Training camp Q&A selection
Through study and the help of sisters in the group, my relationship with my husband has become normal recently . He also urged me to go back to the company to work, and he continued to give me money, and he never went out. I have reported it wherever I go, but now I am worried about
1, whether he is acting in a disguised manner, because it is impossible for our work to never encounter situations where we need to socialize. I may also go on a business trip or travel. He told me not to think too much and that he would do it himself. But I feel like when the time comes, he will hide it from me.
2, the second fear is that although we have restored our relationship now, if this matter fades away in three to five years, he will go too far and become a lover. So I want to find a new model . In the past, he thought I was strong and couldn't feel my love. So, can I just soften up and be the one who shows weakness?
When a dispute occurs, I do not argue with reason.
When I give love, I look at whether my intention is a good one.
When I have expectations, whether the expectations are reasonable.
Never deliver everything. Will I get a relatively good result this way?
Psychological counselor Wang Shanshan answered
1.The point of fear is the inability to obtain satisfactory results through control. It can only be said that this person does not want it from the bottom of his heart, and the relationship between you two is really good, reaching 70 or 80%.
2. As long as most of your mutual needs are met and you are both satisfied with the relationship, why should he support you? Breeding also takes time and effort. So let’s focus on relationships. You both have the same fear.
3. Showing weakness These are superficial words, techniques, and skills. When will the technique be the icing on the cake? Only when the mentality is right can it be effective, and the underlying logic cannot be -biased.
When you give love, it comes from the bottom of your heart because you love him and want to be good to him, that’s fine.
It is also important to allow the other person to reject you when you have expectations for him. Whether
is reasonable or not depends on whether the other person wants to be satisfied. Your standards and his standards may not be the same. If they are different, you can verify it and just ask with respect and curiosity.
When you allow + respect + be curious, your relationship will get better and better.
Today’s course recommendation - How to deal with negative energy (contact assistant Wei shaoya2022 to receive free meditation materials)
1: Is negative energy "wrong" or "incorrect"?
2: I am in a state of negative energy. I feel so bad. Can I get out on my own?
3: Can negative energy play a role in the happiness I want?
4: What kind of person do you want to be when you are in negative energy? What can you do for what you want?
5: Negative energy ~ energy ~ positive energy, this is a process and there is a method.
6: The stronger the negative energy, the more happy energy there is. Do you believe it?
