A netizen invited a reply: Because of my depression problem, I had intermittently consulted with several counselors for several psychological consultations, but I gave up after three or four sessions. I felt it was very useless. I was admitted to the hospital several times and to

netizen invited to reply: Because of depression and problems, I had intermittently consulted several counselors for several psychological consultations, but in the end I gave up after three or four sessions. I felt it was very useless. I was admitted to the hospital several times and took medicine for several years, but I still didn't feel better. I am very conflicted and uncomfortable now. On the one hand, I feel that the money spent on treatment is not worth it. On the other hand, I wonder if I am wrong. If anyone can give me some help, I would be very grateful.

Teacher Yuan Yunlu answered:

Here I will only talk about psychological treatment and drug treatment. You can refer to relevant information.

The effect of psychological counseling: half depends on theory and half depends on personality charm. The theory includes the causes and consequences of the formation of psychological problems and the reasons why they cannot be cured after long-term treatment. If your mental internal consumption is due to depression, then the counselor will let you understand the following points:

1. Have a comprehensive understanding of depression itself.

. What is depression, and what is the difference between depressed mood and depression?

2. How does depression form and develop? What are the basic symptoms of depression, including what is the causal relationship between somatization and psychological problems?

3. Why does it become more and more serious when you deal with it with your heart, strength and affection?

4. What did you do before, during and after the depression, and what should you do? This requires the consultant to have professional theoretical and practical skills (mainly successful experience) in neurosis and depression. Only in this way can you clearly understand the mechanism of depression.

2. The counselor not only wants you to have a certain understanding of the mechanism of depression, but also mobilizes you to do social surveys, mainly focusing on social phenomena related to depression. Around us, there are many normal people who suffer from depression and various unsatisfactory things to varying degrees. Why do they feel pain and confusion? Why didn't they become depressive patients , but you became a depressive patient, and you were miserable and helpless because of it? You have to investigate and visit these in your life. When you discover the truth, you feel like you have found a new world, which is very important for you to get out of depression. Of course, the premise is that your counselor has helped you answer the questions you have about depression. Otherwise, you won't go anywhere and will still be huddled at home, thinking and feeling exhausted.

3. After completing the first two major questions, the counselor should lead you to reflect and reflect on yourself.

This "self" is not an objective problem that exists in your subconscious, such as fear, anxiety, internal strife, depression, personality, experience, habitual thinking, etc. that you can feel, but your conscious level, your self. That is, your "cognitive attitude", "thinking style", "thought pattern" and other subjective issues that you cannot detect. The person involved is confused and the onlookers know clearly. In fact, no one can find the problem on their "face". So everyone will be self-righteous and even stubborn. These problems can only be seen by looking in the "mirror", and only bystanders can see clearly.

In other words, to get out of depression, the following three issues must be solved:

The first is the troubles of depression itself (including psychological, physiological and behavioral abnormalities) ;

The second is the

problem of oneself, family, society and society. The world's resentment complex .

The third is emotional management issues .

Among them, the "resentment" complex is the core of depression and the top priority of psychological treatment of depression. A skilled consultant can help you solve the above three problems. But there are very few psychological counselors like this nowadays. The "teacher" of
is a mirror. Teachers should not only answer questions and doubts, but also serve as role models. As a counselor, you should not only answer the doubts in the mind of the client, but also become a mirror for the client, so that he can reflect on himself and wake up as soon as possible. Otherwise, the meaning of consultation will be lost.

Not all persons with highly educated psychology majors are qualified for this responsibility. In fact, many psychology professors and PhDs are not competent in psychological counseling. Although there are many principles, they cannot solve the actual problems of visitors. Because the visitors come for help with problems that have been bothering them for a long time, and they are all people who are inquisitive and unwilling to give up until they reach the Yellow River. If the counselor cannot solve the doubts in their minds and make them see the truth of the problem clearly, they will not be able to give up their obsessions.

Psychological counselors are human spiritual mentors. Qualified consultants are rare, because they not only need professional knowledge, but also need down-to-earth traditional cultural knowledge that is in line with Chinese people's outlook on life. They must also have rich life experience and noble personality charm.

Only a clean and flat "mirror" (with correct three views and a noble soul) can help others see their souls - show their original shape, allow visitors to discover their true self, make changes and realize their souls Metamorphosis.

However, in the team of psychological counselors, there are too many fake ones. Most of them are people who only have Western culture but lack Chinese culture. They will only brainwash and implant Western values ​​into the hearts of Chinese people. Such "spiritual teachers" will only lead the Chinese people astray. In addition to greedily draining your money, it will also make your psychological problems become more and more serious.

Social life is a mirror, and life is the best teacher.

The author suggests that you should devote yourself to the familiar flow of life with pain. Maybe in real life, someone or something touches you and makes you see the problems that exist in you, and you can see the truth at once. Your self will wake you up.

On this day, I want to congratulate you. Because you have let go of your past obsessions and reached peace with yourself, your depression has embarked on a path of self-healing.

Finally, I wish you a speedy recovery. I am Yuan Yunlu, the author of a series of psychological works such as "Emotional Psychology" ( Jiangxi Education Press ), "Principles and Rehabilitation of Depression", "Principles and Rehabilitation of Obsessive-compulsive Disorder" (Hebei Science and Technology Press).