You must have difficulty in choosing . Laugh, we workers face a very difficult issue every day, which is what to eat for lunch today? Don’t look at it just a small thing, I believe that when 80% of workers order takeaway, they will find it difficult to choose from when they look at the variety of choices on the takeaway platform.
You may say that such small things cannot be decided by nothing, but humans are animals of inertia, and once you develop the habit of hesitation, it will be difficult to change. So how can we break through this dilemma? Only you have the following three mentalities and can easily get rid of the difficulty of choice.
Learn to narrow your choice
First point we have to learn to narrow the range of choices you choose, because one of the reasons why we can’t make a decision is that there are too many choices. Oh, I want this too, and that too. The subtext behind it is that I don't want to lose these things that all look great.
Let me give you an example. There was a post on the Internet before, which often said that it only took a few years for the Chinese to build atomic bomb to build hydrogen bomb , which was faster than the Americans and Soviets. But he said that in fact, the difficulty of the first to build an atomic bomb is different from the later generation. The difference between heaven and earth.
Because when the atomic bomb was not made, no one knew whether it could be successfully made. You don't have this path. When others make it, you create another one again. You know, it can be made. You narrowed the scope and became an engineering problem, saving a lot of time to explore.
exploration goals are difficult, so we need to learn to narrow the scope of exploration. How to narrow the scope? I suggest you take a piece of paper and write down all the options, and force yourself to delete one each time. Through this practice, you will gradually learn how to give up what you don’t need.
The current choice is the best
The second point is to believe that the current choice is the best. If you can't make a choice for a long time, there is another stumbling block that is to pursue perfection too much. You said I just want a perfect option, and when ordering takeout, I also want to pursue perfection. I want to choose what I like, both healthy and fresh. This horn is very sharp! What should I do now?
Let’s first understand what the essence of being a stubborn person is? It is people who focus on a very small point. We try to enlarge this point a little. If one day you do perfect every little thing, then is that day perfect? It seems perfect, but in real life things won't happen.
When you pursue perfection in every small thing, the result is that you will lose sight of one thing, and people’s energy is limited. You spend a lot of energy on one thing to achieve 100 points of perfection. In this way, you will not have the energy to do other things, and you can only fail the next thing you do, 80 points, 60 points, or even 40 points.
Back to ordering takeout, try to expand the problem and lengthen it. Is this kind of small thing really good for you to do perfection? There is a little benefit, but you have also spent a lot of energy on doing this, which is not very cost-effective. And tomorrow you will face the same problem when you order takeout again. So when we make a choice, we believe that the current choice is the best and spend the least effort to choose, because no matter how you choose these small things, they will not have much impact on your life.
Because you look at how many choices do you have in your whole life? For example, you have to make more than 10 choices per day on average, from 10 to 60 years old, about 178,000 days, and 170,000 choices are waiting for you.
Your life may have changed drastically because of such a small choice, or it may be that a small stone is thrown into the sea and cannot cause any storm. It seems that you can't control anything at all, so I believe that the choices at the moment are the best, and that can give you the happiness at the moment, and only you can control it.
Be brave to assume the responsibilities and consequences of choices
The last point is the courage to assume the responsibilities and consequences of choices. Sometimes we cannot make a choice because we are afraid of the consequences that we need to bear after making a decision. This may be a bit strange. I obviously want to do things well, but why are I afraid of bearing the consequences?
When we do something, we must want to do it well, but we are afraid that after we use all our strength, we still fail to achieve the results we want, so we subconsciously avoid doing this, because as long as I don’t do it, I will not fail. This sounds a bit stupid, but it is indeed a subconscious way to help us relieve stress.
So in this case, what should I do if I realize that the subconscious mind is doing bad things with good intentions? We need to slowly guide subconscious , and we take the initiative to think about the result of failure and think about the result of failure? Can I accept this failed result?
This is the black imagination in psychology. This imagination can be used because psychologists believe that black imagination can help us get rid of the limitations of thinking. At first you may not dare to imagine it, but you slowly force yourself to think about it, and then you start to think of some specific scenes, vivid pictures, and specific people and things.
began to realize that this thing was possible, and even if it really happened, it was not the end of the world. I was not completely at a loss, I could deal with it. Tell yourself that such a result will not cause much harm to you.
There is a saying that goes, "If you can't kill you, you can make you stronger." As long as the failure of this matter does not endanger your life, even if you fail this time, you still have the next chance to do better, as long as you are a person who knows how to reflect on yourself frequently. You will gain a lot of experience in failure.
Please believe that these experiences are your valuable resources to make yourself a better and more perfect person. We should not be afraid to make choices. Active choices are always tens of thousands of times better than passive choices. It is a great happiness for you to master your own choices.
Finally, we must know how to rank value and believe that the current choice is the best and the courage to take on the result after the choice. I suggest you practice it immediately after reading this article, and I believe you will definitely get rid of the difficulty of choosing.
