Top News · Henan Business Daily Reporter Wang Menglin
Xiao Zi is 15 years old. She was brought to the hospital by her family because of headaches, physical fatigue, poor sleep, inability to concentrate in class, declining grades, and unwillingness to go to school.
As soon as he entered the clinic, Xiaozi's father said that he often traveled on business and the mother was in charge of the child and did not know the child's condition.
When Xiao Zi’s mother heard what her husband said, she started to cry before she could speak. She said that it was so difficult for her. Her heart was focused on her child, but her child didn’t appreciate it and always contradicted her. Now the school doesn’t want to Gone, there is no way I can live this day.
The child, on the other hand, stayed aside calmly, silent.
After Xiaozi's mother finished venting her emotions, the doctor invited both parents out of the clinic and chatted with the child alone.
After seeing her mother go out, Xiao Zicai "confided her heart" to the doctor.
It turns out that Xiao Zi’s grades are still very good, and she is among the top in the class, but her mother’s requirements are too high, so she can only improve, not drop a little.
Especially after junior high school, my father was busy with work, and my mother gradually adjusted her job position for Xiaozi's studies, and gave up all opportunities to travel and study, just to spend more time with her child studying.
Xiao Zi said that she tried to communicate with her mother at first, hoping that she could give herself some space, but her mother said that she did not know how blessed she was, and often cried in front of her, saying that she had sacrificed too much and must study hard. Don’t let down the whole family’s expectations.
Case analysis:
Kong Derong, vice president of business of Zhengzhou Eighth People's Hospital, said that Xiaozi's mother is in her 40s and is in menopause . Her own emotions are easily out of control. The pressure her mother puts on her child makes the child feel "breathless". "Shangqi", so the child gradually stopped talking in front of his mother and only knew how to study. Even if he couldn't persist, he still had to pretend to study.
Over time, the child developed symptoms of headache, palpitation, chest tightness, and discomfort. After going to the hospital for examination, there was no problem. After detailed psychiatric examination and related evaluation, it was found that the child had some anxiety and depression, but more importantly, There were problems communicating with parents.
Later, after several psychological treatments, Xiaozi’s father gradually became involved, and her mother gradually “let go” and tried to develop her own circle of friends, establish new connections with colleagues, give her children full trust and respect, and learn to Communicate with children on an equal footing and learn to be friends with them.
When the mother properly relaxes the close contact with her child, the mother's condition also improves a lot. At the same time, the children are much less stressed and can get support from their parents when they have problems. The family’s emotional problems are easily solved!
