. In fact, these are not the facts themselves, but they do not have a full understanding of the facts.
People who are too sensitive are easily hurt. If you want to desensitize directly, you must try to stop complaining and dissatisfaction and reduce your emotions.
You should know that in this world, someone will praise you, and someone will criticize you, but whether it is praise or criticism, it is based on the other party’s one-sided understanding of you. You cannot be affected because of this. You should be the most real self.
People who always care about what others think of themselves, and good opportunities will be first possessed by others.
3. Multiplication
We are always willing to be friends with positive and optimistic people every day, while those who have a stern face all day, without a smile, and are even full of negative energy, not only bring spiritual internal friction to themselves, but no one is willing to become close friends with such people.
There will inevitably be unhappiness in life. When you are not satisfied, you can be unhappy, but you must also learn to accept setbacks in life and the courage to face difficulties, but don’t keep complaining and sinking.
If you are in a depressed mood for a long time, it will create an unhappy inertia for the brain. Sensitive people will always amplify their negative feelings, while optimistic people will live heartlessly. Therefore, excessive sensitivity actually amplifies the stimulation brought by the outside world.
4. Do division
The most comfortable and harmonious relationship between people is to reduce expectations for the people around you, accept the other person's shortcomings and weaknesses, improve your ability to solve problems, and it will be easier to have good interpersonal relationships.
Everyone has shortcomings, and as long as the key to happiness in life is in your own hands, life will become simple and happy.When we encounter problems, don’t retreat, face them bravely and not complain, so that we can become energetic.
is like those who are not satisfied with their work. Usually, they say that although the leader has not seen his hard work, no other colleagues will show themselves, and customers are embarrassed by themselves, and make excuses for their own deeds. It is better to find the right way down-to-earth and use practical actions to change the status quo.
This book tells us that when encountering things that are not easy, always maintain an optimistic and positive attitude, try to relax yourself, and occasionally let your mood calm down, and you will find that it is actually not as bad as you imagined.
ends with a sentence in the book: a cat looks at the world with his eyes, and a cat can treat you as air, but its eyes always hide its own stars and sea. ”
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