Everyone is born with emotional genes, but everyone’s ability to control emotions is different. Even most people in society are controlled by emotions. If you can surpass others, look at it from the binary opposition of and . Emotional issues. You will find that so-called "negative emotions" also have a very important ability-that is, they can make people feel "deeply" that they are deeply connected to another self.
When you are immersed in negative emotions, you can always recall and feel those unpleasant feelings over and over again. That is because you can feel your deeper self. Why can you feel deeply connected to yourself? Because people have accumulated various internal traumas from childhood to adulthood, which make people unforgettable. Most of the time, they have nowhere to vent and can only hide them secretly.
People will continue to be in negative emotions. At the same time, because they are immersed in negative emotions, they have seemingly reasonable excuses to avoid everything. Everything can be said with "I am in a bad mood and can't do something." As a reason that everyone thinks is reasonable.
At the same time, people can also find seemingly reasonable excuses when they indulge themselves, "I am in a bad mood and need to go shopping, nightclubs, and adjust myself." In the beginning, people are really unmotivated by negative emotions. When this happens many times, When something happens to themselves, people will be immersed in the "benefits" brought by negative emotions to avoid the reality they are unwilling to face.
This does not mean that there is a problem with the person's own character. At the beginning, he simply used escape and indulgence as excuses. This is due to the nature of people seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages. People instinctively look for the easiest and lowest cost to maintain. The path to psychological balance, which turns out to be the path with the lowest cost, often means that it is just compensation and short-term maintenance and does not solve the fundamental problem.
In fact, only the strong do not need to add any reasons or excuses when they do anything. The weak need to have a reason that they think is reasonable when they do anything to strongly support themselves in doing something. Propulsion, when you give yourself full and free rights, you can accomplish many things that you think you can't accomplish.
Adding extra conditions to yourself as an endorsement out of thin air is equivalent to putting a shackles on yourself. With the blessing of the shackles, you always have various excuses to temporarily escape. At this time, you are not missing a problem but One more question. Contain yourself to a greater extent.
For example: when I see a child crying and I want to help him, the child is releasing emotions, which quickly changes to you watching him immersed in negative emotions, making you irritable and restless. This psychological process is quickly transferred to you, and you cannot sense it at this time. It was originally a matter of dealing with the child, but now it has become a matter of dealing with one's own emotions.
was originally a problem, but now you have caused another problem. You will find that things that had nothing to do with you suddenly ignited yourself. At this time, you were controlled by emotions. At this time, your emotions replaced you and made a decision. Irrational decision-making is violent, shouting: Shut up, either beating or scolding, causing both parties to become more emotionally agitated. When the residual heat of the emotions subsides, they will regret their original irrational behavior. People are always so fickle.
