drag syndrome family look like? Let me tell you a typical family story in the book.
Jerry 's parents never saved money, didn't care about money, and were willing to help others, which led to a tight life. The Gil family is just the opposite. Gil's father is grumpy, irritable, and nervous. He is also very stingy and keeps money in the bank without spending it.
When Jerry grew up, he started his own business and became a handsome diamond bachelor. Jill worked in the Los Angeles Public Safety Bureau, and the two fell in love at first sight. Within a few years of his marriage, Jerry owned several chain stores and was a major shareholder of a local bank. He was not stingy at all and often donated money to charities. Like his father, he enjoyed life very much.
But Jill is getting worse and worse. In the past, she used control and noise to deal with family relationships. She now suffers from severe mysophobia . Once the neatness is destroyed, she will yell at their son Bill. She scolded Jerry for every penny he spent, and her extreme diet plan seriously endangered her health.
Jerry and Jill came to see a doctor for their 36-year-old son, Bill. From the moment Bill was born, they tried their best to give the child anything possible and whatever he wanted, but Bill was still hostile to them.
One month before Bill was about to graduate from Yale University , he suddenly went to South America to live a wandering life, but he only stayed for a few months and then ran home. He seemed to suddenly have a little interest in doing business, but suddenly a year later I flew to Boston to live with a very bad woman for eight months, and then came back to work in my father's company.
Later, Bill formed a happy family with a good girl and had three children. However, he also had sex with many women who seemed to be unappetizing. He was addicted to gambling and gambled heavily.
Jerry, Jill, and Bill all have typical drag syndrome. Problems originate in first-generation families, but serious problems also arise in second- and third-generation families that, if left untreated, will affect fourth-generation children.
Drag has become a serious problem, partly because modern people’s lifestyles, attitudes and life goals have largely provided the soil for the formation of drag. Some problems have been brewing and developing for several generations, and finally exploded under the catalysis of modern life.
The following are 10 characteristics of drag disorder. Think about it, whether it seems familiar to you:
01 People with drag disorder will be driven by one or more irresistible compulsive behaviors.
02 People with drag syndrome feel trapped in their family of origin and feel pain.
03 People with drag disorder often have low self-esteem and low maturity.
04 People with drag disorder believe that their happiness depends on others.
05 People with drag disorder have an excessive sense of responsibility for others.
06 People with drag disorder show instability and lack of balance when dealing with dependence and independence. This approach greatly damages their relationships with partners, relatives and friends.
07 People with drag disorder are good at denying and suppressing.
08 People with drag disorder worry deeply about things they cannot change and do whatever they can to try to change it.
09 The bottom line is that people with drag disorder live very extreme lives.
10 People with drag disorder cannot give up their desire to constantly look for what is lacking or lost in their lives.
These ten symptoms of drag affect the daily life of drag sufferers in the following three aspects.
●Our views on family and adulthood are formed during childhood. We are bound (some experts use the word “destined”) to relive the family experiences we remember.
●In addition to replaying childhood experiences, these experiences influence most of our decisions as adults, including our perceptions of things.
●Logic and rational thinking are powerless in the face of the above two situations.
Time will not cure drag. Tomorrow will not be better, it will only be worse. Happiness and contentment are out of reach now and will only be further away tomorrow.
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