The growth of a child is a continuous and gradual dynamic process. Adolescence is an important age stage for the transition of a child to an adult. However, the physical and psychological changes of the child during this period are relatively large. Parents should let the child understand the process of adolescence and help the child to pass through After adolescence, instead of emphasizing the rebellious psychology of adolescent children, it seems that the child has not passed through puberty without rebellion. This is a kind of misleading, a kind of hypocrisy, and has a negative psychological suggestion to the child and the parent.
Adolescence is a physiological phenomenon that everyone has to face. It is not a disease, and it should not be a sick psychology.
If abnormal psychological phenomena appear, it means that parents, schools, and society have not done a good job of pre-pubertal education for their children.
1. For parents, don't be the enemy of puberty.
"Rebellion" is the awakening of self-consciousness and the challenge to authority, which must be experienced in the process of growing up.
Look at adolescence's "rebellious" psychology with a normal mind, require independence, and want to get rid of the unreasonable shackles of parents. This is growth. It shows that children have their own cognition and expression of society, family, individual, school, etc.
Understand children's rebellious psychology, and it is very normal to understand a certain degree of rebellious psychology, and it is an inevitable stage for children to grow up and become independent. If parents respect their children's independence, then this kind of rebellious psychology will be lessened. If the parents do not respect, then this kind of rebellious psychology tends to become stronger instead.
When you reach puberty, you cannot simply ask your child to be "obedient". As long as you are not "obedient", you are "rebellious" and "rebellious." This will aggravate the antagonism between the child and the parent.
Before puberty, children generally have a certain degree of dependence and worship on their parents. But after entering puberty, this kind of psychology changes, children no longer obey their parents, and parents' influence on their children is greatly reduced. Parents should be prepared for this kind of thinking and understand the positive meaning behind this kind of psychological change in their children.
puberty,Parents should be delighted and blessed when the child is about to grow up.
2. For children, "adolescence" is not a reason for "rebellion".
The emergence of adolescent "reverse" psychology is, on the one hand, psychological changes due to physical changes, and on the other hand, due to parental discipline. Adolescence is also a "transitional period." Children have an increasing sense of independence and self-awareness, and they are eager to get rid of adult supervision. They oppose adults to treat themselves as "children" and tend to be critical of everything (rebellious psychology) in order to show that they are "grown up". If you are in a youthful rebellious period, be calm during the attack and think about whether other people's words are reasonable. This can reduce temper tantrums and help you grow.
1. Don't directly conflict with your parents, and slowly do things independently, especially those approved by your parents, so that your parents feel that you can do well by yourself.
2. Tell your parents that when you grow up, you will eventually leave them one day and live your own independent life. What you need is independence. They can't worry about you for a lifetime.
3. Adjust your mentality. Parents do this, which is also love for their children. In any case, you must first express and accept your parents' love for you. In this way, confrontation can be avoided.
Excessive "rebellious psychology" is a negative product of adolescence, and it should not be overstated or exaggerated. There will always be various changes in the course of life. Maintaining a sunny mental state is beneficial to one's life.
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