There was a hot search on Weibo yesterday. Research from Hong Kong Chinese University and Stanford University in the United States found that fragile mental health such as sadness and loneliness can accelerate aging more than smoking. This means that psychological factors cannot be ignored by any anti-aging method. Related research has been published in the recent journal Aging.
Years are probably the most fair thing for everyone in this world, not based on poverty or status. Aging is a fate that no one can escape, but some people age faster.
In 2009, a book titled "Loneliness is Shameful" was published. One of the authors John Cachopo is a world-renowned social neuroscientist, president of the American Psychological Sciences Association, director of the Center for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience at the University of Chicago, and professor of psychology at the University of Chicago. He has conducted 15 years of in-depth research on the problem of "loarness".
Kachopo's basic view is that humans are essentially social animals, and in order to obtain an ideal life, they must establish meaningful and satisfying social bonds. For this reason, he believes that loneliness makes us harsh on others, shrinks in front of opportunities, is fragile when facing blows, and is easily urged by time to grow old.
And the N codes of social animals include kinship selection, direct reciprocity, indirect reciprocity, relationship reciprocity, group choice
So what reason do you have to continue to be lonely?
But some netizens couldn't sit still, and they used their true nature to be sophisticated and asked, "What's the use? I don't want to be lonely either. No one can socialize with me." There was infinite sourness in their words. Some netizens said that this conclusion was developed by the smoking team, and then said in a narrow way that if smoking is combined with loneliness, will it be negative and positive? Some netizens also said that no wonder some elderly people obviously age faster than before after their wife passed away, and many of them died soon after.
In fact, loneliness is the norm of life.
Time dyed our black hair white, and the years made us taste all the loneliness.
Li Bai's loneliness is "raising his glass to invite the bright moon", Du Fu's loneliness is "the endless fallen trees are rustling down, endless Yangtze River is rolling", Liu Zongyuan's loneliness is "fishing alone in the snow of the cold river", Su Dongpo's loneliness is "picking all the cold branches and refuse to live, lonely sand bank is cold", Li Qingzhao's loneliness is "seeking, cold and deserted, miserable and miserable", Nalan Xingde's loneliness is "cold all night, who is the soulmate".
So, loneliness is the norm in life. Loneliness is not that no one can speak, but that no one can understand. Over time, I lose the desire to share, the courage to speak, and the enthusiasm to date.
However, Rien Qi may not care about this, because he had already shouted in his famous work " Sad Pacific " many years ago that it doesn't matter to be lonely.
Is it really cruel to leave
or gentle is shameful
or lonely people don’t care
no day or night unconditional
Is it really dangerous in front of
or betrayal is considerate
or escape is easier
rumor wind blows sand
One step ahead is dusk
One step back is life
