I have always thought that having a good memory is a good thing, but today I truly understand that having a good memory for a sensitive and fragile person who is not strong-willed is sometimes not a good thing. Because most of the time, anxious and depressed people are used to recalling things that made them painful in the past. Bad memories about the past will be chewed over and over again, causing them to breed more anger and pain. Only by understanding the cause and effect can you forgive from the heart. , which makes people feel better. What we lack in the face of this kind of people is dullness. Dullness here means slowness. Isn’t it interesting? We all always thought that slowness means slow reaction. Today I discovered that he has his own advantages. Let’s learn together today. The benefits we bring.
Nameless slowness is really slowness and slow reaction, but knowledgeable slowness is dullness, which is a kind of wisdom. Insensitivity allows us to face difficulties and be less sensitive and less emotional when facing setbacks. This reduces many obstacles on the road where we need enough concentration to continue moving forward and continue to train our abilities to grow ourselves.
Let’s take a look at what benefits blunt force can bring us. Blunt force has five manifestations: 1. Quickly forget unhappy things and unpleasant things. A person who is not good at forgetting may remember one thing for a lifetime. Some people have good memories, but this thing has no impact on them. But some people have good memories, and the impact of this incident on them is negative and hurtful, so some people keep torturing themselves with this incident to see if you are like this.
point 2, focus on the goal, even if you encounter failure, setbacks will continue to move forward. Many people fail not because of how difficult it is to succeed or how difficult it is to achieve their goals, but because they are too sensitive to setbacks and mentally immature, like children who have not grown up.
Point 3: Being able to face rumors and rumors calmly. What others say has little impact on you. You tell me what you are saying. I know what I am like and what I want to do. Now I admire my husband a little bit. He has already learned this in his family environment when he was a child. I always thought he was stupid before, but today I realized that this is a kind of wisdom. In fact, it is also one of the wisdom of survival. one.
Point 4 is correct. If you are jealous of those who mock you, always be grateful and grateful. Thank him for valuing you so much and caring about you so much. I really want to thank him.
Point 5: Don’t lose control of yourself in the face of praise.
From this point of view, the opposite of insensitivity is sensitivity. From childhood to adulthood, our habits and environment have created our sensitivity and insensitivity. If we are highly sensitive, we will be easily hurt and easily withdrawn. In order not to be criticized, we will become timid. We will habitually avoid difficulties and dare not innovate. I feel that I should be a person that others like rather than myself, so I have so many people-pleasing personalities. However, people with appropriate insensitivity will not be so painful when facing the same thing, and they will not care so much. Unknowingly repeating it over and over again will make them proactive and bold, and dare to innovate. The most important thing is not to get stuck in pain. Therefore, Buddhism teaches us how important and valuable it is to maintain the middle way. We must have sensitivity and insensitivity, but we must not exceed it. If it is exceeded, it will lose its original meaning.
Sometimes we should learn from children. Have we noticed that when a child does something right, praise will make him better? In the process of further doing things, he will be bolder, have more methods, and be more willing to take the initiative to create. Actively pursue progress, because when you are happy, you will work harder, because you work hard, you will grow more and become more outstanding, and because you will be praised for your outstanding performance, you will work harder. This becomes a virtuous cycle. You can imagine the consequences of living in a negative environment where we are denied all day long. A negative atmosphere makes people negative, sad, angry, resentful, and ultimately a fool, while a positive atmosphere makes people live bravely. Change yourself, don’t be afraid of difficulties, believe in yourself, create and explore your potential talents.
We all have the ability to heal ourselves. Let us cheer each other on, encourage each other, let us accumulate energy, and one day we will spread our wings toward the bright light of our dreams.
