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"The more you show off, the more you lack." What a person frequently shows is what he lacks. In inherent cognition, we only Pay attention to what a person shares in the circle of friends, in order to evaluate his personality to a certain extent.
's inherent thinking and cognition, let us always get to know a person in a one-sided way.
Few people care about the dynamics that others have not posted, but those that have never been shown to the outside world are what a person has never had. To a large extent, people’s bragging behavior comes from touching Between touching and truly possessing, maybe he has touched this thing, but he doesn't really own it, so he can only show off with the evidence of touching .
In fact, the dynamics that a person's circle of friends have never posted before are what he really looks like and what he really lacks. Whether it is showing affection or showing travel, showing children, and showing food, it is all based on their existence.
If you have nothing to do with yourself, no one will believe it when you show it off. As the saying goes, “Look at other people’s circle of friends and look at it from the other side, and see that he has never posted it. Things.”
The characteristics of the circle of friends have given countless people a brand new platform to interpret the exquisite life they want.
Swiss psychologist Carl Jung proposed the Personality Mask Theory,It means that when individuals are in a group, they will subconsciously hide their true psychology or needs, and use this method to better adapt to the environment.
Jung compares the different states of people in different situations as a kind of personality. The process of covering up the true needs of this personality is the process of putting a mask on the personality.
The same person will have multiple personality masks. The use of personality masks is also to better adapt to the environment. The unique anonymity and indirectness of the circle of friends adds more space to the use of personality masks.
So the circle of friends has become the best choice for countless people to establish their image and personality. In the circle of friends, no one can see through their elaborate dress.
The existence of the circle of friends meets the needs of some people to establish an image, and meets the realization of some people's need for respect. In this online world, they rely on their exquisite life to win the appreciation and recognition of countless people.
As long as they grasp a more prominent point, they will try their best to show their superiority to outsiders, so as to make up for the vacancy in their ordinary life.
I think many people have thought about this question. Why do some people never post to Moments?
Many people will have a lot of misunderstandings about them. For example, this person has a personality problem. For example, this person has a high profile personality and is not worthy of deep friendship. People who have never revealed the dynamics of the circle of friends will always be guessed by countless people. Why In this socialized society, some people never share their emotions.
Actually,The lives they have never shared are all plain, and they have no mood and life worth sharing, so they have also lost the desire to make friends.
A person who has never traveled will not share his travels in the circle of friends, and a person who has no objects will not share the daily life with his partner in the circle of friends, and so on, what a person really does not have even shows off The capital is lacking.
When looking at a person’s circle of friends, look at what he hasn’t posted, not what he is desperately showing. Those things may be what he really owns, maybe it’s showing off, even if it’s showing off. To the side.
The dynamics that a person has never posted are just things that he has never touched in his life, so he cannot show them.
The essence of any show off is an over-exaggeration behavior. A person with a small amount of money can show off his wealth. Only on the basis of existence can one be able to exaggerate the things one has touched to win Recognition and respect from others.
The thing that a person really lacks is that they can’t be shown in public to share, because there will always be people in the circle of friends who have really contacted him in real life, so any sharing is Most of the authenticity and credibility.
To a large extent, human nature is born toward the sun. People will automatically approach the light, and spontaneously stay away from negative and gloomy things. Therefore, most people share positive things in life in their circle of friends. bright side.
In such an online world that records life, you will find that most people who share the dynamics of daily life, most of them are not bad in real life, no one holds a weapon on his neck to force him to share Life,Sharing life is a pleasant, spontaneous thing most of the time.
For them, Moments is a place to record their lives, and it is also a proof of their love of life. Their lives are rich enough, so they also have material to post to Moments.
Let’s take a look at those three-point-one-line office workers. Most of their lives are dull and repetitive. They have no joy to share or beauty to capture, so they disappeared in the circle of friends.
From their circle of friends, you can also find that they may be mature, stable, and may become quieter. They rarely share life, and life is really not too much. It's worth sharing.
They may have a plain life, or they may have a busy life. In short, Moments are no longer where they share their lives. They may share other dynamics.
How a person lives, in fact, you can’t look at the life he shares, but what he has never shared before. Just like a personality mask, everyone sees every bit of what he wants. What people see is the same in Moments of Friends.
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Author | Magic Little
Edit | Lu Yu
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References: Moreland, R; Beach, S . (1992). Exposure effects in the classroom: The development of affinity among students. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology Volume 28, Issue 3, May 1992, Pages 255-276.
