Liu Yang shared his self-reflection on editing the introduction: 1. In the past, I had to edit the introduction immediately after editing the introduction, or after editing the audio. I was anxious, anxious, and wanted to finish it all at once. I feel a little calmer now. For exa

Liu Yang shared his self-reflection on editing the introduction:

1. In the past, I had to edit the introduction, or I had to edit the introduction immediately after editing the audio. I was anxious, anxious, and wanted to finish it all at once. I feel a little calmer now. For example, whether it is an introduction or audio editing, I can complete it in two or three days. This is not a kind of laziness, because you know that you are not wasting time. It is just giving yourself enough time to do one thing, so that you will not be in a hurry, but will do it more smoothly and in a calm state. It can also be said that the target will be cut into smaller pieces, but the timeline will be lengthened.

2. In the past, there was always an impedance, which was to watch some content, watch some videos, and listen to some audio. It's much less now. After I talked about the topic of "trust", I felt that the barrier in my heart was suddenly gone.

I thought about the reason:

First, the main thing is to start taking responsibility for myself. When you start to trust a team, an environment, or a person, you start to be responsible for yourself. If a person is not responsible for himself, then he does not trust anyone, because he does not believe in himself, and his relationship with himself will not be good. , before it was a kind of entrustment, entrusted to Teacher Ma and entrusted to the people around you. Although you are doing the same thing, your mentality and motivation are different, so your motivation to do things is also different. It's stronger.

Second, when you start to take responsibility, you will feel that this matter is very important. It is not an optional thing. You will take the initiative to do it, and your enthusiasm will be higher than before. .

Thirdly, when you start to decide to take responsibility for yourself, you will actually have less inner conflicts. Because you have no complaints, no grievances, no unwillingness, you will have more energy and no need to spend your experiences in your heart. On conflict.

3. After getting rid of the "illusion of trust", my relationship with Teacher Ma has become better. It can also be said that my relationship with my inner father has become better.

An obvious example is: For example, in hypnosis classes, everyone may have been a hypnotist face to face with Teacher Ma, or did something close to Teacher Ma. I have not done that. I felt a kind of "father's love" before. That feeling of being taken away from me by someone else, or that I was ignored, I don’t have that feeling anymore.

Because I used to think that you should be responsible for me, and the complete entrustment mentality is unreasonable, so if you don’t do something or don’t want to do it for your own reasons, you will blame others for this reason. It can be said that this is attribution The reason for the method is external control.

Secondly, I have a baby-like fantasy, feeling that someone will be responsible for you, or feeling that some of my father’s practices or behaviors in real life do not meet my needs. Teacher Ma is a projection of my father, and then I hope that Ma Of course it is impossible for the teacher to satisfy you. Then there will be emotions, and then there will be resistance, resistance to Teacher Ma’s audio or video.

The result of previous irrational beliefs is: I am waiting for you to satisfy me, I am waiting for you to make up for me. The reality is impossible, so I actually have negative emotions in my heart, but they are glossed over and I don't dig deeper. Now it's not only exposed, it's resolved.

is a good thing to dig into. This is to consult for yourself.

Now when my dad tells me something, I actually feel much less emotional and look at the matter very rationally, instead of getting furious when he says a word - once again verified, Cognition determines everything.

Everyone’s response after sharing:

Ru Meng: All human sufferings come from - rejection! Absolutely! become! Ripe!

Zhang Nan: Like, I just finished reading it. This is a consultation for myself.Liu Yang's changes in the past two days are obvious, especially when it comes to cutting audio and organizing introductions. Once he does it, he can sit still for 1-2 hours. In one afternoon, his concentration and endurance are very obvious. I am so happy.

Ru Meng: Did Sister Liu Yang exercise often before?

Liu Yang: The improvement in concentration is due to less influence from the outside world. Focus on doing one thing and ignore everything else. I used to be easily influenced, and even if I was doing the same thing, my concentration was not very good.

has no problem now. With less anxiety, fewer emotions, and naturally fewer conflicts, you can better focus on what you are doing at the moment. There will be nothing else to attract your attention, whether it is in your subconscious or in the real world. Unless the external noise exceeds the normal value (such as the sound of electric drills, the noise of a store opening...)

I watched the conversation between Sister Liu Yang and Ru Meng in the middle of the first class. I felt very anxious after watching it. I ran out and walked home halfway through the second class. I cried while walking and thought, Oh my God, how sad! After returning home, I continued to cry in my room. I have been doing this a lot in the past few days. As I walked, I felt very sad and started to shed tears. It seemed that I was mourning for myself when I was a child. I felt that I had grown up all the way, and I just gritted my teeth and endured it. , I rarely care about my own feelings, I just keep moving forward. In the past few days, I suddenly realized clearly how I grew up! I feel very sad and heartbroken. In the past, when someone knew about my upbringing and said they felt sorry for me, I felt very strange and confused. Why would they be like this?

Only now do I understand that I have ignored myself for too long, and I should cry for myself. I was anxious when watching the conversation between Sister Liu Yang and Rumeng today because I felt out of place. I put myself in your shoes and thought about your problems, but I couldn’t seem to understand them. I understood what you said, but I couldn’t use your thinking to think about the problems. Just like Chen Guo returned to social life in Under One Person, I don't understand why you are like this and I am like this. After crying for a while, I felt better. I re-read the chat history. There are still things I don’t understand. But I admire you from the bottom of my heart. Sister Liu Yang has solved the trust problem vigorously and resolutely. I have gained experience while practicing. I think you have done it again. Brave and wise, I have seen Ru Meng’s recent progress. She is diligent, determined, and thinking more and more deeply. I am happy for you!

Reading your conversation today broke one of my disguises. I have been pretending to be gregarious, but today I found that I am not very mature mentally in some aspects. Sometimes when people talk, I think I should understand, so I use the way I should think. Let myself pretend to understand. There are too many things I don't know. I didn't want to face these strange aspects of myself before, but many places are blank and confusing, so I am out of place. But so what, it's up to people to find things they don't remember. , just try to learn what you don’t know, I will start by imitating you.

Liu Yang: @Xingchen When I first came here, I was actually very calm. Because of my ignorance, like Ru Meng, if I knew it, I would know it, and if I didn’t, I would not know it. After studying for a while, I “actually don’t know it”, but like you Thinking like "you should be able to do it after such a long time" starts to fight against yourself. In fact, if you don't, it means that you haven't put in enough effort yet. Give yourself time, don't rush for success, learn a little bit every day, and you will eventually understand. In the past, in the middle period, Pretending to know how to pretend is not just in the team. In fact, if you look into the past, you also used to do it when you were a child or in school. When the teacher asked you if you knew it, you would raise your hand if you didn't know it. Even though you didn't know it, you still said yes. Why? First, fear, fear of something, fear of being called stupid (my father used to be in a bad mood or I couldn’t do things the way he wanted, he would say, you are as stupid as a pig), second, comparison, everyone can do it, I No, it's embarrassing. You will find that you are looking externally for the reasons instead of introspecting.

’s current thinking is very simple: “If you know it, you know it, if you don’t know it, you don’t know it.” For those who know it, can you see through it at a glance that there is something to pretend? For yourself, you won’t learn anymore, so On the contrary, I am more practical and at ease than pretending, and there is no obstacle to learning in my heart.

After figuring it out, you can face the growth of others and face the things that others are better than you with. You can learn from each other's strengths to make up for your weaknesses.

Zhang Nan@In my eyes, whether you are crying, naughty, humorous, melancholy, laughing, completely exposed to others or deliberately pretending to be friendly, you are Xing Chen, to me Someone I've never met before. So I think what Teacher Ma said about learning in life is to learn from your own past experiences and learn from the people around you, because everyone is an encyclopedia, even a dark period in the past is an encyclopedia. A fortune worth recording and looking back on. Thank you, Xing Chen, for being willing to open your encyclopedia and let us browse

If you say it's weird, I'll be punished. I don’t feel scared when I post these words in my heart to our group, but they are a bit strange and don’t sound like what I usually say. Sister Liu Yang, I’m not pretending to understand because I don’t understand knowledge. I discovered that your body, mind, and brain seem to be one, and your process of progress and growth is coherent. But I am playing checkers, and I have omitted some things related to myself. Teacher Ma told me the steps, I did it, and then I grew up. Some things in this process have not been processed, and I don’t know why I missed them. This feeling makes me feel incomplete, like Just like the Forrest Gump in Forrest Gump.

I just realized now that I don’t understand myself very well. I can’t explain what I’m thinking, and I don’t know why I’m crying. I’ve been in a daze these past few days. It’s probably because something is popping up in my subconscious. Let me tell you that I feel like I am in my current state. I feel like a stupid child, and I am not prepared for you, as if I have to start all over again.

This is the daily life in the psychological counseling room. Follow Teacher Ma Chengning to learn psychological counseling. You will make progress every day, and every little thing is a huge gain~~~