educate children? This should be the issue that society is most concerned about right now. Whether it is family education or school education, the purpose is to cultivate children's personality and guide their healthy development. Psychological science therefore provides the necessary foundation for good educational methods.
For a long time, our education model has been stick education. Under such education, it is difficult for children's psychological problems to be properly solved.
Confucius proposed teaching students in accordance with their aptitude more than 2,000 years ago. In the 19th century, the famous Swiss educator Pestalozzi opened up modern education in Europe. He believed that there are other education methods besides sticks.
Psychologists have made great contributions throughout the history of educational development. Psychologists believe that the main purpose of education is to cultivate children's social adaptability.
School is the intermediate bridge that guides children from family to society. The life style of children in the family is finalized after the age of 4 or 5, and it is difficult to change directly. In other words, education should not blindly criticize and punish, but should try to understand and solve children's personal problems.
"Girl Little Piggy Goes to a Psychologist" is a book about early children's psychology aged 2 to 5 years old.
The author Donald Winnicott was a children's doctor and one of the most gifted and creative psychoanalysts of the twentieth century. His pioneering ideas such as "transitional objects", "false self" and "the concept of healthy individuals" have had a profound impact on modern psychology.
Few parents have noticed that changes in their children's growth environment have great hidden dangers to their children's psychology.
For example, the girl Piggy lives a happy life. However, when she was more than 2 years old, the sudden birth of her younger sister changed everything, and the girl fell into emotional distress.
She jumps back and forth between the roles of mother and new baby, but refuses to be herself. This is caused by insecurity induced by changes in the environment.
The same is true in real life. After many families have a second child, the temperament of the eldest child will change. Parents usually feel that Dabao is a bit unreasonable and disobedient.
are actually weird behaviors caused by psychological insecurity. For a 2-year-old child, the privileged position he has always enjoyed suddenly disappears, which is almost a disaster, especially for those children who are sensitive by nature.
If we don't provide guidance, it may affect our children's adult lives. After children enter school, because schools are divided into grades, this means that no one can always be the "focus person." This is especially true in adult society.
As the saying goes, "An unfortunate childhood takes a lifetime to heal, and a happy childhood heals a lifetime." For these children, we need to try to get into their inner world and find the real reasons behind it.
Fortunately, the girl’s parents also understand psychology. Xiaozhuzhu has been undergoing psychological communication and treatment with doctors since he was more than 2 years old.
16 consultation records took us into Winnicott's private clinic, and also brought us into the girl's psychoanalysis world to get to know her and see her growth and the repair and changes brought about by the treatment process. The book
has a certain degree of professionalism. Throughout the book, as the therapy progresses, the author provides at appropriate times his comments and other notes about the moment in therapy, as well as his theoretical understanding of what is happening in therapy at this point.
However, it is not a boring and serious textbook, the content is lively and interesting. The author always keeps in mind that Piggy is a child. Treat and play games based on the child’s characteristics. Let girls enter the role of the game and enjoy the process of the game, thereby achieving the purpose of treatment.
The author believes that it is through creating, operating and enjoying games that children can control their own anxiety and accommodate themselves in the experience.
Fortunately, the girl Xiaozhuzhu became a real, natural, mentally healthy 5-year-old girl through treatment.
The story of Little Piggy reminds me of the story of the rejected pine nut.If Songzi's parents knew a little bit about child psychology , Songzi wouldn't live such a miserable life.
Although I don’t want to blame all the faults on Songzi’s native family, her parents’ attitude did affect her life. Who can endure the torture of low self-esteem for a long time?
In this book, empathy is used throughout the entire treatment process. For example, the doctor arranges interviews according to the child's requirements, which plays a very important role in the child's treatment. Empathy is also a treatment method that doctors have always advocated.
The psychological treatment of the girl Xiaozhuzhu lasted for a total of 2 and a half years, during which the number of meetings was not many. During treatment, she often included messages and drawings in letters from her parents to doctors to tell them how she was feeling.
No matter what, parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds are directly related to their children's life. Maybe it's an unconscious behavior on the part of the parents, but the child is sensitive and she can feel it.
In the author's opinion, the relationship between mother and child can nourish or hinder the child's development. Mothers are part of the environment, and as caregivers of children, it is important to provide an environment that promotes development.
