"Meng Hua Lu" is about to come to an end. Song Yinzhang, the "love brain", finally got the idea and began to concentrate on his career, and his life was prosperous. Song Yinzhang was both talented and beautiful, and her pipa skills were unparalleled in the world. However, she was

" Meng Hua Lu " is coming to an end. Song Yinzhang, the "love brain", finally got the idea and began to concentrate on his career, and his life was prosperous.

Song Yinzhang was both talented and beautiful, and her pipa skills were unparalleled in the world. However, she was born in a lowly family, which made her feel inferior and sensitive, which made her resentful. "The heart is higher than the sky, and the life is thinner than paper." This is somewhat appropriate to describe Song Yinzhang in the early stage, but she is not really arrogant.

She does not have a clear self-awareness like Zhao Paner. Zhao Paner is very clear about her own advantages. She is beautiful, good at dancing, courageous and talented in business. However, she also has her own weakness. She is aloof and strong, and she cares about being relegated to a lowly status for fear of being looked down upon by others.

Overall, Zhao Paner is a person with stable and high self-esteem. She has firm goals, has the courage to make choices, and can deal with failure calmly. When she encountered betrayal, she also regretted that she didn't understand people well, but she would never give up on herself.

Her self-perception is very stable and will not be easily changed by external things. She was overjoyed to receive Gu Qianfan's admiration and treated her sincerely, but she did not inflate herself and felt that her worth had doubled. She is still her, serious about her career.

But Song Yinzhang is different. Her understanding of herself depends on the evaluation of others. When others praise her, she becomes ecstatic; when others despise her, she collapses. Therefore, she often wanders between the two extremes of self-aggrandizement and self-abasement, with extreme mood swings.

Song Yinzhang builds herself from the outside in. She has unstable high self-esteem, and her self-esteem level depends on others' attitudes and evaluations of her. This gave others the capital to manipulate her, and she suffered a lot for it.

Pictures At first, Zhou She was greedy for her property, pretending that he fell in love with her at first sight and would treat her like a treasure, so she jumped in. Even if Zhao Paner exposed Zhou She to her face as nothing more than a drunkard and a womanizer, she would not give up.

"A businessman who travels all over the country, how come he falls in love with you at first sight when he has never seen such a beautiful woman?" Zhao Pan'er is sober in the world and can hit the nail on the head, but she doesn't understand the little Jiujiu in Song Yinzhang's heart.

"I don't pay attention to any bewitching beauties, but I have a deep love for me. This just proves that I am attractive." Song Yinzhang's choice to run around at night was largely due to this temptation - she was eager to prove own uniqueness.

I once knew a girl who claimed that she didn’t like good men, but liked ruffian bad men. Later, she did date a playboy. Everyone reminded her not to be fooled, because the man changed his girlfriend every now and then, but she decided that he was just playing around with her before, but this time he was serious about her. What is the difference between

? He can play with others, why can't he play with you? Girls are most afraid of this kind of inexplicable self-confidence, thinking that they will become the "exception". Of course, there was no surprise in the ending. The man quickly gave up on her after succeeding.

Picture People's character is consistent. A person who does not take relationships seriously or solemnly will not be able to change his past if he changes his love partner.

Fromm said: "All forms of love are based on fraternity." His fraternity means that individuals have a sense of responsibility for all people, care for, respect and understand others, and are willing to improve the interest of others in life.

A person who can play with others arbitrarily cannot be "loving". He has no ability to love at all. He cannot love you. The so-called "I don't like this world, I only like you" can be used for sleepwalking, but don't take it seriously.

In addition to unstable high self-esteem, Song Yinzhang also has a second fatal weakness, that is, he is deeply trapped in the "second sex plot" and always longs for a man to save him.

Zhou She promised to help her deregister, which also had a fatal temptation for her.

Zhou She is worthy of being a master of romance. He completely hit Song Yinzhang's inner needs. Flirty words, blood seals the throat, and you can capture him with your hands.

"Thank you to God, thank you to earth, thank you to fate for allowing us to meet. Since I had you, my life has been full of miracles..." Song Yinzhang listened to love songs every day, and sacrificed himself in a confused way, almost losing his life.

After this catastrophe, she should finally wake up. It seems that he is slightly awake.

On the road, she saw the courtesan Zhang Haohao going out for a parade, and the streets were filled with people, vying to catch a glimpse of the courtesan's beauty. Zhang Haohao sits high on the horse, with pearls and emeralds swaying, and the light is shining. The great talent Liu Jiu personally leads the horse for her, which is a wonderful scene. Song Yinzhang was fascinated and envious.

Zhang Haohao told her that a kabuki makes money based on her true skills, and does not flatter, do not sell herself, and is not lowly. She was enlightened and her whole body was lifted up.

However, has she really changed? Not really. All her self-confidence is still based on the evaluation of others.

It was Xiao Qinyan's birthday. She defeated Zhang Haohao at the birthday banquet and won the whole house. Even Ke Zheng, the leader of Qingliu, praised her highly and wrote the word "character" for her in his own handwriting. Ke Zheng's actions may be mainly to ridicule his political enemy Xiao Qinyan. But Song Yinzhang took it seriously and directly flaunted himself with these two words.

"Why am I famous all over the world, but I still have to play the pipa here for these sour scholars?" She was completely self-inflated and could not find the east, west, north, and south. This is in stark contrast to Dong Yuhui, who became popular a while ago.

Dong Yuhui responded: I don’t think I’m popular, I’m just blessed to have met a group of people with similar interests and compatible personalities. "

is confident and calm, neither humble nor arrogant. He said that he is still the same person. A year ago, countless people scolded him in the live broadcast room, but now so many people recognize him. He has not changed, but the people he meets have changed.

doesn't care Regardless of external evaluation or reputation, people with stable and high self-esteem will stand firm and will not lose their true feelings. But Song Yinzhang is not such a person, which destined her to have a turbulent life.

After learning about Zhao Paner and Gu. After the relationship with Qian Fan, she felt double betrayed, and her love and friendship had abandoned her. She was eager to get out of this predicament and fell into Shen Ruzhuo's trap.

Shen Ruzhuo is the 2.0 version of Zhou She, with more sophisticated methods and more dirty thoughts. .Zhou She only wants money, Shen Ruzhuo is all I want, it’s best to sell you too.

“I really admire a kind, courageous and knowledgeable young woman like you. "

"You are a pearl and jade, you should not fall into the mud of the market. "

"When you leave the country, I will marry you as my wife. "

Shen Ruzhuo still took Zhou She's script, but the acting skills were improved. Song Yinzhang was so coaxed that he even did things that he usually despised to do, such as drinking and laughing. He had no "character". I couldn't care less.

Fortunately, I met Zhang Haohao at the critical moment. After some careful advice, she finally woke up. Otherwise, she would have become Lin Sansi's bed toy.

After learning from it, Song Yinzhang finally understood. , I have only lived in a dream, and men's compliments can only be treated as fun, and cannot be taken seriously. People should be self-reliant and cannot rely on men.

After getting out of the second sex plot, his IQ will be on the line and he will take revenge on Shen Ruzhuo. Playing the pipa and leaving gracefully. At this time, Song Yinzhang truly embarked on the road to self-reliance and self-reliance.

How can girls avoid developing a "scum-absorbing physique"?

1. Establishing a stable and high self-esteem

This seems simple, but it is very easy to do. Difficult, it is a long practice. Maybe it provides a direction.

First, you need to learn to love yourself unconditionally. When everything is going well, everyone can truly love themselves. You, love the imperfect you, love the you who is often stupid, and allow yourself to grow slowly.

Secondly, look at yourself with a beauty camera, strengthen your weaknesses, weaken your shortcomings, and maintain a positive illusion to help your physical and mental health. Of course, the most important thing is to take positive actions and improve yourself. Efforts do not necessarily lead to results, it is the scenery itself.

Reading is the most cost-effective way to grow, " Proper Self-Esteem ", "Why Home Hurts People", " "Out of the Plot" are all worth reading.

2. Live your subjectivity bravely

Go for what you want, don't expect others to give it to you, neither Zhou She nor Shen Ruzhuo are very tempted. More She hoped to "marry and change her life", but in the end she was blinded by "desire" and could not see clearly whether she was a human or a ghost, putting herself in danger.

A sober person like Zhao Pan'er also hoped that after Ouyang Xu was named on the gold medal list, she would become a Jinshi lady and be proud and proud. She is as transparent as Sun Sanniang, who also expects her son to become successful and famous. She can wear a phoenix crown and harem and enjoy unlimited glory, but in the end she is slapped in the face.

Placing your hopes on others, hoping to help others become successful and take you with them, has been undesirable from ancient times to the present. Earn gold, silver and jewelry by yourself, fight for Fengguanxiapei by yourself, this is the most direct and fastest way.

3. We must learn to delay gratification

Horsepower is known by the road, and people's hearts are revealed over time. The ancients are honest and do not deceive me. Both Zhou She and Shen Ruzhuo are impatient and eager for success. Scumbags always calculate costs and try to get the maximum return with the minimum investment. Over time, the flaws will inevitably be revealed.

Everyone has shortcomings. When a man is so perfect that it makes you dizzy, either your filter is too full, or he is deliberately pretentious. The man who pushed his pregnancy off a cliff in Thailand a few years ago was a handsome, gentle and considerate perfect boyfriend during the relationship.

No matter what the situation is, time is the best litmus test. It can help you get out of the dizziness of love, allow you to objectively examine the person in front of you, and also allow you to show the true appearance of the other person.

4. Keep your psychological boundaries

Zhao Paner has also encountered unkind people, but she strictly adheres to her boundaries. During the three years of dating Yu Ouyang Xu, there were no matchmakers or six betrothals. She was always more affectionate than polite, and did not involve herself entirely. When

was passionately in love with Gu Qianfan, even if Gu Qianfan was willing to build a golden house to support her, she would not become a canary and would rather be self-reliant. She should not take advantage of the other party, nor should she lose her freedom. This is his principle.

Even though Ouyang Xu betrayed and Gu Qianfan disappeared, she wiped away her tears and became a hero again.

On the other hand, Song Yinzhang said, "I am a silkworm, and you are a tree. I am willing to support her now, and I hope you will cherish her." He ran away twice at night and devalued himself. What's even more outrageous is that under Shen Ruzhuo's sweet words, he easily gave up his principles and even went to drink and laugh with her.

If you have no psychological boundaries, you will be easily deceived and exploited, and you will never recover. You have to know what you want most, what you value most, which bottom lines cannot be crossed, and which things you will never do.